hey everyone, this is a shout-out for advice!!
i have been df'ed for 7 years... since then i have married and i now i have newborn daughter.. my parents and sibblings are all still in "the truth"... what should i do about letting them have a relationship with her?
they came by to visit her at my home, it was more than a little akward... anyone in this position that can offer some suggestions?
Thanks for all the input... it's true... I never thought of my parents as a damaging influence... I guess I still think that is me! lol
You are all 100% correct though... a relationship with them would be putting my daughter at risk... there is nothing or nobody in this world worth risking my own relationship with her!
Thanks again... much appreciated!! :-)
in the truth (as they say) were people really shocked at you leaving or thought of it as only a matter of time !
Like most young ppl who get disfellowshipped... fornication... lol
Funny, it still sounds bad when u say it like that!
I was 3rd generation witness... MS father, reg pioneering older sister, PO Uncle... had parts on assemblies since I was 7-8ish... on the ministry school when I was 5... aux pioneered when I had time off in high school... you know, one of those families that shows up 30mins early for each meeting, sits in the front... helps the spiritually "weaker" families...yup it was a shocker!
I saw one of the elders who was on my JC in a resturant once (i was with my co-fornicator) he sat down at a table with his wife, hung his head... whispered with her for a few minutes and left!! I couldn't believe it... guess I should have showered! lol
hey everyone, this is a shout-out for advice!!
i have been df'ed for 7 years... since then i have married and i now i have newborn daughter.. my parents and sibblings are all still in "the truth"... what should i do about letting them have a relationship with her?
they came by to visit her at my home, it was more than a little akward... anyone in this position that can offer some suggestions?
If the grandparents want to be part of your baby's life, then they have to include you too. If they are going to disrespect you by shunning you and excluding you, then they don't get to see the baby.
That is what bugs me... I mean they will sit in a room with me and make small talk but only to see her... aside from the religious differences my parents and I have unresolved issues to deal with that I have tried to approach them with and everytime they just ignore me! how can I let them back into my life when they are unwilling to deal with the past?
At the same time, I won't want to be the reason my child has no relationship with her grandparents... it is a real predicament!
hey everyone, this is a shout-out for advice!!
i have been df'ed for 7 years... since then i have married and i now i have newborn daughter.. my parents and sibblings are all still in "the truth"... what should i do about letting them have a relationship with her?
they came by to visit her at my home, it was more than a little akward... anyone in this position that can offer some suggestions?
Aude - hey! yeah, life got a little crazy! Broke up with my ex finally! Had the guts to move out on my own... met a wonderful man who fufills and surpasses all my expectations! We got married in Aug 07 and had our first little girl, feb 07-08. :-)
Carla, thanks for the advice... I told my husband I wasn't too comfortable with them being alone with her... I don't know what they will tell her... I mean it must be confusing for a little kid to try and understand why mom doesn't talk to her mom?!!! At least she will have my husband's parents!
hey everyone, this is a shout-out for advice!!
i have been df'ed for 7 years... since then i have married and i now i have newborn daughter.. my parents and sibblings are all still in "the truth"... what should i do about letting them have a relationship with her?
they came by to visit her at my home, it was more than a little akward... anyone in this position that can offer some suggestions?
Well... they don't really talk to me... this is the first time I have seen them in two years... since the last funeral!
They were only in the same room as me to see her...
hey everyone, this is a shout-out for advice!!
i have been df'ed for 7 years... since then i have married and i now i have newborn daughter.. my parents and sibblings are all still in "the truth"... what should i do about letting them have a relationship with her?
they came by to visit her at my home, it was more than a little akward... anyone in this position that can offer some suggestions?
Hey everyone, this is a shout-out for ADVICE!! I have been DF'ed for 7 years... since then I have married and I now I have newborn daughter.
My parents and sibblings are all still in "the truth"... what should I do about letting them have a relationship with her?
They came by to visit her at my home, it was more than a little akward... anyone in this position that can offer some suggestions? I want my daughter to have grandparents but at the same time I don't want them teaching her their BULL!! Also, how do I put up with them? Can I really stand them only talking to me to "get at" my daughter?
*sigh*
Let me know what you think! I am open to any/all suggestions/advice!
Thanks!! :-)
me and my mother aren't on very good terms right now.
since she's the one who invited me to the memorial most years, i thought that i wouldn't get an invite.
on saturday afternoon while i was getting ready to go out, there was a knock at my back door.
I got one too... been df'ed for 7 years now... have gotten one every year... never been! I still get the watchtower and awake every month in the mail from my parents... I don't know why they don't give up already... never opened one issue!
Guess they wanna keep the numbers up!
just had my third child - still in the dazed, lack of proper sleep and food phase.
i have to say - credit to my wife and all you mothers out there, how the hell do you go through it!?
i had that numb, helpless, car crash look as she went through the wringer and all i could do was pass the gas and air and mumble - 'you're doing really good.
Wow! Congrats!
I have a 5 week old daughter... my first... I know exactly what you mean about the car crash look! I am wearing it right now! lol It is so weird... I dont know exactly how women forget how awful childbirth is but we do... somehow I only remember that it hurt... but it wasn't so bad... lol
:-)
it has been a long time since i posted here... hope everyone is well.. quick favor... can anyone post or email me the sheet music for song #15?.
and, if anyone has a large copy song book they wouldn't mind giving up it would be most appreciated.
i could arrange shipping... just drop me a pm.. *hugs*.
uninformed: do you use msn?
this is for the us crowd, what state do you live in?
or from?----i live in tennessee, but from ohio and kentucky.
STATE??? I am not from any state!
Le Quebec!!!
La meilleur province du monde!!
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