HI Sirona,
Just wanted to clarify what I said. I definetely don't think that JW's should razz their inactive/DFed relatives. When they stop by for one of their little visits and start trying to pry into my inactivity *problem*, I politely and casually ask them about their inactive/df relatives as sort of a "conversation stopper". I do this merely to take the attention off of me and to make them realize that perhaps, they needn't be so concerned with me.....they have other things closer to home that they can worry about if they want to worry. If they haven't been successful in reeling their relatives back in, whom they love and have nurtured in the cult, why are they wasting time trying to shame me back in..someone they don't really care about? It just sort of forces them to answer and think about something they don't want to and sometimes puts them on the defense like they do to other's when they make their unsolicited guilt trip vists. When they stop by, they do so from a position of superiority so when they are asked a few little personal questions, it seems to humble them abit. It's a small diversionary tactic, that's all. I don't think my asking about their relatives makes them go and hassle them and that certainly isn't my intention. Heck, I'm on the relatives side!
Thanks for your posts and the opportunity to rant!