It has been difficult for me to deal with my parents since my two brother's had already been disfellowshipped; I was supposed to be the 'upright and obedient' oldest son.
Well, I grew up, mentally and emotionally. It happened so quickly (within the last 1.5 yrs) that I haven't been able to communicate properly and assert myself. I don't know if I should assert myself with them. It may hurt them. [:?]
I find it rather amusing now that the P.O. of my old congregation used what I had told him in a private conversation in one of his talks the following week. This was perhaps a 'marking' talk.
He said, 'any one who doesn't believe in the ransom of Jesus has no reason to be here!'
What a punk, eh?
My emotional attachments are so thin now that I have considered initiating a conversation with all the elders and telling them where I stand. Not to be emotionally confrontational, but definitely to challenge them intellectually.
Some may look within themselves honestly. Most probably will not. But I do know one elder in particular who may benefit from a healthy discussion.
Anyhow, you have a point in that most of the 'uneasiness' comes from our own insecurities. If you accept yourself, you won't have a hard time 'coming out' so to speak.
While I am not gay, by the way, I have a friend who is still in and struggling with these issues. He still doesn't have the courage to speak it, but I just know there's something there, let's say.
Any ideas to make leaving easier for him?
cellomould

"In other words, your God is the warden of a prison where the only prisoner is your God." Jose Saramago, The Gospel According to Jesus Christ