Posts by JWdaughter

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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life

by KariOtt in

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valentines day.

another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.

just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.

JWdaughter

Kari, he has no business buying exwife/mother of his kids any gift.I would throw a bloody fit about that! I'm pretty easy going about lot of unimportant things, but seriously, that is fan hitting kind of event if you ask me. Specially when you a re in the hospital and getting nothing! He is treating you like that and you are accepting it outwardly and killing yourself inwardly. That is not healthy at all. Committment by you has nothing to do with this. You have to protect yourself from emotional neglect and abuse.

I hope you choose to do so. He isn't changing. So you need to or you will wither up and die.

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Don't tell me that I am a priority in your life

by KariOtt in

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friends

valentines day.

another holiday that unbelieving spouses can't celebrate.

just one out of many holiday's and important days that we get the shaft on.

JWdaughter

Kari-I was in a marriage like that for so many years. I am not now. Trust me, sweetie, its not getting better-it will just get more hurtful as you give more and more of yourself for less and less. You can stick with it until you are dead inside if you wish or you can divorce all your emotions from him as he seems to have done with you so that his shunnings wont hurt you (think of it as more time for your own interests).

I do suggest that you make an announcemennt overt or otherwise about what your fave flower is and post lots of facebook pictures of whatever it is that you like. Don't let his lie become everyone elses truth, Kari. He has too much power just by his not caring. If he says something to others that is false,contradict him and deal with the fallout. The truth will show him for the ass that he is.

I played the passive games while writing letters such as yours on my computer,on paper. I eventually acted out and finally did rather desperate things to just rid myself of that marriage. I lost a lot in the process, but I gained more. I would suggest that you start being strategic. I never was and would have save myself some grief had I been so.

Its not much, but this is for you . You deserve good things-start giving them to yourself in some way, but mostly, you have a voice. Don't let him silence you.

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Feeling alone...

by bohm in

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hey, im bohms girlfriend.

i thought i was feeling better... i quitted the anti depressant a year ago - but now ive started again.

i know the jw isnt the truth- but i feel so very lonely.

JWdaughter

BG-My best hopes for you. THis is such a hard thing to deal with. It is important to build a life for yourself . Get your education, grow up, marry, have children be happy. Don't let what you lost get you down because what you can gain is so much better. Don't look back,look forward, build friendships that last, choose close friends carefully but don't close yourself to life because of what you "lost". Build your life with people who will not base their affection for you bsed on whether you share all their same ideoogies and/or delusions. Be yourself aand find out who that person is.

You are beautiful in every way that matters, you are young The skies are wide open and blue. Love life but deal with the depression.

I have the worst case of hiccups ever and am struggling to be upbeat right now!! But I know that they, too, shall pass!

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My JW mom is coming to visit this Friday!!

by Faithful Witness in

my parents are recent converts to jw (both baptized).

i was never a jw, but did study with them for a long time.

after doing research, my husband and i quit going to meetings and stopped the bs.

JWdaughter

have a good visit!

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Are You Comfortable With Who You Now Are?

by minimus in

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many jws are misfits and many that were raised as jws find it difficult to be "normal".

are you comfortable with yourself at this point in time?.

JWdaughter

I'm a bit of a misfit in the world-but I like myself-I know me better than the world and my insides are kinda awesome:)

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War over preparing for WT study

by cookiemaster in

i know that title sounds weird but so is this situation.

with the following information i'm about to desconspire myself a little bit, but i don't really care since i will simply deny it if any of my elders are lurking here.

anyway the situation is the following.

JWdaughter

I would, since you have spoken to him about some of the issues before and they are not corrected ( I believe you said that) then write it down to the elders and say that you can't have such a person invading your home for hours each week to insult your family. If you spoke to him about it already, you are within your 'rights' to go to the elders with this. (record a meeting if necessary)

My first (snarky)thought-get a thick black sharpie and go through the study and cross out all the false assumptions and stupid things that the WT put in there. Then he can't say you didn't "mark" it up.

First get him out of your home. Then its easier to miss meetings in the future.

Why don't all those poor people dying in Africa crossing crocodile infested rivers get to have a study group in their neighborhood rather than riskinng their livesfor a stupid meeting? OR maybe those guys are avoiding the power tripping MS in their own district-who knows?

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UN vs. The Vatican - Ex-JWs, are you sure?

by gold_C in

so about a few years ago, thanks to this site i became convinced that everything that the jws have been saying is a bunch of nonsense and that i shouldn't worry about it.

it gave me some comfort, since there are several things i disagree with when it comes to the way one has to live in order to be a witness.

however, this business with the un attacking the vatican seems a little too much like what the witnesses have been preaching about to simply ignore:.

JWdaughter

JWs have used every event that they could possibly link to the end times to "prove" their sequence of things. They are full of it. You know it, I know it. If you are honestly concerned about this latest bit, you should seriously get some counseling for ways to deal with the fears that the WTS has instilled in you.

The UN is always supporting liberty, women, children, health, peace issues. A major religion (every religion) that actively protects abusers needs to be put on notice that it is not acceptable in the world community. Its not just a problem limited to one church or one kind of organization. The UN can't really send peacekeeping forces into every church, so I don't know what kind of threat they are issuing or what consequence the could suggest, but we do know one thing-the UN spouts off ultimately useless proclamations and sanctions on a regular basis. It seems mostly to be like a big, growly old toothless mutt dog.

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Syncis....sounds like another MLM scheme

by whathehadas in

my sister who is 26 and a jw, recently quit her job to join this "company" that helps people invest for retirement.

she has a masters and was working in education.

now she's sold on syncis.

JWdaughter

I actually am a director in LegalShield. We make good money and we are in it for a reason. My husband was sued, years ago (before we were married) for 1.5 million dollars (him and his business). He had a Business Owners Legal Plan. For 7 years, he was defended from this (frivolous) lawsuit by a former client (just out for revenge and a settlement) by his attorney here in Texas. He won. His defence would have cost him over 100K, up to 225K (depending on which lawyer you ask). He paid his monthly membership fee and $1000. They also helped him with an insurance claim-the difference as a consumer between writing a letter to the claims department when they are trying to jack you around and your attorney writing a letter-well, yours goes to the claims department and your attorneys goes to the legal department.

Is it worth $17.00 a month to be able to call a lawyer about anything? I'd say so!

I don't recruit for this business much(for new associates), brings back bad memories :) -I offer the plan to business owners and as an employee benefit almost exclusively. I'm proud of what we have to offer and I have used the service myself with satisfying results.

I have a visceral reaction to the whole MLM setup myself, but this is something I am happy to offer to people.It is a service and it has helped many people.

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1914 - "A Turning Point In History"?

by Bobcat in

the february 2014 public wt has a cover series of articles dealing with world war i, and by inference 1914. the articles describe wwi as 'causing the world to be changed' and as "a turning point in history.".

setting the wt's defective 1914 chronology aside for a minute, how do these statements about wwi coincide with the view of the nt?.

certainly wwi was a big war.

JWdaughter

Dramatic long ranging turning points in human history:

Invention of Printing Press

Invention of Electricity

Al Gores invention of the Internet :) Seriously, These things have all impacted humanity in very dramatic and incredible ways-if one has a "but for the printing press"or "but for electricity" conversation-the entire civilization changes. The internet? How has that impacted the entire world? I knew of an attack in Afghanistan before it made even the internet news because a friend who saw it, put it on her facebook page and I happened to be on it when she posted. That kind of thing changes EVERYTHING. We are no longer subject to ANYONE's version of 'truth'. It is out there for us to access if we have the time and energy to seek it.

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3 years of study, Just found out!

by impala63rag in

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friends

hello friends, .

i would like some advice from those that are inpartial, and are familiar with the teachings of jw.

i studied with a wonderful jw couple weekly for 3 years.

JWdaughter

I'm kinda wondering if the good JWs who have been studying the bible with this person for 3 years are perhaps disenchanted wanna be NON JWs who are getting in their time by discussing the Bible in only the most general, uplifting ways (w/o WT dogma) so that their consciences are not seared by telling this good person the nonsense of the WT teachings. Just a thought after listening to so many faders and can't get out JWs who don't have the heart to flat out lie. There are plenty of things that are actually neutral that could be just read about. . .I don't know. As there seems to be little emphasis on the literature, that seems a possibility.

Welcomd to the board Impala. My best to you in your quest.