Nellie

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  Are there any post JW dating sites around?

  by Nellie in

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  a computerphobic friend of mine (seriously) wants me to sign her up on a few dating sites.

  she's inactive and not interested in going back, but imo would benefit from being with someone who understood the whole "borg" thing.

  is there such a thing?.

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  I created an email account for her and she plans to visit so that she can check her responses.
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  interesting encounter while I was out celebrating this weekend

  by troubled mind in

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  we celebrated my birthday a weekend early .

  we went to dinner with family and friends and then out to a couple of bars for dancing and drinking .

  at the last place we went the table behind us was having a birthday celebration too .

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  And that's why so many of us shy away from any form of organized religion . . .
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  Reluctant to tell others of JW past?

  by happpyexjw in

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  has anyone felt uncomfortable telling others that they were once jws?

  i have shared this info with very few people in the 19 years since i left.

  i don't want to have to explain to someone who wouldn't understand anyway.

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  I've found that sharing with others that I "used to be" a witness explains a lot about who I am to them. I don't look at it any differently than saying to someone "I used to live in NY." Making friends with new people is all about sharing your life's experiences. Just a few weeks ago a friend told me she had a hard time imagining me as a witness because I come across as so liberal. I laughed and said, that's probably how the people in the congregation saw me too! I guess that's why I'm not one anymore. I am not an apologists - I don't mind saying what's wrong with the organization - but it also allows me to answer questions about what motivates the r&f. Too bad I can't count the time! LOL
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  Are there any post JW dating sites around?

  by Nellie in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  a computerphobic friend of mine (seriously) wants me to sign her up on a few dating sites.

  she's inactive and not interested in going back, but imo would benefit from being with someone who understood the whole "borg" thing.

  is there such a thing?.

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  A computerphobic friend of mine (seriously) wants me to sign her up on a few dating sites. She's inactive and not interested in going back, but IMO would benefit from being with someone who understood the whole "borg" thing. Is there such a thing?
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  Why do they never invite you for a meal but always encourage you to attend meetings?

  by truthseeker in

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  today, an elder in my hall phoned and left a message saying he would stop by with a memorial invitation.. this elder has never bothered to encourage me in the past when i was missing meetings, yet suddenly he remembers me in the run up to the memorial.. i got to thinking about this - a few in our congregation called us when they found out we were inactive, encouraging us to go back to meetings.

  or they would say, "it's the co visit next week, you have to come listen to his talk.".

  i would give these "genuine ones" their due - they made an effort - but, when i think about it what effort have they actually made?.

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  No one else in my house was a witness while I was growing up - biblically speaking, I was a spiritual orphan - I remember complaining to an elder once when I was about 17 that other than my personal teenage friends in the congregation, NO ONE had ever invited me over for a meal. He told me that it was always his intention to do that. I looked him square in the face and told him that if that was what he wanted to do that he had had 4 years to do it and should have found the time to do it by then. Post script - he never invited me - even after that!

  So much for caring for widows and orphans.
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  Do Black people do sunbathing?

  by asilentone in

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  just wondering..

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  Hey SilentOne - kinda makes you wish you didn't "wonder" out loud about this one, huh? LOL Anyway, the direct answer to your question is some do and some don't. It comes down to a matter of personal choice. My mother hated lying out in the sun, but my sister loves it and cherishes her tan as much (or more) than some of my white friends. Personally, I tan as a side-effect of being outside - not because I lay out and work at it. As a kid, I loved watching my light mocha color deepen into a caramel brown!

  As a side note, although we are less likely to burn than our white friends, it appears that if a black person ever burns once, then they are more likely to burn in the future. (I had a similar burn experience as MochaLatte - a 24 hour boat trip!) Now, I literally feel my skin heating up and begin the burn, and I never felt that before the boat trip.
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  How does shunning work?

  by tympan in

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  can someone who knows please explain the nuts and bolts of shunning.

  i've never been df'd but half of my family has no contact with me at all.

  my sister even refused to answer the door when i called around once (only did it once).

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  Actually, if you're not DA'd or DF'd, then it appears that your sister (and possibly others) have chosen to "mark" you. Marking is not done by the congregation, but rather is left up to the individual consciences of the members. If someone believes that you hare not good association, then they individually, they can choose to "mark" you and begin to shun you. Like Viva pointed out, this usually spreads like wildfire through the congregation and before you know it, you're on the outs with most of them!

  Can't you feel the love?
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  Going out with a bang

  by LittleToe in

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  after much deliberation, i decided to go "out" at the end of a public talk.

  it didn't go down too well, but at least i was able to give some of my reasons for leaving.. i've put some of the details on my homepage.

  i'll update it more when i get the time and the strength.

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  So truthfully I read the first 4 pages of this thread, then went to the LT's website, then the last 2 pages of the thread! WOW. So worth a BTT. If you haven't heard this, enjoy!

  The link can be found on his bio page!
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  He's a real wacko.............right?.............RIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!

  by Warlock in

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  http://www.davidicke.com/content/view/21125.

  warlock .

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  Anyone care to really comment about this????
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  Newbie *waves*

  by Phee in

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  hiya.... .

  i've been lurking here for over a year...(on the old forum and then this one)...i also post on several other forums.... got a long story, but i won't go into that right now.. some of you know me from the other sites, just figured this was a natural progression into apostahood to register here.

  see ya'll 'round!.

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  Nellie

  Wow Phee! My heart hurts for what you've been through. Congratulations on surviving ... first the ordeal, then your departure from the organization that made it possible. I understand your reluctance to look for the truth behind it all, and I'm glad you found it.

  Hugs - ((((Nelly))))