Posts by LongHairGal

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Things you can not say in "field service" anymore.

by greenhornet in

jw
friends

many years ago we would be on someone's doorstep, when waiting for the house holder to come to the door we say something like ... yea after the big a this is going to be my house.

imagine saying that today with the common use of doorbell cameras and the squatting problem .

LongHairGal

DAGNEY:

Nice to see you as well.

Just when I thought I was going to slow down posting - all these new changes in the Witness religion came out.. How could I not comment? That one change about no longer submitting a FS time report affected me personally as I was judged over working full-time. Glad I never listened.

The religion cannot ever be forgiven for engendering hateful attitudes and class distinctions.. Regarding the unkind remarks of JWs we worked with out in service commenting on people’s affluence, all they learned was judgmentalism and hate so this is the fruitage of it.

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Things you can not say in "field service" anymore.

by greenhornet in

jw
friends

many years ago we would be on someone's doorstep, when waiting for the house holder to come to the door we say something like ... yea after the big a this is going to be my house.

imagine saying that today with the common use of doorbell cameras and the squatting problem .

LongHairGal

BALAAMSASS2:

I also remember hearing that presumptuously stupid statement about ‘getting somebody’s home or property’ after Armageddon. It’s nice to know some moron Witness who was overheard got told off by a resident.

I recall a time I went door to door with a sister. It was an affluent neighborhood. Not millionaire row but above-average. I mentioned how lovely, etc. and the sister said: “they are having their reward in full”.

In my heart I disagreed with her and felt that just because some do well and have nice things, doesn’t mean they deserve to be punished for it. I never begrudged anybody who was well-off or who had more than I did. In my opinion, too many Witnesses were like this… They pioneered and did without and it seemed they hated others who didn’t.

I wondered if they were having their ‘reward in full’ looking down on others with their shunning and secret gatherings!

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Who is Charles Sunutko?

by VM44 in

in the spring of 1967 district overseer charles sunutko gave in sheboygan, wisconsin, the talk, "serving with everlasting life in view"

a recording of that talk is available on the internet at several places, easily found by a google search.. but who is (was?

) charles sunutko?.

LongHairGal

THOMAS MORE:

Yes, I ignored them but I paid the ‘price’ of being shunned and not invited much! I was pretty much ‘panned’ as they would say.. I was hated for not following the crowd. I remember a naive sister once saying I ‘should get with the program’. I’d be in bad shape today if I got with their program!🙄 Maybe my non-Witness upbringing saved me and I remembered some wise things my Dad said.

Maybe a few of the elderly took ‘pity’ on me and invited me once in a while, and that was nice of them.

I am sorry for any Witnesses who pioneered back then and didn’t plan who finally wake up. What are they supposed to do??? . I’m sure in hindsight they would have planned differently. They’d trade those worthless dinners/gatherings in a heartbeat - and instead would have paid into SS and had a 401K! ..I wish them luck and hope they get some satisfaction or justice, etc.

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Advice on fade?

by NotNorwich in

jw
friends

hello, i’ve just joined here and am hoping for some advice.

i was baptised a long time ago but left soon after (da).. i recently returned and have a bible study.

was reinstated about a year ago.

LongHairGal

NOTNORWICH:

To do a ‘Fade’ from the JW religion you must plan ahead.

First thing, of course, is keep QUIET.. Say nothing to anybody and never discuss doctrines.. YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME.. Act as normal as you possibly can around these people and spend as little time as possible.

For starters, some must establish contacts outside the religion (job, housing) if they don’t already have.. Everybody’s situation is different, and it might be harder for some JWs than others depending on how much privacy someone actually has. Also, if somebody works for Witnesses they must be VERY careful.

In my case, I was not raised a Witness and worked full-time and lived on my own. So I already had my contacts outside the religion. Thankfully, I didn’t let Witnesses invade my privacy.. I always resisted their intrusiveness and that was wise because I could not have foreseen that I would need to run away from them!!

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Disaster preparedness

by ElderBerry in

as your family considers its disaster preparedness plan, please ensure that the secretary has up-to-date contact information for you and your emergency contact.

also, we have re- peatedly seen good results when brothers and sisters are prepared with go bags and are ready to obey direction when they face various kinds of disasters.

please be sure you have a go bag, and review its contents at least once a year.

LongHairGal

BETH SARIM:

I was puzzled when I read a while back they were asking for names and phone numbers of JW’s relatives.. What if these relatives are being shunned by the JW?

BALAAMSASS2:

With regard to these Go-Bags: I remember asking a JW former friend just where they were going to? Of course I got no answer. What I do wonder is - if some JWs are expecting some miracle or supernatural event to occur.. Like maybe an Exodus.2 ?

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Prediction: no more changes for a long while

by slimboyfat in

i’ve noticed a pattern where things don’t go the way i expect them to go and/or whenever i realise there is a trend and, i mentally adjust for the idea that the trend will continue, the trend stops in its tracks.

so on that basis, and given many people, including myself, and active jws, have been asking ‘what changes will the governing body make next?’ perhaps the (disappointing) answer is: ‘nothing much for a while to come’.

maybe they’ve made the changes they want for now, and will wait a while and see how it’s received.

LongHairGal

DAGNEY:

Interesting times for sure. But, I’m Glad I’m long Out and watching this only as a spectator!

I also agree the JW religion has long range plans! I think it’s just a question of when would be the correct moment for them to reveal these things.. Right now I think they are watching the dust settle on the recent shocking changes they already made to determine the attitudes and whatever in the congregations!

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Update changes well received

by Gorb in

jw
friends

a few weeks later, the witness that i speak, family and friends are very happy with the recent changes .. no one mentions the df aproach change, fieldservice report and free entrance to the paradise for non jw.. only the clothing style and beard are mentioned.. the sisters are all in a halaluja happy modes.

they are feeling being respected and heard by the lovely leadership.. one brother told me he will never grow a beard because he lost his elder status in the early 90's because of his beard.

now it's allowed i will not grow a beard he sweared.. it seems jw.org has down a great change job.

LongHairGal

GORB:

I don’t blame that brother. I’d tell them to shove their new beard rule… But, it seems this brother isn’t going anywhere and nothing else changed for him. As you mention, the sisters seem to be happy with the changes.

Maybe as time goes by and everything sinks in, some thinking Witnesses here and there will leave.. But, I seriously doubt many will go back to the JWs unless it’s to have contact with relatives who are shunning them.

But, who can guarantee that their hopes to reconcile will even be successful in the end? We have read of reinstated people who still feel treated badly! They might just end up leaving the religion yet again!

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SCHEMING TO END YOUR MARRIAGE NOW AS BAD AS APOSTASY

by raymond frantz in

https://youtu.be/-yvykw37rzo?si=vwokohrdq2b53fmh.

by now, it should be painfully obvious that we live in a post tonny morris era where the floods of organizational changes have become possible and a new version of the religion, some have called it warchtower 2.0 is emerging with a soft approach to disfellowshipping practices across the board for all those sinners.

nevertheless 3 groups of people will still be targeted for harsh excommunication, we know the first two well :csa perpetrators and apostates.

LongHairGal

RAYMOND FRANTZ:

What you say makes perfect sense: the bottom line is that divorce in the JW religion hurts their bottom line. Certain people (usually the ‘wronged’ partner) feel so uncomfortable that they leave.

Several decades ago it seemed that there was a rash of this going on. Man cheats on wife, gets disfellowshipped. Comes back with the new wife (usually younger and prettier) who may or may not have been from the same congregation.. Then you see them raising their hands commenting. All is well or so it seemed.

That seemed to be the recipe of how you do it in JW land.. But, I guess this was not liked by the religion because it became too common. People switched congregations and maybe left the religion altogether. Not a good thing for the religion.

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Who is Charles Sunutko?

by VM44 in

in the spring of 1967 district overseer charles sunutko gave in sheboygan, wisconsin, the talk, "serving with everlasting life in view"

a recording of that talk is available on the internet at several places, easily found by a google search.. but who is (was?

) charles sunutko?.

LongHairGal

I did a Google of the name Charles Sinutko.

I just listened to his famous talk about “Staying Alive Until ‘75’. Even though I came into the Witness religion after 1975, I remember some of that similar language in his talk coming from certain older JWs in the congregation at the time.

I remember hearing: ‘exert yourself vigorously’ and the admonition that if you ‘weren’t out doing all you can’ - you ‘wouldn’t make it’, and that ‘door would be closed’.. I was certainly viewed as being screwed because I had a full-time job!

But, I wonder what he would have to say now about the religion removing its requirement to count time and turn in a slip?

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Open letter to all JWs

by EdLogan in

jw
friends

it is useless for you to contact me, i already know that according to the new update of the governing body, you can contact me.. but the problem is... you can only invite me to meetings, and at most say "hello" once i'm there.. i already know.. so, if you really want to know how i'm doing, even if it's irrelevant for the purposes of this contact, i'll tell you.. i am not well.

i'm depressed and full of psychotropic drugs.

of course, being isolated from everyone i knew and loved didn't help.. here's how i am.. and for a thousand reasons, there is no question of becoming an "associate" in the congregation again.. ergo, it's useless.. there's no point in contacting me, because that's the only goal.. it's not out of a rush of love.

LongHairGal

ED LOGAN:

I never received any such letter and I’m Glad. Of course, I’m a long-time ‘Fader’ and not DF’d (unless they do such things without you knowing it). 🤣

I know of someone who received such a communication from an old friend.. They got a printed tract invitation of the JW religion’s memorial celebration along with an impersonal note telling them where in their city it would be held.. This person has happily moved on with their life and is debating whether or not they should reply.

If I had received such a letter, I would reply:

“Dear So-and-So, I received your note and invitation to the memorial. While it is nice to hear from you, I am afraid the ONLY reason you reached out was because the religion gave you ‘permission’ because they are trying to attract people back into the religion. This is pathetic and unacceptable to me. Does the religion believe people are stupid?

I only wish your sentiment was true friendship and not forced with an agenda to get people back in seats at the hall.. If, at any time, you desire real friendship with nobody forcing you or suggesting you get in touch with me, I would always welcome it. Sincerely,..”