Posts by love2Bworldly

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Got home from the meeting the other day and couldn't stop crying

by JamieL in

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i know everyone here thinks it's probably a waste of time for me to keep going to meetings cause i'm disfellowshipped.

but i go for my own reasons, i explained these a while back when i first posted on here.

he's a jw, but we are like brothers so he contacts me sometimes and it makes me feel a little better.

love2Bworldly

Jamie--I am very sorry that not only were you hurt as a child, but then hurt again by adults you trusted with your private business. Please don't feel that it's your fault or that you're a vile person as you say. And whether you are gay or not is irrelevant, it does not make you gay because you were molested nor does it make you a bad person. You really need professional help from a therapist to deal with this terrible thing that happened to you. I am divorcing my husband right now not because he was molested & raped repeatedly by his uncle growing up, but because he has kept it a secret for over 40 years and continues to sweep it under the carpet--it has ruined his life not because it happened to him but because he refuses to deal with it; he changes jobs every month, is a very negative & depressed person & is comfortable being a victim. You need to deal with this while you are young so that you can get on with the rest of your life, and make it a quality life that feels worth living.

I wish you the very best, and my heart goes out to you. But things will get better if you seek help!

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How Do You Feel About Life & Yourself Now That You're Out?

by minimus in

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personally, i'm feeling better about things.

i don't cringe when i see a witness now.

i may still try to avoid contact with certain ones but now i feel more than ever before that jws are crackpots and whether they look down on me or not, they are the ones with the issues----not me!

love2Bworldly

I feel wonderful! After reading a book that LadyLee mentioned, Toxic Parents, I have worked through a lot of emotional garbage the last few months, and it is really funny how much I can relate my emotionally abusive dad to the JW religion. What they both had in common is that they both tore down my self-esteem to nothing.

I cut off ties with my nutty JW sister even though I feel bad about hurting her, I couldn't pretend around her anymore or walk on eggshells around her anymore. I got tired of not being able to talk about holidays around her, my new church that I love, and being careful not to swear or talk about the latest R rated movie I've seen. I believe because she is still so enmeshed in the JW way of life, that she could not even fathom that I don't think like that anymore--so I'm sure my letter shocked her but it felt good to stand up for myself and how I feel.

I used to feel panicky when I would see old JW friends I used to know, now I just feel sorry for them that they're planning their whole life around the BIG A. I think about some of the people I used to know that were putting off children until the New System because it was SO close, and now they are too old to have them. What a sad way to live--makes me even gladder that I don't live that way anymore. I live for now!

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Why have I only got a little one? All the other guys are bigger than me!

by nicolaou in

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my posting rate!

"average 1.26 posts per day".

how the rest of you manage rates of 10+ posts a day is a mystery to me.

love2Bworldly

Ok I thought this thread was about men's packages, shows you where my mind is at this morning LOL

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Make Up Some Topic Subjects That Would Be Interesting To See

by minimus in

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here's a few to get the ball rolling------#1 circuit overseer says we can take blood now!------#2 simon plans on closing jwd down!

!----#3 bush asks for forgiveness concerning iran!-----#4 ask (insert whatever name) a question--------#5 ways for disfellowshipped ones to irritate witnesses .

do you have any subjects that might be fun or questionable or funny to add here??

love2Bworldly

Watchtower admits the JW religion is a sham and that they changed Bible verses to support their teachings.

Watchtower admits the Governing Body is a bunch of old farts!

Watchtower counsels elders to stop extracting sexual details from congregation members for their own sexual pleasure.

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Thing I LOVE and HATE about living in ENGLAND.

by nicolaou in

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i love:.

the weather.

cornish pasties.

love2Bworldly

Can't wait to visit there one day. Most of my heritage is Welsh & Irish.

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In Memorandum

by RichieRich in

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it was the 14th of april last year that i had to sit my mother down and tell her i was an apostate.. i was closer to her than anyone else.

my father and mother are still married, but he let her raise me as a witness, and that meant it was me and mom.. me and mom in field service for 100 hours in july because she had to make her time as a regular pioneer.. me and mom fighting over what to bring for lunch to the district convention.. me and mom up late at night, when she would berate me, and then unload all her problems on to me.. me and mom and our 4 hour family studies, where we discuss 2 paragraphs of a random book, and then she would browbeat me until early in the morning.. somehow, through all that, i pretended to be a witness for years, just to appease her.

looking back, i don't know if i loved her, or if i was just afraid of her.

love2Bworldly

Wow Richie--words from the heart. I sympathize with you, although my mom was not a JW--she was mentally ill and neglected me, and my dad was extremely abusive to me and my siblings. It's a rough road when you don't grow up with your emotional needs being met, but you sound like a strong person who has a good sense of self-esteem. Do what I did and don't let the cycle repeat with the next generation, my goal has been to be the best mom I can be to my 3 kids--to tell them how great they are and how much I love them.

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How to handle a stinky roommate?

by Rayvin in

i'd go for the blunt but leave out the rude.

he's an adult living in someone else's home.

he should be on his best behavior since he's a guest.

love2Bworldly

Sounds like my brother who likes to visit me on a regular basis. He does not bathe regularly, brush his teeth regularly or wash his clothes, and to top it off he smokes and has a dog. Thank God he doesn't have bad BO even with all that, but I don't like to hug him.

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witnoids just came to my door! woo hoo!!!

by tetrapod.sapien in

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looks like i am not on their "do-not-call" list anymore!!

mwa ha ha ha!!!

i bet they are going to have to rewrite the reasoning book now~!

love2Bworldly

Great Job!!! I think you ought to bring up some JW history next time and rock their little world even more. Bring up some of the old whacky beliefs that immunizations had blood (they preached it without any research and it was false), or miracle wheat, or pyramid stuff, or that Beth Sharim mansion in San Diego that was to literally house resurrected saints of old. I'm sure a lot of JWs have no clue about their very foundation.

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A Letter to the Governing Body

by truthsetsonefree in

(km 6/03 p. 1 par.

9 building for an eternal future, w87 2/1 p. 15 par.

(km 11/88 p. 4 par.

love2Bworldly

Excellent letter. I think a great idea would be to get some kind of news media to follow-up on what kind of treatment you receive after sending in this letter, maybe even Dr Phil or somebody big could do a special on cults.

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Why are EX-JW's and JW's in doubt(faders) so ''afraid" of the elders?

by booker-t in

i have been out for years now but i still tremble alittle when i run into an elder at the store or run into an elder on the street and my post question certainly applies to me as well but why do i still have fear of jw's elders?

i have been da'd for so many years but that fear still comes up.

and reading alot of the post here i still see ex-jw's and jw's faders living a pretended jw life or pretending to be happy when they are miserable in the wt.

love2Bworldly

Nik--you need to do more research and then you will understand the hostility of some exJWs. These people are working through the emotional damage that the cult of the Watchtower Society has done to them and/or their families. The JW religion is extremely emotionally destructive, and a no-win situation for those who choose to leave who leave family members behind entrenched in those false religious beliefs that are unChristian at best.

I have 2 nonJW relatives who call the JW religion "family destroyers".