Posts by JWdaughter

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Experience in a talk

by Da.Furious in

last week we had an elder giving a talk, cant remember the title.. the thing that was of interest is the experience he gave:.

"a brother who was working in a hospital had to leave his job which was paying him good money because the nurses wanted to sleep with him and they kept putting notes for him on his desk!".

this is not the first time i hear similar experience.

I have had people flirt with me, and perhaps the option to PURSUE such a thing were I so inclined, but the majority of people are not interested in sexually pursuing an unwilling partner in the place that pays them a salary. Furthermore, we livein 2014 and this is presumably in the western world. That means that we have legal recourse against anyone sexually harrassing us. Some guy just wanted to quit his job, have his wife/parents support him in the meantime and "pioneer" so that he gets brownie points.

Ok, the last bit was me being cynical. The stuff before that is true and every JW, when out of the mindnumbing meeting, will know it.

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Arranged Marriages by Jehovahs Witnesses

by Atlantis in

a reporter did a story on arranged marriages in canada.

lady lee's story is at the top http://www.macleans.ca/news/canada/against-their-will/ .

.. .. atlantis!.

JWdaughter

Didn't a male on this forum recently relate a story about how when his sexual encounter with his fiance was found out bythe elders that their only choice was tomarry quickly in vegas or something? It was that or disgrace/DFing? It seems the wife was devastated and it ruined their marriage before it began (though I guess it is arguable that she would have been a cold fish anyway, they will never know, she lost her options).

That would be a forced marriage then, right?

I don't object to arranged marriages where there is a choice. I do object to anyone being forced to go through with it. Unfortunately, there are too manyfamilies that don't even see these kind of arrangements as being "forced" even though many have married just to please family expectations when their parents would never THINK of "forcing" them to do so.

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Still pointing your Finger when having a Rafter in your eye?

by DocHouse in

yes- everyone has faults and makes mistakes; an organization even more so.. yet, you ignore all the fingers pointing at you.. many here have no faith.

many here go to churches who lie about everything biblical; look at x-mas!.

but at least we know god and christ and try to live up to their name!.

JWdaughter

mad. . . you dont buy it either, you just yhik it is the lesser of the evils.

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Poster country flags and privacy

by Simon in

the new forum originally had a little country flag next to each post showing the country that the post was made from based on the geoip encoding (the country the ip address is from).

before i switched over to the new site someone made an issue about it violating their privacy and i didn't want to complicate and confuse the switchover with policy debate at the same time as technical issues so removed the flags even though i disagreed.. someone has already requested it as a feature and i think it should be added back so i thought it's now time to open the discussion and get everyone's opinions.

first, the reason i think it should be shown:.

JWdaughter

Being absolutely selfish, I would put my state up! I'm blessed in that I have nothing to hide or anyone that would care to out me on here. I do think that if folks have given out too much info on one name and Simon decides to let us have our flags again, then maybe they would change their handle and be more discrete in the future. It would be a PITB for someone who is popular here, but I guess that is the risk that any fugitive takes. And how pathetic is it that a person would have to worry about such a thing? Former adherents are FUGITIVES! How messed up is that???

Personally, I'd just throw any accusers accusation right back at them while denying any claims. Think about it-the accuser is using the site enough to recognize an anonymous poster by details given over years of involvement. Just throw the accusation at them while lying through your teeth if you wish. The Elders can't "prove" anything. They are just waiting for your submissive acquience to being 'caught'. Don't give it to them!

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Pagan Origins

by tinker in

a currently active jdub acquaintance occasionally stops by to say hello and we share a wee dram or two.

after the general small talk of new cars, exotic vacations and sports we often get into the "why" we are xjubs.

he is a well educated publisher who holds a phd in child psychology.

JWdaughter

anyone who says a white wedding dress isn't the focus of the event has obviously never known a bride. Just saying!

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I was invited to the Kingdom Hall and nobody greeted after five meetings

by Trailer Park Pioneer in

"i felt like it was "bait and switch", no "loving brotherhood :(?".

interesting question posted on yahoo, the problem is witnesses are not telling the truth.

how many times did you experience people not saying anything after some prolonged illness or separation from the kingdom hall for work reasons?

JWdaughter

Stay away and you can just fade out without any notice or comment made. Honestly, you can get the KM online now anyway if you really want it.

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Should I even bother telling someone what I think of their parenting . . . .any advice?

by skeeter1 in

the situation: a neighbor's child and mine have played together for 8 years.

her mother is a single parent, and a probable narcissist.

loves designer clothes, bentleys, money, will not date a regular joe or even a rich man who doesn't drive the right car, wear the right clothes, etc.

JWdaughter

Reporting that a child is being offered alcohol and drugs is something that you should do. The mom won't listen to you, but if the state is butting in, it might be something she can 'hear'.

Don't play elder-report the child endangering act.

If you can positively influence that child, it would be great so long as you can avoid your child being influenced by her. Poor kid probably doesn't get to do anything with the adults in her life BUT party-so that is fun to her. Even negative attention is better than no attention to someone so young.

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NEW LIGHT ALERT! TARGET 2015 END TIMES! EVE WAS CREATED 40 YEARS AFTER ADAM! THE END IS NEAR!

by Trailer Park Pioneer in

this is going around the kingdom halls now, i thought it was a hoax but are not all the end time dates produced by the organization some hoax or con?

the reason why the end did not come in 1975 was the watchtower society had not put eve's creation in their equation.

i was told when we had a "meet and greet" if "we knew the date of eve's creation we would know the year jehovah was going to destroy the earth.. it's been 40 years since 1975, can you believe it's been 40 years since "stay alive till 1975!"?

JWdaughter

After 2015, the number 70 will become significant. Then 70 x's 77! They could play with that so long that NO ONE remembers 1914 anymore.

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Early Morning Informal Witnessing, Yay!!

by kairos in

jw
friends

how many of us would get up and "start your time" by 6:00am or earlier?.

i sure did my fair share and convinced many others to join me semi-regularly.. we'd stand out in front of "somewhere/something", you remember?.

donut shop, 7-11, liquor store ( genius ), driving to laundry rooms or coin-op's, etc... anyway, this past sunday i was pumping fuel for the long trip home early in the morning out of l.a. to norcal, when i spotted a young, energetic version of myself 20 years ago.

JWdaughter

Did you ever get a chance to tell him that the WT itself tried to issue an excuse (that was too little, too late).

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Me and my brother.

by nicolaou in

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friends

an earlier discussion has been highlighting the differences between da'ing and df'ing.

xena said:i am sorry qadreena but i have never in the 20 some odd years i have been a jw ever heard of an unbaptised publisher being d/aed...marked as bad association yes..but d/a...no...but i guess stranger things can happen.... well that brought it all back.. actually xena the exact same thing happened to my brother in the early 80's.

he was only 14. he'd carried on associating with a friend of his who'd been disfellowshipped.

JWdaughter

Nic, you made me cry. I was 15 when I was DA'd. Not for anything particularly valorous like standing up for a friend!

Your poor brother! He hadn't learned much of the TTATT, just enoough to know to be loyal to a friend. I think that the WT creates a lot of the trouble that they see in ex JWs. Totally alienated by your society leads to outlaw behavior as you struggle to find a place. I am so glad you have each other again and especially that he overcame that early trouble became the man that he has.