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  What do you think is Michael Jackson's last great work?

  by Elsewhere in

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  i have to say: scream .

  i related to it when i was leaving the wts.. .

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  You stole the words, tij! "I Just Can't Stop Loving You" was my favorite also.
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  Bo or Carrie?

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  Chia

  Bo!
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  Fear of the big "A"

  by Chia in

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  i went to a friend's house last night.

  i was talking with him about religious issues.

  i told him i no longer feel that the witnesses have the truth.

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  Chia

  I went to a friend's house last night. I was talking with him about religious issues. I told him I no longer feel that the Witnesses have the truth. But I was also telling him how scared I was to bring my boyfriend to my (Witness) friend's graduation, how I'm afraid sometimes to be seen in public. He asked me why, and I told him that I wasn't quite ready to be disfellowshipped or disassociate myself. "But if they don't have the truth, and this isn't working for you, then what are you afraid of?" I told him I loved my family and I didn't want to lose them yet. He pointed out our relationship is already strained as it is. We barely talk. What would the big change be? I was about to answer, and he said, "Don't just answer. Think about it."

  So I did, and I was forced to confront a fear that I've been suppressing. The truth is, the main reason I'm afraid to get judicial action taken against me is because, I have this nagging doubt. What if they're right and I'm wrong? What if God is real and does decide to kill me? What if I am really "grieving the spirit?" What if I am disapproved? It troubles me, I must admit. When I told him this, he said, "Ah. Now we're getting somewhere." I still am not over the fear, but admitting it is a huge step. He did point out something, that, I won't know until I die, right? Why worry? Why stress? Live life. Be a good person, the best that you can be. Give back to people. If God, if he truly exists(he doesn't believe in God), and he punishes you despite being a good person, then what is the point of it all anyway, if we're all pawns in the game? These are valid points. But I know it will take more than just words to confront this big fear.

  Has anyone had a similar problem, and if so, how did you tackle it?
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  My brother

  by Chia in

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  i just recently talked to my brother.

  he got thrown out of my mom's house before i did, because he was constantly staying out late, going to clubs and coming home drunk, and my mom had enough of it.

  the difference between us is that he still feels the dubs have "the truth.

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  Wow, Nic. That's pretty moving. Thank you for sharing that.

  I think there's something deeper here that I'm dealing with. It's not just my brother, it's me. I have to deal with some issues myself before I can try to really help my brother to the fullest of my ability. I will post that later.
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  My brother

  by Chia in

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  i just recently talked to my brother.

  he got thrown out of my mom's house before i did, because he was constantly staying out late, going to clubs and coming home drunk, and my mom had enough of it.

  the difference between us is that he still feels the dubs have "the truth.

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  I have talked to him. I've told him about CoC. He's seen the book. But it's had no effect on him. He has said to me that I've always been the "intellectual" one, and he doesn't think of himself as smart. He definitely has low self-esteem, and the drinking does numb his pain. I wish I could find a way to help him...but he has to see it on his own. I never tried to "preach" to him, but when the opportunity came up, I expressed my feelings about the organization. He misses my mother, they've always been close, and he doesn't want to be on her bad side. I feel powerless to help him. But, thanks EF, for the suggestion. If you or anyone else has anything else, I'll be glad to try it.
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  My brother

  by Chia in

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  i just recently talked to my brother.

  he got thrown out of my mom's house before i did, because he was constantly staying out late, going to clubs and coming home drunk, and my mom had enough of it.

  the difference between us is that he still feels the dubs have "the truth.

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  I just recently talked to my brother. He got thrown out of my mom's house before I did, because he was constantly staying out late, going to clubs and coming home drunk, and my mom had enough of it. The difference between us is that he still feels the Dubs have "the truth." So he's still trapped in that mindset. He doesn't have any issues with me living my life, but he feels guilty and depressed all the time.

  He told me today that he went back to the KH to get Watchtowers and Kingdom Ministries and made arrangements to meet with our former book study conductor. A chill went down my spine. I asked him if the conductor had asked anything about me, and he said, "Only if I had seen you, and I said no."

  I can't put my finger on why this troubles me so much. Maybe because I've already lost 3 members of my family, and I don't want to lose another. My brother and I have always been so close, and I just have a bad feeling about this. It really troubles me that he is going back to the Dubs.

  I just needed to vent.
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  "Serena soaks up the pressure" Fame + JW

  by DannyHaszard in

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  serena soaks up the pressure

  people are used to seeing us all serious on court.".

  i love wimbledon.

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  Itsallgoodnow said:

  I thought she was seeing that film producer guy?

  Yeah, Brett Ratner, the director of Rush Hour and lots of music videos. That's what I heard, too.
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  Relationships and age difference

  by greendawn in

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  people say that love is blind to age difference but when you have/had to strike a relationship or marry with someone what's the maximum age difference that is/was acceptable to you?

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  I dated someone that was 42(I was 20 at the time). We aren't together anymore, but we are still friends. The breakup had nothing to do with our ages, but "living a double life" didn't help.
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  The saddest song you've ever heard

  by littlerockguy in

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  what is the saddest song that brings tears to your eyes just about every time you hear it?

  mine is harry chapin's cats in the cradle

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  I didn't know "Everything I Own" was written about his father. I always thought it was a beautiful song, but now it takes on a new meaning for me.
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  Wrong Lyrics

  by Sunspot in

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  how many of you (like me) used to sing the wrong lyrics to a song and then find out later what they really said?

  the first one that comes to mind is "careless whisper" by george michael.

  annie

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  Chia

  Thanks for the link bikerchic. I just found out I've been messing up that Toto song all this time. I thought it was, "I miss the rains down in Africa."