Smiles_Smiles

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  What's the most ridiculous thing you were ever counselled on?

  by micheal in

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  one of the cornerstones of jw's is counsel.

  they just love to give counsel and many times they will literally make things up just for the sake of counsel.

  i was once counselled for joking around too much.

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  Too many rings on my fingers during a talk.
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  What to do when life starts over

  by destroyedbyhate in

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  have any of you ever thought that you would be with somone forever in a paradise earth?

  then you realize that it was all a bunch of lies.

  you slowly watch the marriage you had dissentgrate before your eyes.. you want desperately to fix it, but you are being pulled in too many directions.

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  For what it's worth .. it WILL be alright.

  Take things one day at a time. Allow yourself to dream bigger dreams. Don't be overly attached to what you think is suppose to make you happy. Live life each day and be open to different things making you happy day by day.

  And remember 'this too shall pass".
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  What religions did you seek since leaving? Or not?

  by dezpbem in

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  i'm curious how many people on the board have looked into other religions or spirituality groups since they've left the jw.. what have you looked into?

  did you join anything else?

  read up on any others?

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  It turned me on for quite a while. I even went to their seminar.

  But one never knows how much to expect from a man. Most r at least good for 'a minute'.

  Oops! Did I say that out loud?
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  What religions did you seek since leaving? Or not?

  by dezpbem in

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  i'm curious how many people on the board have looked into other religions or spirituality groups since they've left the jw.. what have you looked into?

  did you join anything else?

  read up on any others?

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  Hey Dez - if u r ever bored and want a mystical brain strip tease check out the movie "What the bleep". It just might turn u on for a minute.
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  What religions did you seek since leaving? Or not?

  by dezpbem in

  1. jw
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  i'm curious how many people on the board have looked into other religions or spirituality groups since they've left the jw.. what have you looked into?

  did you join anything else?

  read up on any others?

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  "Organized" religion totally turns me off.

  I don't study any Christian religions but I like being able to have the freedom to read and entertain the possibilities of all belief systems. So I read allot of mystical stuff and eastern philosophy/religious stuff. If I am flipping the channels and some preacher dude is on TV I may stop and watch him for a minute or two.

  But "joining" any one religion still feels like handing over my freedom to be enslaved. It also feels like 'the blind leading the blind'. I don't want no human telling me what I should or should not do or believe. I feel I am intelligent enough to figure that out personally with what I believe to be a Higher Power in my life.

  With that said I do honor the fact that people do feel like they want or need to be a part of a church. That's their journey and their choice.
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  Why do women do this???

  by dezpbem in

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  here's something that happens that i find strange with women, no offence.

  i was out with a female friend.

  we're just friends and nothing more but to anyone else who saw us we would have looked like a couple.

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  tehehee

  Yeah exactly, eh?
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  Why do women do this???

  by dezpbem in

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  here's something that happens that i find strange with women, no offence.

  i was out with a female friend.

  we're just friends and nothing more but to anyone else who saw us we would have looked like a couple.

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  Hey Dude, are u sure u want 2 'assume' on that one?
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  Why do women do this???

  by dezpbem in

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  here's something that happens that i find strange with women, no offence.

  i was out with a female friend.

  we're just friends and nothing more but to anyone else who saw us we would have looked like a couple.

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  I know some women who like to get with men who are married or taken. That way it can be a purely physical relationship with no strings or expectations.

  And then some feel an ego rush to take a person out of thier relationship.

  My question is - why did your friend (girl) get irritated if she truly has no interest in you other then a friend. When I am with my guy friends that are only friends - I help them get numbers from girls if they are interested in a certain one. Hmmmm....
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  Men and women don't understand eachother

  by ballistic in

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  'i'm starting to like you too much... i'm gunna try not to speak or see you for a few days' .

  ok, i will post back here any more things i don't understand as time progresses .

  and ladies, feel free to post anything you don't understand that men say, i'm sure we will know what is going on (not)!!

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  She could also be straight up trying to be honest with you.

  ie She see herself becoming addicted and don't quite like that feeling. So she wants to baack it up a bit to get control of her feelings.

  Hey Dude, maybe you got it like that. So as the rest have said ... ask her what does she mean by what she said. It can't hurt. Be a little bit vulnerable ... you might get a great experience out of it.
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  tions about hello everyone, i'm new here,,,

  by telltruth in

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  hello everyone.

  have recently met someone, amazing person!

  however have many questions about jw's and wt.

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  Hey Man. You sound like a really great guy.

  She is a very lucky lady to have such a friend like you. It's great you are doing research to understand. As an ex JW female myself there is hope for the JW women. The one thing that is talked about in JW is that when a women lives it is always because of a man. Sooo with that being said there is hope.

  Being a JW can strip a person of their individual strength. The religion thinks for you and encourages you not to independently think. So it does take some time to get on your own two thinking and reasoning feet. Some want to and need a partner or a freind to help them along. Just maybe you are that person for this JW. So keep loving her unconditionally. Understand that you probably will not be able to 'prove' teachings wrong to her because sometimes those are some of the last conditionings to go. Just read this site...even though most are ex-JWs they tend to still believe "some" of the dogma of the JWs. But the love between two in a relationship can be strong enough to pull one out of the cult. Supporting her emotionally is very important. The cult keeps the mind engaged but numbs the feelings. So feeling loved by a man to her is probably an awakening of her emotionally that she can not deny.

  Also remember the guilt that is surrounding sex. That is a BIG thing for allot of JW women especially if they were raised in it and are still relatively immature experience wise. Be patient, Be unconditionally loving and give it your best shot. If she doesn't leave the JWs eventually then at least you can say you gave her a chance to experience true love and I bet she will not forget it. Even if she is not strong enough yet to stand on her own two independent feet.

  Best wishes!