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  OK, fess up. . . has anyone tried internet dating?

  by carefully faded in

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  i recently signed up on a couple of internet dating sites.

  i've been talking with one guy for about a week now and he's asked to meet for coffee.

  i'm a little nervous and wanted to hear how many others have tried this.

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  thom

  I've met two girls over the internet. I've never used a dating site, and never intended to meet someone via the internet, but I have:
  The first I met via my blog (she read my blog and emailed me). We chatted by email, then IM and then alot on the phone (some times all night, 8 hour phone calls). We eventually arranged to meet so I went to OK where she lives, she's a university student there. We had 3 great days together, even stayed at the same on campus hotel (though I wouldn't really recommend a girl do that). We kept to separate bedrooms. She is a very nice person and we got along very well, but we decided that neither of us was in a position to move so we'd better stop it sooner rather than later. She's still a good friend, but we're leaving it at friends.
  The second girl I met was on IRC. We just started chatting, then talking on the phone ALOT. I've visited her quite a few times and she's been here several times too. It's easier for me to travel, so I go there more. We're still dating and at this point are committed to eachother and have a full blown relationship. Plans are to live at her place in the summers and here in the winters. We both have kids and school and stuff so it's taking a bit of time to make things happen, but at this point that's the direction we're going.
  So at least for me, dating people I've met on the internet has been nothing but good experiences.
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  Alone...how I'm doing so far

  by wanderlustguy in

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  man, i didnt realize how hard this alone thing is.

  its not that i have to be or have nowhere to go, but since making a goal of staying alone (i.e.

  no serious exclusive relationships) for at least a year, its been a pita.

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  thom

  WLG, I'm glad you're finding some ways to move forward. Sounds like you're thinking pretty clearly, which is great.
  Excercise is a good thing mentally, so is getting out now and then. You sound like someone easy to get along with so hopefully you'll pick up a friend here and there and have more people to chat with on the phone or go out and do stuff with. Sounds like you're going to do fine.
  ---"Making myself remember why – remembering being lied to and controlled and mentally abused. This makes me angry and reminds me that no way in hell am I going to let someone else take advantage of me like that again, and also reminds me why I am doing this."---
  That's good that you're remembering the past, but not dwelling on it. Live your life for the future and be careful to not live in the past. So much that will be coming along in your life and so many good times coming in the future, I know from experience. I'm fortunate to have my daughter so I'm not alone, but raising a child is a little different than having a partner. Being self employed doesn't help but many of the things you mentioned are things that I do also, and it works out well. I'm at the point where I appreciate the privacy I have and the ability to do what I want when I want. Life really starts looking up after a while. It will.
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  I'M HOME

  by Dansk in

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  2. friends

  i'll have to make this brief because it's getting late.. i've had my first batch of chemotherapy and thus far everything feels fine!

  thank you so much for all the cards (and some presents, too!!!).

  forgive me for not thanking all of you individually but i have received a good number.

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  thom

  Great to hear that you're back home and feeling ok :)
  -Thom
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  HOW do doctors cope?

  by hamsterbait in

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  the strain of telling someone they are going to die,.

  getting fond of a patient, who dies.. i cannot see that a good doctor is callous.. how many end up alcoholics compared to other jobs.

  how does one stay sane when surrounded by so much pain?.

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  thom

  My GF is an EMT. She's a very caring, loving and compassionate person, but she can go out on a call, come back and say "One dead, two critical. Let's go to a movie!"
  Somehow she's able to distance herself from it without losing the care and concern that she has for people.
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  TOP TEN SIGNS THAT YOU ARE AN UNQUESTIONING JEHOVAH'S WITNESS

  by nicolaou in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  10- you vigorously deny the existence of thousands of gods claimed by other religions, but feel outraged when someone denies the existence of your god - jehovah.. .

  9- you feel insulted and 'dehumanized' when scientists say that people evolved from lesser life forms, but you have no problem with the biblical claim that we were created from dirt.. .

  8- you laugh at polytheists, but you have no problem believing in multidues of demons, angels, cherubs etc.. .

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  thom

  When you think that learning facts from both sides and weighing them honestly is the proper way to form an opinion. But the method should never be applied when deciding that the FDS is correct in it's statements.
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  IF YOU COULD LIVE ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD.......

  by Mary in

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  where would you live??

  for me, it'd be: hawaii..........no more filthy rotten lousy snow in april and may......or any other time of the year for that matter..............hell, i'd be willing to live on the beach if i could..........

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  thom

  In the U.S. I'd like to stay right where I am, but I lived in Erding (near Munich, Germany) for several months a while back and I think I'd like to spend time there again, even live there indefinitely.
  I loved the area, the proximity to Munich and ease of travel, and the people were wonderful.
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  Your thoughts about Wal-mart

  by desbah in

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  do you shop at wally world?

  i can spend over $100.00 on little items, man shopping at wally world is the devil on my checkbook.

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  thom

  The only time I go to Wal-Mart is when I happen to be with someone who ends up taking me there. I never go on my own for many of the reasons already mentioned. I prefer Target for similar type stuff.
  ---"shop at Trader Joe's together as all good homo's should :)"---
  Uh, I love shopping at Trader Joe's. Is there something about myself I don't know? I think I like girls, really, I do! I think...
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  response to 'older men dating teenagers/lolita'

  by girl_interrupted in

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  hey guys.

  i feel deeply for wanderlustguy, when he describes what his father was like with young girls....incidentally, the reason i was disfellowshipped (among other things) was because i had an affair with a much older 'brother' in the cong.

  i was just 14 at the time, and being naive and completely under his influence, i believed myself to completely in love with him and believed he felt the same way for me.

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  thom

  I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. Even how you were treated when it came to light. I'm glad you're getting help and I hope you can look to the future and realize that alot of good can still come along in your life, it really can.
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  Help! I'm trying to install Linux on another box!

  by ColdRedRain in

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  2. friends

  any computer nerds out there that can help me find 1.a free linux site, 2 install it onto a hard drive after i format it?

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  i already downloaded the iso, what should i do next?

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  thom

  Burn the ISO files to CD's. Put the first one in, boot up, and hopefully it'll boot off the CD and walk you through an install.
  What distro did you get? Sounds like you already found "A Free linux site".
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  Are Bethelites more likely to leave the JWs than others?

  by Gill in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  have you any experience of families whose sons have gone off to bethel and then decided to not have any more contact with their family and jws at all very soon after returning?.

  i ask this question because i know of two families where this has been the case.. the first family had three sons who one after the other went to the london bether to 'serve' within a couple of years of eachother.. after three years there all three returned home completely different people.

  they then left home, left dub land, two married non jws and another lives with his girlfriend.

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  thom

  I had a friend that went to Bethel. Before he went, he was a very conservative JW. Would leave if we rented a movie and something offensive (nudity) turned up in it, would shut off the radio if the song bothered him, that kind of stuff. Being a JW was his life.
  He came back to visit once and I was shocked at his attitude. He had a pretty negative view of his life there. Eventually he left. I think he's still a JW, but hearing his comments about being there was so different for him, I never would have believed he would have negative things to say about the org.