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Dating a JW info

by Lady Lee in

other than telling a person to run:what do you think a person (who knows nothing about the jws) needs to know if they are getting involved with a jw.what would be helpful to them to end things before they get further involved?what will help them if they decide to go further and marry this jw?what challenges would a non-jw woman have if she gets involved with the jw man?what about having children and the struggles that will develop from that?.

if you think of anything else that would be halpful please add it to the thread.

i would like to have a lot of this info in one thread besides some of the great "dating a jw" threads we already have in the best of section.

sass_my_frass

I have been dating a JW for almost 2 months now and let me say that I think my story is quite different from everyone else.

Not really.

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lack of repentance is the ONLY ground for disfellowshipping.... really?

by inkling in

ok, so whenever i would question the justice of the df policy, i kept.

getting the same line (even from my dad, an elder):.

people are not disfellowshipped because of the actual sin, they are.

sass_my_frass

If your elders think you're really sorry, you won't get disfellowshipped the first time, unless they don't like you when they get to play the 'leaven' card. If there's a second time, apparently you were never really sorry, so you get the chop.

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JW's Raised In - Did you get bullied during you Grade School Years?

by BBOARD in

due to the way i was raised a jw i constantly felt guilt for trying to act like the other guys and it made me stand out even worse.

to this day, due to this, i nowdays become somewhat physically ill whenever i hear a brother give a talk where he says (many here have heard it in different forms) "if jehovah was looking at you youths in the congregation during school could he tell the difference between you and a worldy person.

" myself and most of the other jw guys during middle school and high school did not have the confidence or the "rough and ready to fight" type of body language so we tended to get picked on.

sass_my_frass

You cracked me up with this:

BUT WHY SHOULD THEY IF THEY DON’T WANT TO AND YOU KNOW WHAT THEY DON’T HAVE TO - AND GUESS WHAT THEY WOULD BE RIGHT NOT TO!

... because so many times I nearly lost it and showed my hand. It became actually physically sickening to have to swallow all my words so they'd form a bitter little ball. A lot of the time I would reply with an over-enthusiastic 'Yeah!!!!!!' This confused them - I got it to a point where they couldn't work out whether or not I was serious, and it would shut them up. But I think, a bit too much of that and a lot of people worked me out.

Your life, one day, is going to be so fantastic that you won't even remember all this. Hang in there.

Oh and welcome!

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Going on a beer run, get anybody anything?

by AlmostAtheist in

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friends

i'm going to dash over to bp and grab a six-pack, maybe some beef jerky.

you guys need anything?

dave

sass_my_frass

If you're done with all that I've made margaritas, come on over.

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part II - my JW boyfriend wants reinstatement. What do i do

by un_girl_ch in

i posted this at the end of worldlygirl's question, but i think it got bared into so many posts...

hi there, i am pretty much in the same situation here as the worldly girl(minus the children).

my boyfriend is an ex jw his ex wife cheated on him they divorced.

sass_my_frass

Why would you meet with the elders? What power do they have over you?

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Crap... Elders coming over tonight for a pep talk

by still_in74 in

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well its finally here........ the day i get the pep talk.. considering i havent been out in service for 6 months and i never comment because i cant parrot the wt, and i havent been to the book study in 2 months cause the revelation book makes me nausious........ (that why no more revelation weekly reviews --- sorry oompa!

yet when i talk with bro's and sis's i seem to be the one in the know, i am the one that knows what is going on in the org and am up on the "new light".

i am "so smart".

sass_my_frass

Be polite, humble, grateful for their concern. Don't ask anything, don't say anything. Prepare for the following possibilities:

- the question "Do you believe that Jehovah is operating through the Faithful and Discreet Slave class?" - Practice saying "Of course!" or whatever in the mirror a few times until you get it right. There's no point raising their alarm.
- the probability that they will encourage you to take on additional 'priviliges'. Thank them for their consideration, you are humbled to be considered, etc. Then be an irregular publisher - don't put in a report slip every few months. They can't give you 'privileges' if you're not playing the game. Tell them that yes, you know that you have to make more effort.

Wear jeans or shorts. Have music playing, have a beer in your hand when they get there and offer them one. Go out to shift the car or deal with the dog or start the VCR or do something with the washing machine, etc, if you need to break the conversation at any point.

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Oil Nears $100/Barrel--What Do You Make of It?

by owenfieldreams in

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http://apnews.myway.com/article/20071101/d8skq1po0.html.

looks like we here in the good ole us of a may be paying $3.50/ gallon when spring hits next year, if this trend continues.

china's predominantly state-owned oil company surpassed exxon today in market value, and they are currently drilling not far off the coast of florida(by way of cuba).

sass_my_frass

Think bicycle.

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Reasons why I wouldn't get a KM while I was still a dub??

by noni1974 in

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i never got my km.not when i was a unbaptized publisher ,not after i got baptized.i always wondered why.the rest of my family got theirs but not me.someone would usually hand me one durring the service meeting but i never got one from my bookstudy conductor.. could it be the i rarely went to the book study?

?could it be that i never went in service??

i counted a few hours every month but i never met with the group.. .

sass_my_frass

It was a privilege bub. Just like cleaning the toilets.

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Dating a JW info

by Lady Lee in

other than telling a person to run:what do you think a person (who knows nothing about the jws) needs to know if they are getting involved with a jw.what would be helpful to them to end things before they get further involved?what will help them if they decide to go further and marry this jw?what challenges would a non-jw woman have if she gets involved with the jw man?what about having children and the struggles that will develop from that?.

if you think of anything else that would be halpful please add it to the thread.

i would like to have a lot of this info in one thread besides some of the great "dating a jw" threads we already have in the best of section.

sass_my_frass

Priorities: can you handle not being No 1 in their life? If they remain a witness, you will never be as important to them as Jehovah, the organisation, the congregation, the rules, the family, the assemblies and meetings, the field service. You will always be the one holding them back.

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Stockpiling Food Where Does One Start?

by uwishufish in

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any ideas or sugestions .

all comments welcomed pro or con.

sass_my_frass

I spent a lifetime thinking that we really should be preparing for the great tribulation so I'm very much anti-survivalist now, but it's a good idea to keep a small stock in case of flood, earthquake, etc. We do that anyway, we just like to have a good supply of canned and dried food on hand. I think I should have a lot more water in the suburban house though.

Keeping your freezer full would only be good for three days when the power goes out.

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