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  My Tale (its about time too!!!)

  by PaulJ in

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  i have vaig memories of a christmas, but other than that, being a jw was all i know.

  she begged me to stay but i knew it would be easy just to give in (again).

  i have never felt so much hurt in my life.

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  Tez

  Phew, bet that took some doing Paul my love. But I am glad you got it off your chest.. and you are a son I am very proud of! Love you lots.. Mumx
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  my first post, wooohooo

  by cyborg in

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  i've signed up some time ago but never really had courage to post.

  so here i am, free and open-minded

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  Tez

  HIya, you are brave, I haven't got round to it yet, but have got lots of things would like to put on here just gotta work out how!!! Look forward to hearing more from you..
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  Honestly, do you think that JW's really like going to 3 or 4day assemblies?

  by JH in

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  honestly, do you think that jw's really like going to 3 or 4 day assemblies, especially when it's out of town, far away, and you have to take a motel room, and all the gas money and food money it takes, as well as having to sit down all day listening to endless talks...and that for 3 or 4 days in a row.. and often, they have to take a day off from work, to attend the friday meeting, so no pay for that day.. i think that the jw's are glad when it's finally over, not before.. .

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  Tez

  To be totally, totally honest! they were bloody hard work!!!! I had four children, and sitting on tiny uncomfortable seats, which anyway were only meant to be sat on for the length of a football game! and trying to keep the kids happy and make sure you always knew where they were, and it either rained or the sun shone hot and you were sticky and clammy! Phew! good to get that off my chest!!! thank goodness don't have to go anymore and pretend to be enjoying it! the worst as well was when others said to you after 'Did you enjoy the assembly??' Glad they didn't ask what did i remember!! Was too busy keeping an eye on the kids and trying to stay awake!
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  I feel so angry!

  by Ellie in

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  not really much point to this except i want to vent some anger but yesterday my little brother came round to my house for lunch, he is studying and living at the house of my jw sister, i myself have never been baptized so am not disfellowshipped but they all (with the exception of my little brother) treat me as though i where.. anyway, my little brother came round for lunch and the next thing my jw mum phones my house, asks to speak to my brother and gives him a telling off for being at my house because i'm bad association, and tells him that he has to spend more time with the members of the congregation.. he tries to explain to her that the members of the congregation don't want to know him, that he is sick of making an effort to be friendly with them when they just ignore him.. anyway, it finished with her telling him he is to go straight back to my sisters house and not see me again.. he is 24 years of age, surely its up to him if he wants to come to my house!.

  sorry, i know there is no point to this, but i just wanted to let off some steam!

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  Tez

  See PaulJ above (whatever). We have been hurt, and feel angry at the way we have been treated, he by his dad and brother and me by my youngest son. See DiddiDi's biography, she is my daughter and she too feels angry. All my time as a JW i realised the diversity of different people'e opinions on what they should and shouldn't do, and instead of being swayed by a Christian conscience, they were swayed by what others thought!!!! and were scared of any judgement being brought against them by others rather than feeling that the only judge is Jehovah God! and my opinion now is that he not the harsh, uncompassionate God that JW's make him out to be. Sadly, imperfect people put their 'fluence' on others and make them feel unworthy. I hope your brother sees this for himself! Take care, you are not alone in your anger!!!
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  being a baby dub in the 70's

  by katiekitten in

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  im from a small backward industrial town in the north of england.

  in the 70's when i was a kid no-one had a car.

  we used to meet for field service on the street corner and have a pep rally right there, then stand in a circle and say a prayer.

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  Tez

  One of the best things I heard was of a child as he was being taken out of the hall to be spanked, he shouted at the top of his voice 'Merry Xmas everyone!!!!' Bet he could be on here somehow eh?
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  no one to talk to

  by jeeves in

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  i guess this is my introductory post.. like many of you, i was raised as a witness.. like many of you, i'm no longer associated with them.. it still hangs over me like a plague.

  it's really annoying.

  i haven't been to a meeting in 4 years, i'm "out of the closet" - my parents know i'm no longer interested, my oldest brother won't talk to me... etc.

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  Tez

  Have got to agree with a lot of the other comments on here. I am still floundering, have this need to post mortem the last 22 years of my life, and not many understand, which is why i have come on here. In addition though, can't say even as a JW i felt that i had 'real' friends. Always felt that whatever i said or did would be judged or criticised, so couldn't really open up and talk about anything and everything to folk. Persevere with this site, i intend to.. I have had a lot of lovely replies to the introduction my son made for me!! and hope that in time i can be of support and help to others on here.

  Take care, it will all come right in the end!!!
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  Oh God Why? Tell Me Why??

  by LouBelle in

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  now that i'm totally free of the wt & it's indoctrination, standing alone not sure of my purpose in life, not sure where to turn to.

  i still believe in god but find myself on the verge/or perhaps already questioning him.

  this is quite a sensitve topic & not sure it suitable, but i just need it out there.

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  Tez

  So why did I study the bible in the first place, to get answers that you are looking for. I don't agree that JW's are blind to the worlds problems, when i was a JW i would still cry at the atrocities being carried out in the world. I think the big question really is why hasn't God done anything already, and us as mere mortals cannot answer that question, we just look on and despair! But the world is full of people who would rather ignore the wickedness of the world, live for today is their way of thinking. What you prove is that you are a more sensitive, loving human being.. Which doesn't solve or answer your question I know, but without people like you in the world then we really would have something to despair about.
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  Embarrassed By Parents

  by chris1525 in

  1. jw
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  hopefully this will be a topic that gets you thinking and many persons will have funny stories to tell.

  apologies if it's been done before but i'm new here.. .

  my dad once gave a talk directed at the young persons in the cong.

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  Tez

  See PaulJ above. I am his mum and I know i have embarassed him, but won't add to it now by making it worse!!! Lets just say i know his sensitive about certain subjects! and when he was younger he tried his very best to embarass me! but i am not easily embarassed! as he found out!!!!
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  Why did you leave?

  by greendawn in

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  if someone asked to state briefly why you left the jw brotherhood what would you say?

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  Tez

  Felt I couldn't live up to expectations, couldn't put Jehovah before my children, not that i do not love Jehovah and the things i learnt, but couldn't work out why i had become a mother, with all the maternal emotions, only to end up being expected to shun my children.
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  what do you believe???

  by walker22 in

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  i have been df for a nummber of years now and have recently been doing research via the web for the past few weeks.

  mostly because my new husband has been also doing his own research because i have been saying for years i want to go back, but never have and he had questions about the religion that he didnt understand.

  the only time i ever go to the hall is for the memorial.

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  Tez

  Yes I do still believe the fundamental teachings. I disassociated myself, thinking that way i would not 'contaminate' the congregation by my actions. I had some stupid idea it would be better than waiting to get disfellowshipped. I was a JW for 20 years... won't go on and on because my story is a long long one! Like you i do fear getting destroyed at Armageddon (or as my old dad used to say Ahm a deddon! he was deaf bless him and couldn't pronounce it right!). The thing is.. don't think just being a JW will prevent this! I have thought of going back, but my current situation wouldn't be approved of. Also not sure I could cope with it anymore. We've always been taught that Jehovah can read 'hearts' so I base my belief that those who survive Armageddon are not just those who 'appear to be doing what is right' I am new on this site and haven't quite grasped how to use it! I would appreciate hearing from others who feel like me.. I am a bit scared of.... not sure what to be honest, just feel very wary... but then thats what we have been taught isn't it. I have been 'in the world' for two years now, I am with a wonderful man who loves and supports me and in that regard I am happier than I have ever been. What I couldn't cope with more than anything was the hypocrisy, also having to 'shun' my children. I worked so hard at being a good witness, but now realise that basically I spent all that time on a 'guilt trip' because never felt I could do enough to be pleasing to ? Jehovah? mmm no 'Elders!'

  Would love to hear from you

  Take care all.