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  What Dub Habits have you kept?(On accident or on Purpose?)

  by mama1119 in

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  i think that when you are in a cult like the dubs, things stick with you whether you want them to or not.

  i still pray before meals and bedtime...anybody else?

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  I always have the same thought when I shave myself: " I have to go to preach". It is like a flash, but I feel it is something I have to do.
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  Your Struggle in the Truth.......

  by ScoobySnax in

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  mine was being gay.....and it was a huge load to carry...... (another story).

  what was your struggle?.

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  I felt the same than tetrapod. I always wante to learn, to study, to develop my mind. There are many subjects I was interested in: History, Psychology, Literature, Mathematics,.... And i was supposed to devote my time to study Watchtower literature. It wasn't enough for me and I felt guilty everytime I read any book not related to JWs. I remember the first feeling I had when I stopped attending meetings is the freedom of thinking I had, I could think whatever I like without feeling the guiltiness for it. I plunged into my studies and I am about to finish my degree (Oooh, I should be studying for my exams).
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  Name Some Rules/Things That Are Peculiar To Jehovah's Witnesses

  by minimus in

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  for example, only jws will disfellowship someone for smoking.

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  You can't say Old Testament or New Testament. You have to refer to them as Hebrew Scriptures and Greek Scriptures.
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  Sorry to ask this but...................

  by vitty in

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  ....................how old is your underware.

  i was sorting through my knicker drawer and there are some really old but comfortable knicknicks that i always choose, they are so old i cant tell you.. i have some really yummy underware that i keep for special occassions but never wear in the day.

  as my "special " occasions are few and far between i never were them.. if i had an accident tomorrow i would be well embarrist.. so tell me what the oldest bra, knickers or underpants do you own .

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  I don't know exactly how old, but most of my underwear is very old. But it's comfortable and that's what matters to me.

  Last year I fell over on the street and I had my kneecup broken. I remember that when the ambulance was coming to take me to the hospital, the first thought I had was not about my leg, my familly or my friends. My first thought was : "I am very fortunate. This morning I put on my new underwear"
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  Recovery-----How Goes The Battle?

  by minimus in

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  how's the transition going in your life from faithful jw to ex?

  for me, it's pretty good.

  no one has called me and that's good.

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  The battle has finished over a year ago. One thing that scared me a lot was the rumours you could hear while you were active JWs. You always heard about that brother who stopped attending meetings and ended up taking drugs or the disfellowshipped sister who went to jail and that kind of things. It was like everybody who left "the truth" had to live an unhappy life until their death. I know that these are a kind of urban legends, but when I stopped attending meetings I was a bit afraid of feeling pushed by the devil to drurgs, or to steal money from people or to rape old ladies or a craziness like that. After several months, I laughed at myself for giving any credibility to these rumours.
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  Why I am SURE we made to right decision to leave the JW's..........

  by Latte in

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  this is an entry i made into a diary from about 4 12 years ago - 6mths before we finally left.......

  "summer hols have come and gone...... not one jw asked to play with my lovely children - sick people" .

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  Thanks, JW83, I appreciate your encouragement. A thing I got when I left the JWs and that assures me that I made the right decision is that I learned to love myself. I don't know how to explain this, but the feeling of not being good enough for Jehovah, the guilty I felt because I wasn't doing enough preaching, that God wasn't happy with what I was doing, disappeared when I left the borg. I had to learn to appreciate myself, with my virtues and my mistakes, but I know that I can be a good man, I don´t need to be superman and doing everything perfect. I am trying to improve my personality but I'm doing my best and that makes me feel that I'm in the good path, apart from JWs.
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  Why I am SURE we made to right decision to leave the JW's..........

  by Latte in

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  this is an entry i made into a diary from about 4 12 years ago - 6mths before we finally left.......

  "summer hols have come and gone...... not one jw asked to play with my lovely children - sick people" .

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  When I stopped attending meetings I was a little afraid of having the elders and other brothers caliing me and visiting me to try to persuade me to go back to the KH. It was surprising to see that only 1 elder, after three months without attendign the KH, came to see how all was going. And just 2 or 3 brothers phoned (At this moment, I wasn't disassociated yet). That was good for me, because I didn´t want to feel pressure on me, but it was a little sad at the same time. I worked very hard at that congregation until the last day I attended, I pioneered with a lot of them, I went on vacation, going out with many people. It was weird how all these people disappeared the day I gave up the meetings.

  But it doesn't matter, they lost the companionship of one of the kindest , most compassive, most marvelous and happiest person I've ever met: me (this is not my opinion, it's Aurelio's opinion, an old neighbour of mine who tells me that everytime we find each other on the street, after a big hug of course. And you know that old people are the wisest ones. )
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  What are your Healthy Releases?

  by GetBusyLiving in

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  when you are stressed out of your brains or bored, what sort of activities do you do to make yourself feel better?

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  Sometimes I go swimming, but most of the time I just sleep. I am able to sleep whenever I like. That's why when I have a problem, I'm going to bed and in five minutes the dreams come and the problems disappear (at least until I wake up).
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  amateurs

  by joelbear in

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  so elders are supposed to simultaneously be:.

  amateur psychologists.

  amateur family counselors.

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  But it doesn't matter if they are amateurs. They read The Watchtower and Awake, and in that way they get an education better than studying in a University. Who wants to study Psychology if you can get better information reading "theocratic" literature?.
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  A Friend

  by Quentin in

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  what is your definition of a friend?.

  i believe you have one or two friends through out a lifetime.

  all others are just people you know.

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  I think a friend loves you unconditionally, no matter what your problem or situation is. That´s why I believe it's impossible for a JWs makes a true friendship with anyone; they lack of something essential to have normal relationships: compassion.