Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences and words of wisdom. My boyfriend and I talked about this situation some more this weekend and of course he kept trying to quickly end the subject because he doesn't even want to think about it. I guess we are opposites in that sense since I like to be as prepared as possible for difficult situations, and he likes to deal with the problem when its right there in your face. anyhow, keep the stories comind guys, it really is putting alot of things in perspective for me, and though I am still hoping for the best, all your words are preparing me for the worst, which is a lot better then getting caught off guard. Thanks again everyone. You all are wonderful
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Need Some Advice
by skeptikchick ini was just wondering if anyone could enlighten me with their experiences in regards to telling their parents about a serious relationship with a non-jw.
my boyfriend who i've been with for 2 years now and live with, does not know how to approach things when his mother (a very devout jw) comes to visit this summer.
we have separate rooms, and so we were thinking that we basically have two options.
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Need Some Advice
by skeptikchick ini was just wondering if anyone could enlighten me with their experiences in regards to telling their parents about a serious relationship with a non-jw.
my boyfriend who i've been with for 2 years now and live with, does not know how to approach things when his mother (a very devout jw) comes to visit this summer.
we have separate rooms, and so we were thinking that we basically have two options.
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I was just wondering if anyone could enlighten me with their experiences in regards to telling their parents about a serious relationship with a non-JW. My boyfriend who I've been with for 2 years now and live with, does not know how to approach things when his Mother (a very devout JW) comes to visit this summer. We have separate rooms, and so we were thinking that we basically have two options. 1) Lie and tell her we are strictly roommates and nothing more, or 2) Tell her that we are together and live in the same house (which I know is already serious and totally against JW beliefs) for financial reasons, but do not sleep together. I have never met his Mother before and I really do want to make a good impression whether or not he admits to her what I really mean to him, because she will be staying with us for a week, and I want her to have a good time. So please if anyone out there has and words of wisdom please feel free to share them. We love each other more than anything, and he knows that if he stays with me, he will have to compromise some beliefs, and he is fine with that seeing as he is not completely supportive of all JW doctrine... however his mother is a completely different story. Is it possible for him to sustain his close relationship with his mother and be with me? I know many would say no, but I would also appreciate any stories of those who have been in this situation before and how you dealt with it, whether you were the Mother, the child, or the boyfriend/ girlfriend. Thank you sooo much
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Just a question about love and religion
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was a relationship/ being in love with a person who was a non-jw a factor in fading from the jw religion for anyone out there, and if so... would you mind sharing your story.
i really need to just get as much info as possible right now, as i am at a crossroads in my relationship and am searching for anything to give me hope.
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Was a relationship/ being in love with a person who was a non-JW a factor in fading from the JW religion for anyone out there, and if so... would you mind sharing your story. I really need to just get as much info as possible right now, as I am at a crossroads in my relationship and am searching for anything to give me hope. Please help! Thanks!
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Listen to Mom or listen to love?
by skeptikchick inmy boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now and living together for one.
our relationship couldn't be better, we love each other more than anything, and are supportive of each other in every way.
both of us are convinced that we are a perfect fit for each other, and we are basically on the same page about everything, until about 2 weeks ago that is.
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Thank you all so far for the warm welcome and words of wisdom. Unfortunately I do think, he is a baptized JW. I remember looking through his photo album and seeing pictures of him at about age 16 at what appeared to be a group baptism. His mother's whole life is this religion, its all she talks about, and all she writes about when she communicates with him. I've even caught him lying to her about his religious activities before, saying how he attends meetings and studies all the time, when really weeks go by sometimes and he doesn't even touch his bible. He is such a genuine, loving and wonderful person, and I feel like that is why it is so difficult for him to disappoint anyone he loves, and also why he is so easily influenced when it comes to making decisions about his life. Since we've been together, he has done nothing but accomodate me, even if it went against JW beliefs, but now the tables are turning since his Mother is coming to town. Please keep the advice coming, I can use all the wisdom I can get, as I may be having to make my own decisions regarding this relationship soon as well.
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Listen to Mom or listen to love?
by skeptikchick inmy boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now and living together for one.
our relationship couldn't be better, we love each other more than anything, and are supportive of each other in every way.
both of us are convinced that we are a perfect fit for each other, and we are basically on the same page about everything, until about 2 weeks ago that is.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and living together for one. Our relationship couldn't be better, we love each other more than anything, and are supportive of each other in every way. Both of us are convinced that we are a perfect fit for each other, and we are basically on the same page about everything, until about 2 weeks ago that is. He got a call from his Mom, and she was telling him how excited she was about coming out to visit him this summer. Instead of being excited about the visit as well, he has completely turned into this walkig talking poster boy of GUILT. He now wants to move out, though financially he knows he can't afford to, and I can't afford for him to move out either...our relationship's future is now in question, along with the status of our relationship now. I know he loves me with all his heart, and I love him just as much, and I know none of this would even be an issue if his Mother weren't coming out to visit, it actually is not even an issue when he goes home to visit her. He is happy with his life, and he knows that for the first time, in years, he has had direction in life in terms of ambitions and goals, and he credits that to me. I don't want to force him out of his religion, I know that is a personal decision... but I do want him to see that the way he is living if life now is not wrong, and he shouldn't have a guilty conscience just because he is not as hard-core a JW as his Mom would like him to be. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance for listening and helping