Yeah absolutely, my parents are two of them, and all their friends. It's sad for them, but the end of the equation is, they're adults, they have thinking capacity, and they made their own choices. I'm out, I'm chronically happy, and so glad I won't become them.
sass_my_frass
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How Suicide Will Increase Among Jehovah's Witnesses
by metatron ini'm not a psychologist but a little logic tells you that somethings got to give.. i see too many witnesses who are falling into the "escalating commitment" trap.
your life is a mess, so you find the "truth"!.
next, you commit yourself further by dropping college.
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Hard to deal with
by Coheedandcambria inim a young jehovahs witness, baptized at 8 years old, and now i regret the decision.
i miss my sister so bad, shes been disfellowshipped for 3 or 4 years now, and i still talk to her sometimes over email and online, but its not the same as talking in real life.
i get random crying episodes, like last night at meeting.
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sass_my_frass
Oh your poor little thing, baptised at 8!!?? What were your parents thinking?
It's time to start claiming your life and adulthood honey, and making your own decisions. You can't live by a choice you made when you'd only been literate for three years. Your sister misses you too, and that pain you're feeling is because disfellowshipping and shunning are false doctrines that God would not put us through. It's a control mechanism to keep you in line. Do you want this pain for the rest of your life?
So sorry you're unhappy now. It's a bad time, growing up a witness, and it takes a long time to take control of our lives. Much love to you while you work yourself out!
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Does it ever stop?
by wanderlustguy in.
things happen in threes they say...so now the third thing...the company i work for is liquidating it's assets.
in a way i guess it's good, i've been thinking about doing something different for a while now, this kind of forces my hand...but the pressure sucks.. one month to go...
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Woohoo, a new opportunity! I mean, bummer. Sorry, hope it works out.
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Is It That Big Of A Deal To Die At Armageddon???
by minimus inwe're all gonna go someday.
for witnesses, they don't even have to worry about eternal hell----so what's the big deal?
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sass_my_frass
The scripture about your eyes rotting in your head and your tongue rotting in your mouth indicates that it would be a bad time. That used to freak me out some.
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Would you help JW family members?
by greendawn inif your jw family members were hurt by someone physically, or financially (ripped off), emotionally or otherwise would you feel sympathy for them and help them?
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Yes absolutely, but it's not like I'd know, they'd never tell me. The only people who do talk to me, my non-witness family, are under the impression that I'm the one doing the shunning, so they don't pass news on because they think I'm being loveless. So... ah screw em. The biggest thing I could give them is the intellectual freedom I've found, but they think they're happy where they are. Who am I to judge their decisions, they're adults.
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As an Ex-JW what have you learned?
by KW13 in.
i have had to mature quickly after leaving the witnesses i was almost 'lost' and spent sometime being stupid.. i have learnt that forcing religion on to people is wrong, if they don't see something themselves then its not true or honest.
they need to decide everything themselves.. parents are also in a position where they need to be careful, they take their child to a religion that affects the child in so many ways, it ruined my childhood and its now a rod for my mums back..
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JOY
... how I love the freedom and joy it has brought me to have left that control. Being able to start my mind up, discovering myself, and what life is about. I'm learnign what life is about and I didn't think I could ever be this happy!
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My Husband
by mrsjones5 inon the 12th of this month, around 9:30pm, i was getting ready to leave for work.
running around, putting on clothes, making sure i had everything ready and the kids were settled in bed.
my husband, shawn, was laying aross our bed, resting, he stood up and suddenlly put his hand to his chest.
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sass_my_frass
Whoah scary! All the best to hubbie, time for a lifestyle change?
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The end is not close..................so prove it !
by vitty inim fading, and some of my family now realize we arent going to meetings.
everytime they phone or speak to me me, they keep reminding ( threatning) that the end is so close, dont give up now.. i just dont know how to respond, i know so much, but dont want to go into the un stuff yet ( dont want to sound apostate just yet) how can i say i dont believe the end is close !
that armageddon isnt iminent, what scripture can i use to back it up.
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sass_my_frass
NICE one Sirona!
Avoid the subject for as long as you can; become adept at changing it. If they break through that, tell them you don't want to talk about it right now. Then 'I'm not ready to discuss it yet'. And don't until you are ready. It's a bad time, and they've no right to force you into it just because they're scared that somebody else won't affirm their crazy beliefs, and this time it's somebody who really actually knows them in depth.
No hon it's not just you, it's all of us (and most of them). I still get these little flashbacks. I remind myself that I was in a cult, and that's how they work. I look at everything I know about it, and it just isn't true.
I think it was jgnat who said 'if it looks like an apple, and tastes like an apple, it's probably an apple'
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Strangest Local Needs?!?!?!?!
by thepackage inwhat was the starngest local needs topic you ever heard???
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Pornea talks right after a reproval or disfellowshipping.
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They have started to shun my JW wife!
by jwfacts inmy poor wife has been quite stressed knowing what to do with her life.
she has never been intellectually interested enough to study whether the wts is the truth, just went because it seemed the best way of life and her family and friends are in it.
when i stopped going she did not know what to do wanting to keep both me and the congregation happy, and becamed fairly irregular at meetings and field service.
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sass_my_frass
Give her time, space, and as much love as you can. It takes time to snap your mind into sense, do you remember? She'll love it when it happens, but it's a terrible time for her now. Be the one who is there for her.
((Mrs jwfacts)) and ((jwfacts)) too!