Just to clarify, in an earlier post today or yesterday I mentioned that I would like to meet other ex JWs for lunch. . . . when I said my treat, it really is just for lunch. Ok? No dessert.
JWdaughter
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Ran into an old JW friend at a club and....
by nolongerconfused init's been 1 year since my fade and exit from wts land... i wsa at a club last night and ran into an old female jw friend... has been at least 2 years since i last saw her...said hi to her from far away, but she ignored me awkwardly...then she comes up to me, and tells me she's been df'd... i was like no worries, i left the borg and i'm so much happier now.
i told her i won't judge her...she smiled and told me she's gonna try the life outside jw land.
a couple of drinks later, we started dancing...one thing led to another, and i took her to my apartment and had the most amazing sex.. .
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Life for me as a jw (not really) teenager
by DuvanMuvan inhey i joined this thread recently and thought this was a good way to introduce myself.
i am 15, still going to school and i live in the uk.
a good chunk of my mum's side of the family are jws.
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JWdaughter
Your mom can share the room with someone in the congregation that needs a roomie. Don't go to that waste of your youth conference, please!!! Your mom can also go alone and it won't kill her. She's an adult. Maybe some time alone is something that would be spiritually beneficial to her, anyway!
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Life for me as a jw (not really) teenager
by DuvanMuvan inhey i joined this thread recently and thought this was a good way to introduce myself.
i am 15, still going to school and i live in the uk.
a good chunk of my mum's side of the family are jws.
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JWdaughter
Where's your dad in this? Appeal to him and tell him the truth. You can't do it anymore, not even to make mom happy. He needs to put a stop to your going to the meetings. I wish I had just stopped going, rather than thinking I was going to reason with anyone about it. Stop now. It won't work and it will just make you the enemy.
Been there, done that. I was stupid. Not for leaving but the way I left. Don't burn your bridges. You are not baptised or even a UBP. Just tell your mom that at this time, there is no way that you consider yourself a JW. You don't want to leave with burned bridges or ruin her reputation by being DA'd or anything. You just dont want to go to meetings anymore. If you ever want to do so again or have a change of heart, she will be the first to know, but now-you want to maintain cordial relationships with your whole family and old congregation, even if you don't believe all that they do. Unless she makes a big drama about it, no one else will. And your dad can step in anytime they start trying to grill you or shepherd you (really, that is what a shepherd does for dinner, right? Grill?)
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laser surgery
by finnrot ini just got back from newport beach, where i had laser surgery on my eyes.
since the 5th grade, i have had to wear glasses.
each year my eyes have have needed a new prescription for stronger glasses into my 30's.
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JWdaughter
Wow, I was reading the posts and didn't realize the time was way back. I am thrilled with your update-except wondering how the cost is and NOW who is the go-to doctor? I'm in Houston and just started experiencing the bit about having to remove my glasses or move them far down my short pug nose to read. I hate surgery (like 13 so far), but I guess if I can manage a full tummy tuck with just and epidural, I could probably manage the lasik thing. The bit withthe eyes though-thats a bit nerve wracking. I really LOVE my sense of vision the best of all my senses.
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They don't know what to do....
by pbrow inhave been going to a few meetings to support my kids that have to go with their mother.
i knew it would be a powerful lesson for them to see how these loving people treat their father who da'd a while ago.
couple of elders tried to corner me the 2nd or 3rd time i went to remind me that i cant talk to anyone.... i however reminded them that i am not df'd and i can talk to whomever i want to.
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JWdaughter
I only disassociated so that I don't have to play by their rules anymore! They may, but I don't. Are your kids treated badly when you are present?
Get that stupid custody thing changed. That is twisted that your kids go to her church on your weekends. Was it a JW judge (ok, not, was he paid off?)
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JWdaughter
Can'tleave-we all have to die sometime. ensure your best quality of life in the meantime. Then die happy:)
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JWdaughter
You look happy now! Before-you did not look like a guy I'd want to meet on vacation. I would now.
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The zeal has gone out of the preaching work , their is no more urgency to the work.
by smiddy inthis is an observation i have made .
yesterday a group of jw`s entered the street where i live , i`m at the end of a street and they stood around and obviously joked and mucked around for about 10 minutes as a group opposite my house .their were 3 teenage girls ,1 teenage boy , and 3 older men .
this was about 10:30 am on a saturday.
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JWdaughter
Isnt there some theory that it doesn't matter if it has any effectiveness at all-we were showing our love for Jehovah by being out there doing what we were commanded (by the WTS, but oh well!), so its all good, even if we are bad about it, even if we never open our mouths-we are going door to door and damn it, that's what we must do to prove our love.
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Today I Da'd -Twenty-five years ago. Regrets -some.
by Xanthippe inyes twenty-five years ago today we sent in our da letter.
some regrets, not about leaving the cult obviously, but sometimes when i read about people slowly fading and keeping in touch with family and friends i wonder if we should have done that.
of course it was before the internet in 1989 so we didn't know about people fading.. one day we were driving along and we had been talking about moving congregations because we knew something was wrong but of course we thought it was local.
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JWdaughter
You had each other and your daughter and freedom. There's no guarantee you would have had that if you tried to play the fading game-who knows how they might have sucked you in again if they did't set you outside their reach by the DFing.
No regrets at all, please. You had a good life together and you have the future ahead. Im glad you didn't lose each other or your opportunity for a family of your own.
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My Judicial Meeting was 6 WEEKS ago! Help me with a question.
by Comatose inmy judicial meeting was 6 weeks or more ago, and still no action.
i used a lawyer and a letter to them after i had already met with them and admitted everything.
the crazy part was they didn't tell me that night if i was df or not.
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JWdaughter
You told them not to contact you again and you are wondering why you haven't heard from them. .. Im confused.