What a quandary you are in! Do you love him? If not, it's not worth the fight for you or the kids. Don't put them or yourself through it. There's no way to make sense of it....I was a faithful jw for 25 years and regret all the years my children had to hear me and their "unbelieving" dad fight over it. I'm still apologizing to them for missed years of an intact family and their childhood. Your in my prayers. Find someone that treats you like a million bucks....there's a lot of great people around, you deserve to be happy.
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how to live with JW
by freefly inhey,.
my partner in life (26yrs) has been converted to jw by his mother.. i am not one to whine -as very aware many have more troubles in their life.. i suppose one of my fears has been this exactly- as i know he was raised jw and should have saw the "signs.
" he always regularly visited with his mom, which i respected as felt a good sign he had a mother/son relationship.
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bad people!!!
by susu812 inwhy is it that good people are the ones who get treated like crap??
its like you have to be a jerk, rude, mean just to have good things happen to you.
if your nice then you get stepped all over.
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homesteader
you might want to try some assertiveness training. it takes awhile to get away from that brainwashing on submission.
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Honestly, do you think that JW's really like going to 3 or 4day assemblies?
by JH in.
honestly, do you think that jw's really like going to 3 or 4 day assemblies, especially when it's out of town, far away, and you have to take a motel room, and all the gas money and food money it takes, as well as having to sit down all day listening to endless talks...and that for 3 or 4 days in a row.. and often, they have to take a day off from work, to attend the friday meeting, so no pay for that day.. i think that the jw's are glad when it's finally over, not before.. .
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homesteader
am enjoying everyone's comments....i thought i had adhd (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) because I couldn't sit still for three days. don't miss them a bit...regret all the $ i spent that our family didn't have.
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How many here would classify themselves as Recovering JW's?
by Big Dog inmedical
addiction
n. habitual psychological and physiological dependence on a substance or practice beyond one's voluntary control.
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homesteader
i would say recovered but not recovering....not one bit of withdrawal either!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Did anyone find the DC encouraging?
by sweet tee ini remember going to the assemblies and conventions and feeling encouraged by the information that was presented.
in hindsight, i may have just felt that way because that's how you were supposed to feel.
i was a 100% brainwashed fool for many years, if the gb said it, i did, i felt it and i believed it .
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I left DC's feeling exhausted (caring for 4 children), worthless (I was never doing enough) and guilt ridden. I always tried to take the children some place interesting like a beach or museum so they would have some fun on our "vacation" Don't miss them a bit.
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no stones please!
by almosthome ini am hoping a little balance is allowed here, or at least the coin's flip side.
this is my story so far, but i am fairly sure it is going to end up a bit differently than most i have read on your site.
the brothers couldn't help my husband, he didn't want help.
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homesteader
Sounds like you need to go 'home' to do some recovery work. best wishes.
just for the record....GRACE is God's love for us UNCONDITIONALLY. He loves us just the way we are and it can't be earned by hours in field service, meeting attendance, sucking up to elders and overseers. Let us know if you find that with JW's. It eluded me.
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What are your goals in life that don't involve the WTS?
by John Doe ini'm just curious.
i know this is a wts discussion forum, but by some posts, it seems as if the wts never leaves some heads.
also, a lot seems to be conspiracy theory.
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goals or interests? gardening...this year i'm planting a french potager garden, reading....presently reading the Power of Now which I highly recommend to folks exiting JW's. I also am enjoying Beverly Lewis' books about the Amish which is akin to JW's with all their rules and excommunication. She just came out with the last book of a four part series...The Revelation which I plan on reading before the summer. Writing...I'm presently in the process of trying to get a children's book I wrote and illustrated on Juvenile Diabetes published. My three year old grandaughter who has jd and lives with us keeps me quite busy. We are having fun living guilt free, going to Sunday School, celebrating birthdays and holidays....all the things I missed with her mommy and other now adult children. I could go on and on. Life won't be long enough for me. Most of all I'm enjoying a loving relationship with a "wordly" man who is more Christian than the majority of jw males I knew. After being away from JW's for 5 years after 25 years it seems like a fleeting moment because I'm enjoying life to the fullest and making up for lost time. Grace
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Governing Body and rank and file liabilities
by greendawn ini get the impression that generally the rank and file jws are to be thought of as victims whereas the governing body are the real and only villains in this organisation.
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do you think this is a valid opinion especially when it comes to the elders and circuit/district overseers who willingly enforce the gb's often criminal policies?
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homesteader
my sentiments exactly....one elder in a congregation was so stern everyone called him the gestapo. he imposed things all on his own. control freak. we are all adults with a free will. God bless the innocent children though.
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Are you addicted to this website?
by Podiatrist ini mean seriously, since im not a jw perhaps id have a different opinion about it all.
but a colleague from work says she dont want to come here as she got addicted to it and couldnt get anything else done.
she apparently knows of similar other cases.
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homesteader
If someone is addicted to a website or anything, it isn't the object that is the problem. I'm finding this website to be very helpful in the the jw healing process . If it is an addiction to some, I guess it's better than some other evils that cost alot of $$$$$$$$$$$$$ and damage your health. cheers.
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Is it better to just LEAVE or FIGHT?
by ljwtiamb inalthough, i have not been victim to the same level of damage from the wts as many of you on this site, i have noticed that it is very difficult to fight such a large entity with deep pockets and passionate (though misled) supporters.. .
since i am still in the very early stages of leaving/fading, i wonder:.
i have already spent the vast majority of my life sacrificially serving the interests of this org.
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homesteader
Get yourself out safe and mentally sound and then help others in anyway you can. Even though we were "victims" those of us who were adults gave our consensus.