Wow, I was reading the posts and didn't realize the time was way back. I am thrilled with your update-except wondering how the cost is and NOW who is the go-to doctor? I'm in Houston and just started experiencing the bit about having to remove my glasses or move them far down my short pug nose to read. I hate surgery (like 13 so far), but I guess if I can manage a full tummy tuck with just and epidural, I could probably manage the lasik thing. The bit withthe eyes though-thats a bit nerve wracking. I really LOVE my sense of vision the best of all my senses.
JWdaughter
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laser surgery
by finnrot ini just got back from newport beach, where i had laser surgery on my eyes.
since the 5th grade, i have had to wear glasses.
each year my eyes have have needed a new prescription for stronger glasses into my 30's.
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They don't know what to do....
by pbrow inhave been going to a few meetings to support my kids that have to go with their mother.
i knew it would be a powerful lesson for them to see how these loving people treat their father who da'd a while ago.
couple of elders tried to corner me the 2nd or 3rd time i went to remind me that i cant talk to anyone.... i however reminded them that i am not df'd and i can talk to whomever i want to.
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JWdaughter
I only disassociated so that I don't have to play by their rules anymore! They may, but I don't. Are your kids treated badly when you are present?
Get that stupid custody thing changed. That is twisted that your kids go to her church on your weekends. Was it a JW judge (ok, not, was he paid off?)
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JWdaughter
Can'tleave-we all have to die sometime. ensure your best quality of life in the meantime. Then die happy:)
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JWdaughter
You look happy now! Before-you did not look like a guy I'd want to meet on vacation. I would now.
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The zeal has gone out of the preaching work , their is no more urgency to the work.
by smiddy inthis is an observation i have made .
yesterday a group of jw`s entered the street where i live , i`m at the end of a street and they stood around and obviously joked and mucked around for about 10 minutes as a group opposite my house .their were 3 teenage girls ,1 teenage boy , and 3 older men .
this was about 10:30 am on a saturday.
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JWdaughter
Isnt there some theory that it doesn't matter if it has any effectiveness at all-we were showing our love for Jehovah by being out there doing what we were commanded (by the WTS, but oh well!), so its all good, even if we are bad about it, even if we never open our mouths-we are going door to door and damn it, that's what we must do to prove our love.
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Today I Da'd -Twenty-five years ago. Regrets -some.
by Xanthippe inyes twenty-five years ago today we sent in our da letter.
some regrets, not about leaving the cult obviously, but sometimes when i read about people slowly fading and keeping in touch with family and friends i wonder if we should have done that.
of course it was before the internet in 1989 so we didn't know about people fading.. one day we were driving along and we had been talking about moving congregations because we knew something was wrong but of course we thought it was local.
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JWdaughter
You had each other and your daughter and freedom. There's no guarantee you would have had that if you tried to play the fading game-who knows how they might have sucked you in again if they did't set you outside their reach by the DFing.
No regrets at all, please. You had a good life together and you have the future ahead. Im glad you didn't lose each other or your opportunity for a family of your own.
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My Judicial Meeting was 6 WEEKS ago! Help me with a question.
by Comatose inmy judicial meeting was 6 weeks or more ago, and still no action.
i used a lawyer and a letter to them after i had already met with them and admitted everything.
the crazy part was they didn't tell me that night if i was df or not.
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JWdaughter
You told them not to contact you again and you are wondering why you haven't heard from them. .. Im confused.
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I was a window washet...
by new hope and happiness inthete are a lot of derocatory comments sbout witnesses and cleaning windows.
as a former window cleaner i can say:-.
a. i started my self employment at 17.. b. i built the round with my own initiative.. c. i was soon making 4 times the average hourly wage.. d. i was afraid of heights, but as the round grew i employed 2 people.. e. it exspanded to gardening painting and decorating ect, ect,.
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JWdaughter
You have a great work ethic. There is no work that anyone should be ashamed of if it is honest. I think what is mocked is an attitude more than a job-its a lack of aspiration to do more than the minimum of getting by.
My sister runs a cleaning business with dozens of contractors. She tells of her observations of attitudes-there is the immigrant/ entreprenurial attitude-just a step in their goals (they don't work for her for long) and those who. . . .just take enough work to keep body and soul together. Plenty of other kinds, but I think it is the latter kind of attitude that is being mocked. Subsistence is a sad way to go through life to many of us. No worldly ambitions seems to be a mark of righteousness for some JWs.
I wish I had been physically fit to do that kind of work. I have done it-its hard work, but when you can do it well, it pays pretty good.
My sis has been a landlord and run other businesses. This is what she got into because of her property management experience. She's actually great at it and is driving a company car and getting a lot of perks. She had enough of entreprenurial positions, but is running someone elses business and getting a great cut AND a great salary and she doesn't have to worry about the taxes at the end of the year or the rest of business ownership challenges. It doesn't sound flashy or sexy, but it pays well and is challenging.
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Disassociation
by evilone inhi all, i haven't posted here in quite some time.. just as an update, about two years ago, my wife and i moved to a big city about 500 miles away from the town in which we grew up.
we made this move in part to expedite the fading process, which was successful.
when we moved, as i described in an earlier post, we formally transferred from our home cong (where our families are) to a local cong in our new city, and then transferred twice more so as to get lost in the shuffle.
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JWdaughter
Keep your principles in your pocket for now. This isn't something that you ever need acknowledge again. If they DO contact you, just say "I am sorry, but I think you have the wrong person and close door/hang up the phone". You could (first) say, "I think you need to remove me from your contact list".
You are NOT the person they want to speak to. Seriously-they really don't want to speak to those who wont play the game with them. so don't.
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My Experience in the Watchtower (Part Three)
by Eiben Scrood init's been a long time but some may remember that i wrote part one of my life story a couple of years ago.
i followed that up with part two a few months later.
i have found that i have to be in a certain mindset to write about these things and only now have i been able to continue with the third part.
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JWdaughter
Thanks for sharing your story. I believe it was difficult to enumerate the troubles that you went through during that time. I appreciate that you told us this part of your journey.