Hey Shawn, don't know if you've taken your break yet or what...but, if you're still reading I'll share my brief story with you.
I have been in your situation before. However, I was in your friend's position, so I have a good idea what's going through her mind. I was doing a "bible study" with the witnesses. My girlfriend was opposed. I began to view her with suspicion, I thought that she was from Satan and that she was trying to lead me astray from the truth. Eventually, she got sick of my association with them...she gave me an ultimatum...choose the witnesses or choose her.
I chose the witnesses and she told me that we were finished. Now, what comes next may surprise you.
At first I thought this was great...no opposition...I thought I was doing the right thing, abiding by jehovah, etc,etc. However, after a few weeks I really began to miss her. I really loved her and it began to hurt not being able to associate with her. I started to question the "truth". How could a loving God and a loving religion not allow me to be with the girl I loved? It seemed wrong.
I decided I would meet with her again, maybe to convert her into the truth, but most of all just to be with her again. She was obviously less affectionate when we met again. In fact, the less affectionate she was...the more I wanted her back. I loved her and it wasn't up to anyone else to stop me from seeing her. I kept meeting her, she always let me know she still loved me but she never lost her nerve and always stuck to her guns that we couldn't be together as long as I was with the witnesses.
Now, I started to question the JW's. It didn't feel right. God wouldn't want this, for me to be without my girl... would he???
I started to fade from the "truth". The more I faded, the more my girl accepted me back...I was being rewarded for leaving the witnesses. The JW's never rewarded me for leaving my girlfriend, I never felt right about that.. Within a short while we were back together. My faith in the witnesses had crumbled. My eyes had been opened, I questioned everything and anything about the JW's and their isolationist stance concerning non-witnesses. This was the first crack in my faith. So, I guess the point I'm making is that if my girlfriend hadn't been so strong and cut off contact, things wouldn't have worked out.
If she had kept the contact going when I was with the JW's, I would have continued to view her with suspicion, and that she was a test from Satan to dissuade me from the truth. When she cut off contact it confused me. I thought...How can she be a test from Satan to unconvert me when she wasn't around to even speak to me. She had moved on with her life and left me behind and this is what made me think.
I'm not saying this will 100% definitely work for you, but I think it's worth bearing in mind. If my girl had not cut contact and just kept coming at me and coming at me...over and over again, then I would have pushed her away over and over again. When she cut contact she broke the cycle. The mind control of the JW's lost it's effectiveness. The JW's tried to rationalise it by saying the "truth" divides people and families...but I didn't buy their bullshit because I had lost the one thing that was more important than the JW's...her.
So, to summarise. If your friend is a true friend then the mind control will not work if you use this tactic. If she is anything less than a true friend...you're chances are extremely slim no matter what you do. Just remember that you have options open to you. Don't give up hope...but don't be afraid to move on in your life without her, neither. This may be the key that will ultimately save her. Good luck with whatever you do and I hope it works out for you, man I really do.
