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  memories

  by Mikado in

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  2. friends

  reading others typically crazy jw experiences has made me remember one particularly distressing experience.... i did a careful fade long before i had even heard of the term and i didn't know of anyone else who did it.. i was an unwanted stepchild, and in all honesty a very difficult one i suspect, i had two much younger siblings, and was always excluded and the black sheep, as ina serious uber jw there is no room for any sort of noncomity, and i was never destined to stay a jw, or have anytime for religion i suspect.. i went to my grandmothers funeral, and the elder giving her talk, a very nice man, after all the preaching mentioned her two grandchildren of one gender...she had three and i am of the other gender.. it was a lightning bolt moment, i got up and walked out.... .

  now with the benefit of hindsight it was no more than what i should have expected.... funny how things bring long forgotten memories up....

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  JWdaughter

  Man, sometimes people are so not human. I've experienced similar things, but at a family funeral---harsh.

  Unwanted stepchildren get the happy endings. Just saying.
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  favourite words...in any language

  by new hope and happiness in

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  i mean " courting" certainley sounds more dignified than " hanging out with a new squeeze".

  " comely" is a word i think should be used more often".

  i am going to try and use " jabberwockey" in a sentece today.. anyway do you have any favourite words, in any language?.

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  JWdaughter

  inshallah-means (roughly) god willing. In practical terms it means "I can't really commit to it." If I show up, I show up, and if I am late or don't show at all, its all on God. Don't look at me, I'm not in charge! It also is an accepted thing to add to any intention (even sincere ones) because Muslims are never supposed to falsely state something. So "see you tomorrow, inshallah" means, I intend to be there, but if I can't be, note, this is not a gurantee. I sure plan to be.

  The different inshallah's are implied by the circumstance and the relationship. And of course, whatever you think it is, if it doesn't happen, then there was an out submitted at the outset.

  Insha Allah, I will come back and see the rest of the thread.
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  What to say to the Sheparding Call

  by Jon Preston in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  ok i need some quick advice.

  the elders have contacted my wife about a sheparding call, not me (is that weird?).

  anyways she directed them to text or call me.

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  JWdaughter

  Thanks, but I have no time at all for that.
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  A fawn comes bleating, . . .

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  at my open screen door, in search of mama.. i come into the living room (from the kitchen), we exchange glances for a moment, and he beats a hasty retreat.

  i am not mama.

  .. meantime, finches gather 'round the four birdbaths in my garden and splash about and share the latest birdland gossip.. .

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  JWdaughter

  I got up the other night and glanced in the hallway and noticed the first lliving cockroach I have ever seen in this house.When we first moved in, there were a few dead ones, but I keep my house very clean. Went to find something to kill it and it had disappeared. EWWW. I live in Houston burbs.
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  "Thanks for showing an interest" - why I'd rather be completely shunned.

  by Julia Orwell in

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  2. friends

  an old jw friend of mine died on saturday, and i used to be best friends with her jw husband.

  we were close friends for 14 years.

  i was like his daughter.

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  JWdaughter

  He is a mess now. Forgive him. Follow up in a few weeks with a nice note mentioning some memories of the person that died that are happy and positive and just leave it at that. If nothing else happens, you know that you did a kind thing and if he can't accept, that's his prob. He probably will send another stilted note, if anything, but at least your former friendship deserves that acknowledgment.

  I'm sorry that you lost someone who had been so dear to you without a reconciliation. That is a tragedy that the WT is guilty of perpetuating.
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  Crumpet and PurpleSofa

  by JWdaughter in

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  2. friends

  two posters that i haven't seen in awhile that i like.

  anyone heard from them?

  i hope all is well!

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  Two posters that I haven't seen in awhile that I like. Anyone heard from them? I hope all is well! My kind regards to them if you are in correspondence with them-thanks.
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  I'm confused! Just what is the "new" donation arrangement and how is it like "tithing"?

  by booker-t in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i've been out so long but many of my ex-jws friends have been telling me of a "new" donation/tithing arrangement the wts is using today.

  when i was a jws we had "contribution" boxes at the back of the kh and the elders would give talks about contributing to the kingdom interest.

  we were not forced to give but gave as we pleased.

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  This is not tithing in any sense of the word. It is coercive, manipulative and defiitely a money grab.

  Congregations are supposed to come to an agreement on an amount to send to the org. every month for the "world wide work" and while they are not legally obligated, they will be directed to/understand that it is their moral and ethical obligation to pony up-no matter how much it hurts. There are always certain ones in a congregation who will make up the difference if they possibly can. These are sometimes well off bros and sisters, and sometimes are the ones that are known as soft touches-even if they are not well off. It's less about deep pockets than open ones.

  In the meantime, they are supposed to send all spare monies in their congregation bank accounts (beyond 3 mos operating costs) straight to that same donation fund. All this in lieu of paying for KH mortgages anymore. However, they will be required to pony up for "minor" repairs and maintenance of the KH. Any homowner knows that there is rarely such a thing as a minor expense when repairs are involved. How much less so when you have parking lots, security fences, large HVAC and multiple bathrooms, sometimes apartments, huge roofs. . . well, this is clearly going to cause issues down the road.
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  Dilemma

  by Gorbatchov in

  1. jw
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  gorby and his lovely wife had during dinner a chat about watchtower hypocrisy.

  she faded with me since 2007 and shows sometimes affection for the organization.. we talked about the gb and ray franz.. she asked me if she could read my ray franz books.. now i have a dilemma.

  the books gave me a hard time in the '90.. i know the ray franz truth can hurt and shock her so much.

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  JWdaughter

  you are worried that she will reject you because the harshness of the truth of it can not leave her unmoved. She will appreciate you or it will trigger the loyalty thing and make her close her eyes, cover her ears and say blahblahblahblahblah. Might want to tell her THAT before she reads it. She will not be unmoved by it either way. She should read it though. Its gonna hurt but it needs doing.
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  Carb overload(my hormonal menu)

  by JWdaughter in

  1. social
  2. family

  today i made.

  au gratin potatoes.

  mac n cheese.

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  JWdaughter

  Today I made

  Au gratin potatoes

  Mac n Cheese

  Homemade rolls

  Bread pudding(looks amazing!! Cooked in my new cast iron dutch oven)

  We have chicken and brocolli to go with, but looking at my culinary urges today, if I wasn't through menopause pretty definitely, I'd think I was pregnant or having a visit from aunt flo. Totally hormonal menu.
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  Most absurd thing I heard at the convention yesterday!

  by Batman89 in

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  brother lett was giving the last talk of the day about what they supposedly accomplished in 100 years.

  i was just waking up so im paraphrasing alittle(i was dosing off all day) anyways in his introduction he said.

  "there is more evidence to prove gods kingdom on the earth is a reality than wind,electricity and gravity is a reality on the earth".

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  JWdaughter

  Isn't it hard determining which thing that they say is the MOST absurd? I mean, seriously, it's all pretty wacked, you know?