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  I haven't been posting much lately

  by Dustin in

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  i haven't been posting much lately.

  i needed to take some time away, and figure out how i really felt about my feelings on life and religion in general.

  this website really heped me gain a little closure on my exit from the jehovah's witnesses at a time when i really needed it.

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  Dustin,

  Hat's off to you taking care of yourself and finding out who you are. Sounds like you've done your penance so don't feel guilty about doing something for you. It's ok not have answers. Lose the worrying...it doesn't do any good to think about what happened yesterday or what will happen tomorrow. "Worry is like rust. It erodes happiness." A book I'm reading that is very helpful is The Power of Now. It' helps keep your mind in the present and accept things for how they are. Don't forget to do something FUN in life also to balance all the work and study.

  Best Wishes
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  Do you know these folks?

  by RichieRich in

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  here's some people i know- and i wonder if you know them.... the kamery family of southern new york.... (they have like 7 beautiful daughters).

  the tracy family of new york?.

  the eulers and millards of new york?.

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  I know three of the families you mentioned. Attended ass. and conventions in Olean and Rochester NY for years. I'm not sure they would feel comfortable with their names posted on this website. Why do you ask?
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  Up to our elbows in Newbs on JWD

  by IP_SEC in

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  wow, what's going on here?

  i look at all the new folk here that seem to have joined in the past 2 months and are posters who are under 100 posts and i gotta wonder why.. has something happened in dubland recently to cause a lot of folk to reach out?

  if you are new here at jwd, how did you find us?

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  homesteader

  I came across this site on a websearch a few years ago but didn't feel ready to post. didn't want anything to do with jw's for a few years, just to get my head clear. had some free time and started browsing the web and came across this site that i had bookmarked. have been enjoying the fellowship. Thanks for the Welcome.
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  Unplanned pregnancy?!

  by JW83 in

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  this sort of follows on from another thread about having kids.. is there anyone else out there coping with raising a child from an unplanned pregnancy?

  i got pregnant about 18 months after i left the borg & i sure as hell blame my lack of experience/knowledge!

  it has been a pretty rough ride ...

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  i had two unplanned children who i am very close to now as adults. all your sacrifices will pay off if you love and guide them unconditionally. i'm also raising my unplanned grandaughter who has juvenile diabetes and she has brought such happiness and joy into our lives. not what we had planned for our retirement years but part of life is learning to accept what comes your way.

  Enjoy that baby!!! Celebrate birthdays, blowing out candles, first steps, Christmas, Santa the Easter Bunny, Smurfs, Scooby Doo....whatever pleases you! Makes the whole parenting thing a lot of fun. the time goes by so fast and it gets easier. You might want to look for some parent support groups in your area. Best Wishes
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  My Dad

  by Crumpet in

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  just a wee update on my current tentative drawing out of my family.

  i sent a letter, which not coincidentally was timed to arrive on fathers day weekend just gone.

  its the first letter i've sent in 8 years to my family and whilst i was careful to avoid any mention of religion i did talk about how happy i was generally and mentioned how nice it is that i see so much of my inlaws who despite living 800 miles away make regular visit to us at least 3 or 4 times a year.

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  Crumpet,

  Glad to hear you got a response of hope from your dad with a closing of luv. We'll look forward to the gathering at Niagara Falls. The maid of the mist is so neat. Glad you enjoyed yourself.

  Grace
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  told mom to have a nice life!

  by crazyblondeb in

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  i did something tonight that was long overdo!

  my mom was reinstated a couple years ago.

  there are 5 of us kids that are no longer jw's.

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  GO GIRL!!!!!!!.

  Congratulation on your one year of recovery. Keep up the good work. I think you did what was best. You've gotten out of a lot of shit and now need to stay out of it, mother and jw's included.

  Best Wishes. Grace
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  Elder Save All the Mailing Addresses and Phone# of the Friends You Can Get!

  by frankiespeakin in

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  i will post more later, got to go back to work right now.

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  I admire your dedication to getting folks out.
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  I have two interviews coming up: wish me Luck!

  by TresHappy in

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  homesteader

  YOU'LL ACE THAT INTERVIEW!!!!!!!! Best Wishes
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  question for all

  by bonnzo in

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  most of you are ex-dubs, so what if world events proved that the jw's were right.

  for instance, governments turning on religion, matthew 24th chapt events really increasing at an alarming rate, enough to make you think: " maybe they were right?

  " if that happened, and the wts left the "door on the ark", so to speak, open for a little while, would you go back to the wts?

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  My trust level is ZERO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  First Post

  by 5thGeneration in

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  some things confuse me here.

  i am in the same position as many where i don't agree with so much the society says and feel stuck dragging myself to the meetings and then feel incredible guilt because the study for the day says it is wrong to have any doubts "even in private".

  impossible for me!.

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  Welcome to the board 5th.

  I''ve been away from the org. for 5 years now and believe in God more than I ever did. There's not a day that goes by that I don't thank God for the beauty that surrounds me not only in nature but in people. Life is better than any Paradise I could of imagined while being a JW. When i first quit attending meetings I had a hard time with the word Jehovah because it induced fear and brought back all the things I was trying to free my mind from so I began using the word Father when I prayed. You are asking some good questions and know that you aren't alone in your observations. Many of us have asked some of the very same things even though we are continents apart. Interesting. Also, I came to the conclusion that trying to live day to day life is a big enough challenge and that I can't figure what is going to happen in the future. That dispelled my fear of dying at Armeggedon. As for the folks on this board, I too was a little taken back by some of the crude remarks but have observed that we are all healing in own way. Many seem to have alot of anger toward the organization, justifiably so and express it in their own way. Some of the avatars were suprising to me, but I'm not bothered by them anymore. I sift through to read and respond to the posts that interest me. I've been helped very much by reading various experiences and thoughts although they differ from my own. God Bless on your journey. Grace.