Cat-er-daynightfever--I will keep you in my prayers. I have suffered from depression since I was a little girl and being in the JW's really enforced the negativity and bad feelings and low self-esteem. I am doing much better now that I am on medication and out of that stupid religion. I really fought the medication thing for years, but when I don't take them--I am on the verge of nervous break-downs constantly. You really ought to try them if you suffer from true depression, some people go through just a time period of depression--for others it's a lifetime of suffering like a disease or illness.
love2Bworldly
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Anyone Experience Something Similar After Exiting
by love2Bworldly ini am starting to remember something weird when i left the jw's, but wonder if it's a physchological manifestation of the brainwashing & control they had over me and the guilt trip/fear of being 'bad'.
i remember when i used to look up toward the sky sometimes and pray a silent prayer to jehovah.
after i got disfellowshipped, i felt like when i looked up and thought about god that there was almost a physical ceiling on the other side of the blue sky that curtained me off from jehovah hearing my prayers.
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I hate living with effing psycho parents
by tsunami_rid3r ini have a mom who would rather me not go to college, keep me locked up in the house, and just serve jehovah.
i have a weak dad, instead of her being subjected to him, he's subjected to her.
he's on my side on most of the part but he's just weak on setting her straight.
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Wish you luck--and please do whatever it takes to get a college degree! Making money is extremely important to being self-sufficient and independent.
When I was growing up the JW's taught people not to go to college and that money was not important. Money is very important! Also having a job making good money at what you enjoy doing is important also.
Look for ways to go to college without your parents' help, because more than likely it will hinge on whether you follow their rules and they could decide not to help you.
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My father will lose his privileges if he attends my sister's wedding
by Goldminer inmy sister is planning on getting married within the next few months.her jw husband committed adultery and left her when their son was 7 weeks old.after getting a scriptural divorce she began a friendship with a "worldly" man and now this friendship has grown to a soon-to-be marriage.
this man studied with the jw's for a while but could see right through them found too many of their teachings didn't make sense so he stopped studying.he's made his stand with my sister and told her she can still attend meetings if she wants to.he's also a good worker and seems to really love the kids.he's not perfect but no worse than many jw husbands.
anyways,the elders pulled my dad aside on tuesday night and told him he could(could????!@#*?
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I hope things work out for you Goldminer. JW's make me sick. They certainly are not Christ-like.
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What have you discovered on the journey?
by dh in.
the journey being life, what have you discovered that you never expected to... could be a musician, actor, a movie, a type of food, a thought, a realisation, a religion, a thing about your personality or an emotion, a particular song... it could be anything really.... what have you discovered?
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That it matters more what I think of myself than what other people think of me.
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On a positive note...
by bavman infor those that have been out of the borg awhile...now that you are no longer part of the dubs, what positive things do you like to be involved in?
what is your' purpose in life?
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I feel like my purpose is for my kids to be happy, have high self esteem, have careers they enjoy, and not become involved in any cult religions.
Of course they will do what they may when they grow up, but I guess I'm trying to undo what my parents did to me. My parents were not JWs, but they neglected me and my siblings, were very negative, and raised some extremely dysfunctional people. (I am the most emotionally balanced one out of 4 kids.)
I feel I'm doing a pretty good job of raising emotionally healthy kids, even with all the mistakes I've made.
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Would you change your past if you could?
by John Doe ini used to live with many regrets, thinking that i'd screwed up.
recently, i've been thinking that regretting past actions is not constructive.
sure, we should base our current actions by assessing the results of our former actions, but regretting decisions we've made is, in effect, yearning to change the person we are now or rejecting ourselves.
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I feel that all the BS I have gone through in my life has made me who I am and I really like myself. My only regret has to do with getting a degree while I was young and childless, so that I could make enough money to actually support a family. And to concentrate on a career that I actually enjoy.
I am going back to school before this year is out, but I have to work a full-time job and take care of my family too. Spending time with my kids is very important to me, which is why I have not gone back to school before now.
So, I think that is my biggest regret and it's thanks to the BS of the JW's that kept me from getting a real career when I was young. But I'm not bitter, I'm just older and wiser and hounding my kids to get a college degree and do something they enjoy.
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left out in the cold
by donald inhello im new to this...my wife and i are still baptized....but weve not gone to meetings regulary...for some time now...even though we still go to the memorial.....and we are wondering if to go back.....here without being too specfic is our story.
i was rasied in the truth...she was not...she got baptized...about 3 years after we were married..i was made a m.s.
in 1990...but becuse of personal reasons i stepped down shortly after..i conecentrated on raiseing my family..and had to work 2 jobs to support them......3 children.....then a few years later my wife left me for some one else...and then i got very sick...and was told my kidney was failing....a elder came to my house and told me that if there was anything i neede that all i had to do was ask...well...a few weeks later i asked this elder...if he could get a couple of young brothers to hep me get rid off some boxes of stuff my wufe had left behind..because i could not lift them...he told me in a reproachful tone...get your family to help you...this after he had told me weeks before...to ask him for help........i thought at the time its no big deal....but then something else happen to call into question all about jw.
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love2Bworldly
Welcome Donald--I just started posting a few weeks ago myself. I can't believe how much I have learned about the Watchtower Society in just the last few weeks. This website is extremely informative, as well as being an emotional boost from people in many different circumstances. Some people like myself, have been inactive for many years, others are still actively attending meetings.
I enjoy the people who post here so much. I wish you the best in your spiritual journey and hope that you find the best circumstances for you and your family. If you research the WBTS in an objective frame of mind, see all the people whose lives have been ruined, and meditate on the treatment you are being shown, hopefully you will come to peace with yourself and see the 'truth' as it really is. The WBTS is a negative, destructive cult that not only teaches lies, but changes their teachings on a regular basis; they cover this up by saying 'the light is getting brighter'. Jesus would never treat people the way the JWs treat people.
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Which is worse - the Jehovah's Witness or the Mormons?
by inquirer inif someone put a gun to your head and you had to choose, which one would you say is the worst?
also, which religion is more doctrinally incorrect?
which religion has the most false end of the world dates?
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Why do Mormons wear some kind of undergarment under their clothes? I heard that from a lady I used to work with. She was a Mormon and boy she had the foulest mouth I ever heard from anyone!
I think I would take a bullet over either religion now that I know what it feels like to live a normal life.
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Please do not shun me!!!!
by TheListener inalright.
it is done.. last night during the announcements a new ministerial servant was appointed along with a new elder.
yippee!!.
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love2Bworldly
Congratulations! Are you trying to be a fader? Sorry you will miss out on the juicy gossip!
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Anyone Experience Something Similar After Exiting
by love2Bworldly ini am starting to remember something weird when i left the jw's, but wonder if it's a physchological manifestation of the brainwashing & control they had over me and the guilt trip/fear of being 'bad'.
i remember when i used to look up toward the sky sometimes and pray a silent prayer to jehovah.
after i got disfellowshipped, i felt like when i looked up and thought about god that there was almost a physical ceiling on the other side of the blue sky that curtained me off from jehovah hearing my prayers.
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love2Bworldly
I am starting to remember something weird when I left the JW's, but wonder if it's a physchological manifestation of the brainwashing & control they had over me and the guilt trip/fear of being 'bad'.
I remember when I used to look up toward the sky sometimes and pray a silent prayer to Jehovah. After I got disfellowshipped, I felt like when I looked up and thought about God that there was almost a physical ceiling on the other side of the blue sky that curtained me off from Jehovah hearing my prayers. I don't feel that way anymore, I feel very happy not being a JW. I also do pray to God and feel that he does hear me.
Has anyone experienced anything weird like that after leaving the JW's?