In terms of feeling part (as in senses) I don't think there is much difference. BUT, considering how much falsehood there is around many guys don't easily open up any more, and some have developed methods to find what really motivates somebody before letting them in with full sincerity. Mind you reading your posts in last two weeks I'm really starting to feel sorry for you, sounds like you've had a bad run with guys. Keep in mind though men are not all the same, just like not all women are the same. Some guys simply love jumping from girl to girl like winning a trophy, likewise some women just like to use a guy to the max before jumping onto another and the sad part is I guess that many of guys have come to expect that and are reacting to slightest sign of trouble. I guess, as result of it there is so much distrust on both sides that sometimes (many times) we hardly ever show our real selves openly and are groping in dark hoping somehow we'll eventually "see the light".
I don't know what you are really passionate about, but I would suggest you start meeting people with similar interests. Say if it is horses for instance you will see them at specialized events etc and you'll be able to see them in their natural state hopefully devoid of all socially imposed layers and masks. For example I've got a thing about martial arts and cars and I'm meeting a lot of people on such events. The other day I was looking at buying MZ3 roadster at local car event and casually started talking to lady who was looking for the same. Before long we were talking about all sorts of things. I'm not saying anything will necessarily develop out of that but do you see my point? Likewise, I meet a lot of people with interests in martial arts and from there you'd be surprised how much you find in common with them, and what's more, no pretense, often these are sincere people just looking for companionship with like minded people.
Good luck
to add: maybe if you go to you local university, many (at least here ) have free to fublic events of all sorts from science to politics, you are sure to meet some interesting people there