sass_my_frass
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My story: "Pop!" goes the Little Circuit Breaker
by TJ - iAmCleared2Land ini guess it's about time i write my story.
i've put this off for a long time... primarily becuase, while i thought my story was bad, i've read so many worse and heart-rending stories here.
i think, though, there is some therapeutic value in 'letting it all out' with others who know what 'it' was like.
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My wife says "They miss you at the Hall"
by OnTheWayOut inshe comes home with "sis.
curious says she misses you.".
"tell her i am right here, a phone call away.".
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sass_my_frass
I kept my reaction to the statment '___ asked about you' to the softer approach - 'Ah bless him' or 'Good on him!'. My flatmates were ultrasensitive to aggression, and our relationship didn't need that, and it achieved nothing anyway. I wanted to focus on the bigger things, (they just didn't come up in time).
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My wife says "They miss you at the Hall"
by OnTheWayOut inshe comes home with "sis.
curious says she misses you.".
"tell her i am right here, a phone call away.".
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sass_my_frass
Let's see, four years ago I was sharing an apartment with two other single sisters. They were your typical JW and I had been edging out for years. The first year I was with them I was in a new town so I was going to the meetings and had a lot of JWs to hang out with, but three years later I was over it, secretly engaged and trying to work out how to get my life started without ending it, you know what I mean. So, in my last months there one of my flatmates would be asked that every time she went to the meeting and she eventually started answering with 'here's her number, call her and ask her yourself'. I imagine that took a lot of people by surprise. Eventually one lady did actually care enough to do so, we chatted for a while, I couldn't really say anything important and knew by then not to think that anybody can actually be trusted with what was bothering me, so I just told her I'm doing really well and am very happy, thanks for calling etc. It was nice to get just that one call.
It's good that you're making your wife be realistic about it.
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Do you shun Jw's now?
by AK - Jeff ini have gone thru phases with this.
i sometimes have forced jw's who shun me to speak, or be embarrassed if they don't.
then i let up on that as the hurting lessened over time.
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sass_my_frass
I'm finding myself thinking exactly the same thing. Early on the hurt was so acidic and painful that I've come to realise that I don't want anything at all to do with people who could treat my husband and I that way. They're not likable people. They're rude, shallow, manipulative, deluded, brutal, and pretty boring actually. Yes I know why they're all of those things, but that doesn't excuse their behaviour. It's great not wanting them back anymore.
I think I'm starting to actively dislike them and I know that's not good for me. I want to let it go, but my problem is forgiveness. I am finding it hard to forgive people who will never acknowledge what they've done wrong. I have to work on that.
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ten pounds in ten weeks week one
by Hortensia inhaven't read the posts on the other thread yet - will do so asap.
in the meantime, had a long day myself, did not got for a walk, worked nine hours without a break!
busy day, had breakfast, only a yogurt for lunch, was glad to come home and have a bowl of cereal.
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sass_my_frass
Ah the imperial system. How quaint!
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Anyone still have trouble expressing anger?
by tall penguin inhaving been doubly mind-f*&ked by an organization that preaches peace and poor boundaries and a perfectionistic mother who hates conflict, i find myself still having great difficulty expressing my anger in a healthy way.
my past response when angry was to cry or turn the anger on myself and become self-destructive, ultimately leading to suicidal thoughts.
i find lately my subconscious percolating anger almost constantly.
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sass_my_frass
I think I let things simmer a lot and take it out on my dear hubby, just being moody and not talking about anything when I'm down. He's encouraging me to take up some creative hobbies. He especially likes the idea of glass art - hot environment, lots of big heavy tools. I think he wants me to direct my emotions into something creative! He's a goddammn genius.
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Hello all.....................
by BLISSISIGNORANCE in.............it's been ages.
i thought i'ld drop in and see who was still around from the old school and how many newbies are here.
good to see people are still leaving the wts.
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sass_my_frass
HELLO sweetness! Time for a bbq hey?
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hard to find "in" relationship while inactive
by believerNYCgirl ini was out of the truth and in a relationship for 4 years.
i didn't go to the meetings at all, my bf lived with me, and we celebrated holidays.
i never stopped believing the truth.
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sass_my_frass
Good luck with that one. Obviously you already know that everything is about you.
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So I did the unthinkable
by veen ini decided enough was enough and had a no holds barred conversation with a room of around a dozen 'believers'.
a number of things had been troubling me all night, but the final straw was when my brother-in-law said 'isn't it funny how the acronym std can stand for both, sexually transmitted disease and satan the devil.'.
i couldn't stand the frustration anymore so i pointed out how irrelevant that fact was, and how if we spoke a different language the same conclusion could probably not be made.
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sass_my_frass
In Australia, STD also stands for Subscriber Trunk Dialling - long-distance phone calls. Who invented calling your mum? Was that Jehovah or Satan? Not Alexander Bell then?
In time you'll meet people whose intellect you can respect, and you won't care about losing the nuffnuffs.
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Elders want me to come back
by freedomfighter inhad a serious talk with my jw wife 2 nights ago.
told her i would not be coming back into "the truth" .
she was rocked and asked why.
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sass_my_frass
Hang in there bro.