I am very sensitive to this matter. So please excuse me if I sound angry.
This exact thing happen to me with my 2nd husband, who by the way was an elder in the congregation. (Except he was beating me)
After going throught the local elders, calling my brother (who was an elder in another state), I contacted the HQ- Headquarters
of New York City and reported the incident to them.
When you contact the HQ, you need to tell the operator who takes the call to be connected to an elder.
The elder will ask you specific questions. Do not tell him that you are NOT a JW. Just explain that you would like to stay
anonymous.
The congregation will be notified of this incident and the local elders WILL HAVE to take action. (Because you reported to HQ)
Trust me! The outcome will not pretty for the husband!
Dee
PS: My husband continued to hit me after they removed him from being an elder. So I took things into my own hands and beat the shit of him with a peice of wood. I told him, 'don't you ever hit me again, or don't go to sleep at nights.' He left that night and I never stepped foot into a kingdom hall since.