I'm so sorry, Always Busy, and agree with you re/the shunning. There's some evil, envious, miserable, people, and the shunning gives them an excuse to act like social misfits. Many have no social skills to begin with and once they're part of the Watchtower it's sealed. Watchtower has done a good job of showing the world what a loser religion it is -- many know about this cult-shunning factor and would never set foot in a bunker/hall.
So sorry Sea B -- JWs (WT) are ruthless and beyond hope. The religion would never be one of respect - I had many elderly women yrs. ago asking me about the ole fraud, charlatan, Russell, and it's horrible reputation.