I know right now she is very confused and I can tell by talking to her and seeing her that she doesn't want to do what she is doing. I believe it is what she feels is right by Jehovah and that she has been "love bombed" by these people so much lately that she feels everything is going to be alright. It will only last for so long and I know that she is thinking in ways she wasn't before because of what we have talked about.
I will continue being her friend and I will always be there for her. She cries when she tells me to let her go. She cries when she says that she needs to be a JW. She cries when I hold her and tell her to talk to me. It is only a matter of time before she cries alone and thinks about the choices she has made and sees that the people who she surrounds herself with are not ones that truely love her. Her family has been telling her more lately that they are there for her no matter what and I think she is seeing that is true.
Tomorrow is her mother's birthday and I am interested to see if she spends it with her. I really hope so.
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by Shawn ini have taken a break from the board for a week because i am just burnt out.
i am still praying every day that the seeds i have planted grow but so far nothing is going on.
this past weekend was really bad and she saw me when she got back from being with a bunch of jws.
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Update to Shawn's story 2
by Shawn ini have taken a break from the board for a week because i am just burnt out.
i am still praying every day that the seeds i have planted grow but so far nothing is going on.
this past weekend was really bad and she saw me when she got back from being with a bunch of jws.
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NL2, I have been thinking of starting a site. It could be good for me.
kls, I will always have hope. God wants her and it is only a matter of time before he gets her.
I am back, though probably not as much as before. I am still learning but for now I need to focus my attention on being her friend and I found that while I was reading and posting all the time that goal was not being met. Thank you all and I will be lurking around. -
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Update to Shawn's story 2
by Shawn ini have taken a break from the board for a week because i am just burnt out.
i am still praying every day that the seeds i have planted grow but so far nothing is going on.
this past weekend was really bad and she saw me when she got back from being with a bunch of jws.
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I have taken a break from the board for a week because I am just burnt out. Nothing is getting better. I am still praying every day that the seeds I have planted grow but so far nothing is going on. We talk every once in a while. This past weekend was really bad and she saw me when she got back from being with a bunch of JWs. She told me that she is not going to be able to see me anyomre and that I can't call her. She will call me when she needs to and she wants me to be there for her. I told I understood and that I am always there for her no mater what.
It is not any easier today than it was 2 weeks ago. I miss her and I love her. I wish we could talk about things but I know it is no longer in my hands. I have stopped reading for a while and am trying to find things to occupy my time. It is not working very well. I did talk to her father's girlfriend and she in turn talked to me friend's father. He talked to her and tried to find out why she is making the choices she is and told her that they are all there for her no matter what. That was very good and I am glad he did that. I am still waiting for her mother to come to me to talk though.
There is still hope. I pray every day that things get better for her and that her eyes are opened. Please continue to pray for her. I am going to take a little more time away from this because it is killing me and then I am going to read some more. I am done with what I have started. I want to plant those seeds in people. I want to witness to those that are being decieved. It is just going to take a ahile before I have the strength. Thank you and please pray for both of us. -
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Coconuts
by Shawn ini know i am supposed to be taking a bread from this board but i needed to ask a question.
has anyone here heard of coconuts used instead of blood for transfusions?
something i read today and wanted to know if anyone else has heard about it.
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It was in an email of wierd facts. I searched google "coconut transfusion" and got some hits.
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Update to Shawn's story
by Shawn inwell here is todays update.
we cannot be friends.
came over today and said that she needs this to be .
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NL2, you are incredible. You too kls. When ever I read something negatvie you guys are always there to help me.
I am not leaving this board. I am now trying to find out more about situations like this and I want to be involved in the counter-cult movement and ministry. This is a serious problem and no one knows about it.
Thank you all and I hope I have your continued support in everything. She is still my friend and I am going to make that last as long as possible. I will always be there for her and her family. -
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Update to Shawn's story
by Shawn inwell here is todays update.
we cannot be friends.
came over today and said that she needs this to be .
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Well here is todays update. We cannot be friends. She
came over today and said that she needs this to be
happy and I need to let her go. I asked her if it
would really make her happy. She started to cry and
said yes. I told her that I wanted her to be happy
more than anything and if that is what she wants than
I will do what I can. I told her that I am always
there for her and if she ever just needs to hear the
words "I love you" than she could call me. She started
crying more and said that she knows it is hard because
it is hard for her but she has to do it.
There is nothing more I can do right now. I am still
going to educate her friends and family but that is
all I can do. I am always going to be there for her
and I am going to continue with everything I have been
doing but she is making sure I cannot influence her. I
can't blame her. I am trying to make her unhappy in
her eyes and that is what I am sure she is being told
by others.
It is in God's hands alone now. I am not sure there
was anything I could have done different. She made
this up in her mind already I think. I planted as many
seeds as I could and hopefully after educating her
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Coconuts
by Shawn ini know i am supposed to be taking a bread from this board but i needed to ask a question.
has anyone here heard of coconuts used instead of blood for transfusions?
something i read today and wanted to know if anyone else has heard about it.
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I know I am supposed to be taking a bread from this board but I needed to ask a question. Has anyone here heard of coconuts used instead of blood for transfusions? Something I read today and wanted to know if anyone else has heard about it. I searched google and it seemed like there were a lot of sites supporting it but nothing from the FDA or similar body.
For those that are supporting and praying for my friend and I, I will be posting an update tomorrow. Today has been a long and draining day and I am sad to say it is not good news. In a way it is but, well I will post it tomorrow. Thank you all for your continued support and please, please continue to pray. Now more than ever it is needed. Thank you!! -
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New developement
by Shawn ini have a new situation in my circumstance.
sorry to keep bothering you all but i need help, a lot of help.
my friend finally came over today and we talked for a while.
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Cheese, sorry man but not going to happen. While it sounds plausible to some it wont work. She is conforming to a society that is based on conditional love. I offer her unconditional love and I want her to know that God offers her unconditional love. I wish it would work but right now she sees her JW friends as better than me and they offer her a constant ditraction which is the key. They have nicer homes, cars more money and all that allows her to go to the movies, go to dinner and go shopping. While it is a matter of time before these things are no longer fun it may be too late by then. All I can do is sit here and wait for her to come to me. I cannot force her hand. It is against what I want for her and I want her to know my love for her.
GBL, that is what scares me so much. That is where I messed up yesterday. It is the once prophecy they have been able to get right and it is the one porphecy that a 6 year old could explain to you. Their logic is so simple and f#$ked up. God have mercy on the WTS and all those who keep it there. -
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by Shawn ini have a new situation in my circumstance.
sorry to keep bothering you all but i need help, a lot of help.
my friend finally came over today and we talked for a while.
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Thank you NL2. By the grace of God that will remain true. I am going to stay away from talking to her about JWs though. i have been focusing on this too much and not being her friend. I just wish and pray that I will have the chance to continue to be her friend. It is very very hard and I know that I have a long way to go. God help me!!
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New developement
by Shawn ini have a new situation in my circumstance.
sorry to keep bothering you all but i need help, a lot of help.
my friend finally came over today and we talked for a while.
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bebu and CYP, I think I will take a break. You guys are right and instead of being me I am obsessed.
CYP, she is beautiful but that really is not it. Her soul is at stake and possibly her life. I don't have children with her but she does have a son and I love him too. I have spent a lot of time with her and her son. I want her to be happy and put faith where it belongs. I will step away for a while though.
Her mom said she will read the info I have given her tomorrow. She is trust worthy but I might still tell her to hold off. I am not sure.
Thank you guys. I am here to learn from you and I am glad I have you.