i stopped attending meetings all together in january 2015. before that my attendance was irregular at best.
my husband followed suit a few months ago after months of research, agony, and indecision on his part.
from the very beginning i laid low and did not share with anyone what i found out about the witnesses because i did not want to be df'd.
I don't want to drag things out or play some kind of catch me if you can game
This is a common feeling but paradoxical. If you are prepared to jump in and get DF or DA, then why worry if they play a catch me if you can game. Just ignore them completely and whether they "catch you" or not will become meaningless to you.
i stopped attending meetings all together in january 2015. before that my attendance was irregular at best.
my husband followed suit a few months ago after months of research, agony, and indecision on his part.
from the very beginning i laid low and did not share with anyone what i found out about the witnesses because i did not want to be df'd.
on the one hand , if their is a disaster , a natural occurrence such as an earthquake , tsunami , tornadoes etc, the witness armageddon barometer kicks in .many fence sitters , relatives etc.
flock to the nearest k.h.
for a time.. on the other hand ,.
Makemeanunbeliever- God will be the judge if they are right or wrong, not an internet bulletin board,
This is the sort of defeatist attitude that keeps people within the cultural religion of their birth. "God will be the judge if Scientologists are right or wrong, if SDA's are right or wrong, if .....[insert current religion here]... ."
Humans can be the judge of whether or not JWs are right or wrong, because there is endless evidence on which to base an intelligent decision, including over 100 years of lies, misquotes, constant doctrinal changes, simplistic doctrine based on eisegesis, and failed exclamations of the world's end.
on the one hand , if their is a disaster , a natural occurrence such as an earthquake , tsunami , tornadoes etc, the witness armageddon barometer kicks in .many fence sitters , relatives etc.
flock to the nearest k.h.
for a time.. on the other hand ,.
this took quite a while this evening.
so worth it though.
hope you enjoy!
i am now a jedi, so trust me on this.. .
why dis-associate, you are just playing by the wts rules?
how can you dis-associate anyway, you never thought you were baptised as a watchtower society member, you thought your dedication was to god, so why formally disassociate from something you did not formally join?
Dubstepped - It is not a personal attack when saying not to DA. It is a warning to consider the consequences. Many want to DA on the spot, in that period of initial rage on finding out their entire life has been based on a lie. It takes time to settle and work out what is the best course of action, and whether to DA or fade is better suited to individual circumstances.
It is painted as some weak way out, doing the elders a favor, etc.
I don't know if you read the article Disassociate or Fade?, but there I recommend that if a person is likely to be disfellowshipped, they could DA to prevent the elders the pleasure of disfellowshipping them. I rarely see it painted as weak, rather the opposite, as a strong and more difficult option.
I personally was disfellowshipped, and that was the best thing to happen, as it was what finally what let me move on from the cult. So I recognise that disassociation can have the same affect and be the best option in order to achieve closure and move forward.
l thought it might be a good idea to have a quick reference post to remind people of the faults within the jw org.what do others think.
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tonight my dl was posted by hand by my husband (a worldly guy).
i had the luxury of being at work distracted whilst he posted it.
i have been baptised for just over 2 years and studied since 2010. i couldn't take it anymore, not just the zealous dislike/disgust for 'people in the world' (this includes my husband and 99% of my family btw) but the obvious.... the investigations into child sexual abuse.
Great thread. I have not been to a hall in 10 years and it seems like it has become far more crazy.
To put it mildly I have been depressed and anxious, I knew I had to cut all ties.
You have made a great decision and you should find a lot of the anxiety goes away.
i am now a jedi, so trust me on this.. .
why dis-associate, you are just playing by the wts rules?
how can you dis-associate anyway, you never thought you were baptised as a watchtower society member, you thought your dedication was to god, so why formally disassociate from something you did not formally join?
dubstepped - DAing is a tough enough decision without having your fellow ex-dubs looking down on you for doing it. ... Reading the article on the site refers to how awful it is to DA, how much regret can be felt. What about the freedom?
Why do you feel looked down on? No one judges you whether you da or fade. The article lists the pros and cons of both, including a heading and section that covers reasons to disassociate. Both articles discuss that people that fade or annul their baptisms will still get labelled as bad association and mostly shunned.
from the time i was a small boy - i loved rock n' roll music.
beatles, rolling stones, led zeppelin, hendrix.
i started getting slighted for the music i listened to as i lay in my bedroom listening on headphones to led zeppelin's song " black dog " at age 14 with my elder dad looking suspiciously at me as i'm rocking out .
