Flipper, as always, thank you for the update! You are definitely a guy to count on. I appreciate you and your wife so much in the support of fellow board members and just other humans in general. There is a saying that a loved one of mine uses-his ultimate goal-to be a person who does more than his duties, expecting less than his due and to do it with a smile. You seem to be that kind of human being and a blessing to the rest of us!
JWdaughter
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"You have to find out her fears and exploit that. What is her worst fear?"
by cognac inliterally, a text message to my husband from one of his "friends".
he also wrote, "it's in her hands.
it's her move now.
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The Watchtower Confirms that The "Faithful & Discreet Slave" in 1914 Were Prophets.
by objectivetruth inresponding to the question - who are the two witnesses mentioned in revelation chapter 11?.
"so in the fulfillment of revelation chapter 11, the anointed brothers who took the lead at the time of the establishment of gods kingdom in heaven in 1914 preached in sackcloth for three and a half years.
" (watchtower 2014 11/15 pp.28-30).
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JWdaughter
The WT didn't make that prophecy. They just repeated it the prophecies in the Bible. There is a difference between discussing another prophets words and giving your OWN words of prophecy. The Bible says it repeatedly and not in any kind of vagueness. It is very clear.
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"You have to find out her fears and exploit that. What is her worst fear?"
by cognac inliterally, a text message to my husband from one of his "friends".
he also wrote, "it's in her hands.
it's her move now.
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JWdaughter
I hope we hear back from Cognac soon! With all this going on, I worry! Does anyone know her personally to know that she is ok?
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The Watchtower Confirms that The "Faithful & Discreet Slave" in 1914 Were Prophets.
by objectivetruth inresponding to the question - who are the two witnesses mentioned in revelation chapter 11?.
"so in the fulfillment of revelation chapter 11, the anointed brothers who took the lead at the time of the establishment of gods kingdom in heaven in 1914 preached in sackcloth for three and a half years.
" (watchtower 2014 11/15 pp.28-30).
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JWdaughter
They gotta keep coming up with stuff that inspires "study" and, of course, lots of speculation as to how it is going to bring about the end (right around the corner!)
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Armageddon will be here in less than 4 years!
by hoser inthat's the word according to my mil.
mrs hoser is starting a new career and the college and work training will take her four years to complete.
her mom is giving her a hard time telling her that the system will be over before she graduates.
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JWdaughter
My grandmom got pregnant with her first child right after Children was released. That was my mom. Mom is now 72(?) and the mother of a grandmother. I was told armageddon would happen before I hit puberty. . . I wondered if I would even grow up! How was that gonna work-never get old and die? I thought my MOM was old! That was in the early 70's. I am menopausal and a mother in law now. I guess I grew up!
If armageddon happens in 4 years then I will be a monkey's uncle! Frankly, it is a lot more likely that I will have a sex change operation and genetic manipulation to alter my species (or that of my nieces and nephews!) than that armageddon will be here in 4 years because some JW says so.
I have no inclinations towards species or gender re-assignment.
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Changing Careers: The difficult path to starting over.
by adjusted knowledge ini became employed with my current company after high school in 1995. i'm a manager and make decent income for the area i live ($65k).
it provides for the basic and some extra.
i have a wife and a daughter.
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JWdaughter
If you are considering quitting your job, consider relocating for the nursing or PA schools. Different parts of the country may have more options available to you, or you may be able to obtain some scholarships or other financial aid.
Sounds to me like you are a capable and strong willed person. You will figure it out!
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new neighbors
by Theredeemer inso, my wife and i purchased a house about a month ago and recently we met our new neighbors.
they are an older couple.
they are very nice and even brought us cookies.. in conversation they brought up that they were mormons and mentioned how much they loved it.
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JWdaughter
Then accept the dinner invitation. It will probably be really good:)
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new neighbors
by Theredeemer inso, my wife and i purchased a house about a month ago and recently we met our new neighbors.
they are an older couple.
they are very nice and even brought us cookies.. in conversation they brought up that they were mormons and mentioned how much they loved it.
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JWdaughter
Just say politely that you are happy that her religion works for her, but your experience with churches is that the hype and rhetoric doesn'treally match up to the reality so that you have become like a writer about religion-you would rather just SEE how her faith informs her life rather than being preached or witnessed to about it. Show, don't tell! That will give her an opportunity to be the nice person that she probably is without talking about her religion all the time. Just a thought!
OR,you could just be kind and just let her know that you appreciate good neighbors and while you don't want the witnessing (they consider that "every member is a missionary"), you appreciate her family and community values and share many of them, but you won't be joining any church.
Honestly, I think the first approach would be more successful, plus you will have a great neighbor.
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My family has known I'm an apostate
by cognac ini found out that my husband has not only gone to the elders, but has been going to members of my family about me over a period of a few years.
this piece of news is just so depressing.
i've been wondering how my family knew i didn't go and thats why so many of them have becoming more and more distant.
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JWdaughter
OH, and don't go being all noble and not revealing his cheating when it comes up (and it will). I refrained from telling the world what kinds of things my ex was up to before I divorced him and all the while he vilified me to EVERYONE we know. Don't be too 'classy' to keep all of it to yourself. But don't reveal it in a way that makes you just look petty.
The one thing I wish I had been more of during my entire marriage and especially my divorce was strategic. He has been strategic in what is going on now that he has his eyes on another prize. Don't let him off the hook because you don't want to be some stereotype ex wife. I went totally anti-stereotype and it didn't help with the family, the kids or any other area. It didn't make me better (yes, I thought I would be "the better person"), he just screwed me over and I HELPED him by being passive regarding custody and finances.
Sorry guys. I bought into years of conditioning and didn't want anyone to think I was a "gold digger" or what have you. 20 years of marriage (or 7) and 3 (or 2) kids is not just some game to get his stuff. Real life marriage has real life consequences. Don't let him off the hook or put yourself on it. Fair is not mean, greedy or grasping.
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My family has known I'm an apostate
by cognac ini found out that my husband has not only gone to the elders, but has been going to members of my family about me over a period of a few years.
this piece of news is just so depressing.
i've been wondering how my family knew i didn't go and thats why so many of them have becoming more and more distant.
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JWdaughter
Cognac, he was doing what he was "supposed" to be doing. As a JW. Not as a husband or a Christian or a friend, but he was pleasing his god the WTBTS/JW org.
I'm so sorry. Looking at your posts for the last 6 years, you have been in a struggle the whole time. It's ironic that you learned TTATT so soon after marriage. You have two beautiful children and now you will be getting a fresh start-and knowing your enemy is better than being misled by him.
It is sad to see that his first allegience on this earth is to the organization and relatives, rather than the wife he is supposed to be "one" with. He could have been honest but I think you went from being merely unenthusiastic(which probably suited him just fine) to being outright opposed to a degree that threatened him. He is happy to be a shirttail JW, but he doesn't want to lose it (family, friends) and so he will play the game that you are no longer willing to play.
I'm so sorry, but you no longer have to pretend to anyone. I hope that it works for you in the end. You are finding out who really values you.
All my best to you and your kids.