For me, the blessing of being "disfellowshipped" is I don't have to speak to those antisocial freaks anymore. I want nothing to do with them and am actually embarrassed to say I was one.
doofdaddy
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The blessings of being disfellowshipped
by JRK indon't get me wrong, it does suck.
but after being on ex-jw boards for years, and being df'ed for almost 10; i do see some hidden blessings.. first, you do not have to struggle with fading successfully.
you are just out; the cord has been cut.
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About Therapy/Counseling
by Mad Sweeney inif it becomes obvious to strangers on an internet message board that you should get therapy/counseling:.
my wife and i are in therapy both separately and together.
we're not crazy; we're getting help talking through issues we've never had to face before from a professional who knows how to talk us through things.
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doofdaddy
When I comment on the site, I attempt to be as honest as possible.
For me personally, I find therapy/counselling ineffective. Yes, I have attempted numerous times, actually I am trained in basic therapy myself. Part of my employment is compulsory monthly supervision with a psychologist, due to the high level of challenges. I do this out of fulfilling my work contract rather than personal insight.
My exwife has her masters in psychology and has gained great benefit from therapy. I have realised, due to my jw background, that I have little trust in others, so need to find my "answers" through personal self analysis and experience. It has been a terrifying, sometimes boring, sometimes profound journey in to the inner. Sometimes, I thought I was crazy, sometimes enlightened (LOL) but ultimately, I am satisfied with myself and am a very functional employee.
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Dream Analysis
by d indoes anybody try to analyze their dreams using the freudian or jungian interpretation method.i am doing a paper for class on dream analysis and was just wondering.does anybody try to figure out their dreams.. thanks.
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doofdaddy
As noted previously, I respect CG Jung but I am very careful when reading later "Jungian" theory, where there is endless possibilities of what Jung was trying to say. Imo dreams can be the unconscious emptying the daily garbage picked up without realising, can be brought on by rich food(!) but very occassionally can be profound. I have powerful, colourful dreams (may be my diet?!). Last week in a dream a man spoke to me and said "jungfrau". Much research ensued. Anyone who knows of CGJ will understand the importance of that word.
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Jesus between age 12 and 30. . .
by Mad Sweeney ini'm thinking he traveled east and learned the wisdom of the orient.
no way the watchtower line about him being a carpenter's assistant all that time is possibly true.
he was way too learned about the ways of people to not have been educated and his ideas seem very eastern to me.. anyone got any good books, articles, blogs, websites on the topic?.
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doofdaddy
I had a Gnostic book printed in the early twentieth century (that I sadly loaned out and never received back), that argued the maggi who saw christ as the messiah at his birth would have continued watching over his development. The author argued that the maggi paid for Joseph, Mary and the children to go to Egypt in exile (how else could they afford it?), then took jesus to India and the far east to gain the knowledge fitting of a world king. As I recall, it was believed that he survived crucifiction and returned to north India where he lived out his long life.
A very romantic tale with no evidence like the bible stories.
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I've been outed...
by brotherdan inso this weekend my wife had a major grand mal seizure for the first time in her life.
she was rushed to the er.
a few hours later while i was at her side she had another major one.. it was the scariest moment in my life.
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doofdaddy
As noted by Nickolas and others, GM seizures have no correlation to stress. I have had GM seizures and went to the extent of visiting a Harley St neurosurgen for answers. None. They are not (usually) life threatening, just look bad. Interestingly, I have not had one since separating from jws 13 yrs ago.
I too have gone through jw divorce/child custody and can only recommend getting legal advice. But at this moment, imo go to a counsellor, get yourself a decent place to live, then start being the best dad you can be.
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Not dated in a while - could use some tips, advice lol
by callitquits76 ini guess the title says it all, but i'll expand.. recently met this beautiful girl who through another party expressed her interest in me which was quite flattering to be honest.
im a 27 year old guy and truth is that i have really struggled with this kind of stuff since leaving the dubs a few years back now.
i guess i still have their theories floating around in my head, you know, all the old rubbish about dating some of which goes back to that youth book.. we spoke today for the first time properly and i think it's game on.
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doofdaddy
Just relax. Don't read too much into it, or too far into the what if's. It's just a date. You may not like each other and all this angst is just a waste of energy. Go for it and have fun!
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Is "Kingdumb Hall" really an offensive term?
by cyberjesus inif a friend of mine starts to say things out of emotion and i call him "schizophrenic" then that might be an insult.
however if he is having auditory hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions, or disorganized speech and thinking then that word becomes a description of his situation.. now i ask you.
does the attendance to the kh promote intelligence?
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doofdaddy
Then again, OUTLAW's sense of humour always makes me smile, laugh even, and that helps me not take all this shit too seriously.
you need a more sophisticated approach than schoolyard name calling.
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Is "Kingdumb Hall" really an offensive term?
by cyberjesus inif a friend of mine starts to say things out of emotion and i call him "schizophrenic" then that might be an insult.
however if he is having auditory hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions, or disorganized speech and thinking then that word becomes a description of his situation.. now i ask you.
does the attendance to the kh promote intelligence?
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doofdaddy
You have no idea...
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Is "Kingdumb Hall" really an offensive term?
by cyberjesus inif a friend of mine starts to say things out of emotion and i call him "schizophrenic" then that might be an insult.
however if he is having auditory hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions, or disorganized speech and thinking then that word becomes a description of his situation.. now i ask you.
does the attendance to the kh promote intelligence?
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doofdaddy
Have you quoted Ghandi to your wife Nickolas?
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Is "Kingdumb Hall" really an offensive term?
by cyberjesus inif a friend of mine starts to say things out of emotion and i call him "schizophrenic" then that might be an insult.
however if he is having auditory hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions, or disorganized speech and thinking then that word becomes a description of his situation.. now i ask you.
does the attendance to the kh promote intelligence?
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doofdaddy
Is "Kingdumb Hall" really an offensive term?
No more offensive than calling the catholic church a drunken harlot having sex with any and all nations. Or apostates being dogs eating their own vomit....