My daughter is a very beautiful, outgoing 17yr old teenager.
We lived in apts last summer with a pool. She was at the pool one day and a brother from our KH was there with his 3 sons. He is about 38, divorced and DF. My daughter does not know that he is DF. Although she is not baptised she would respect and be cautious with a DF person. He talks and talks to her for a long time. She talks with him being respectful, brother from the hall, older brother. It was awkward, but by the time the conversation ended he had her cell phone number.
He called her many times and invited her to go to his apt when he was in town, and invited her to go to a bar. She said........Do you have any idea how old I am? my mother would never let me go there. Anyway, she was late coming home (about an hour) and I had her cell phone. I went through the recent calls and called his number not knowing it was him, thats how I found this all out. btw. she was not with him..........but he was the last call on the phone.
Anyway, to make a long story short. My daughter fineally told me about what was going on. Some days he would call like 8 times a day leaving messages. She was just trying to deal with herself.
I told a friend of mine at the hall. This is when I found out why he was DF. For recently molesting a teenager from our KH. I was furoius that I never knew. BUT, the clencher was, the DF son is an elders son at my hall, and he(the elder) knew he was calling my daughter. Now, why would he not alert me what was going on for the safety of my daughter? knowing this about his son??? His son told him that my daughter was calling him. HELLO!!!! either way......I should have been alerted.
The son did again try to call my daughter and was threatened that if he ever called again the police would be involved.
I talked to another elder about this and he warned us to be careful when we answered the door, that he felt this man had tendencies towards being that forceful. He asked me to confront the elder of the DF son, but I never did. I wondered why the elder would not take care of it himself.
We have moved, have not changed congos.......My daughter only went to two meetings after the incident. I never made her go back. I was putting alot of things together by then about the org.
There is a time when the privacy of what a person is DF for I respect, but when it is for something that endangers someone in this way I feel it should have been public. No one that commits a crime in the world gets this done privately.
This man is a predetor and now that I am typing this out I am mad I never reported it to the authorities.
I share this only to raise awareness. Keep an open communication with your children and do not make them feel as they have done anything wrong. This could have ended very differently.
The girl he molested from the hall is an elders niece. I do not know if anything was done to alert the authorities. The more I type this the more I see how screwed up the whole thing is.
sorry for going on.
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I did not post this for personal responses. We are ok.....we are getting out.