Posts by feelinglost

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WERE THERE ANY DOUBLE LIVES IN YOUR CONGREGATION?

by badboy in

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any takers?

feelinglost

I have to agree with Mary- I am sure the list would be shorter if we listed those who didn't.

I really truly did try not to. But in school, it was nearly impossible. I even saw my very good, no double-life leading friend once act as a double-life leader would. She and I went out to a club (GASP!), drank (although it was legal there) and dance with worldly boys- and later in the night- she made out with one of them!! She was probably the best witness I knew- so no one is impervious to it- even if just for one night.

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D'Fing and Love

by I-CH-TH-U-S in

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i once talked to a jw about disfellowshipping and was curious to how can this be showing a christly love when you all out turn your back on them.

he gave me an answer about rightousness and unrightrousness having no fellowship (which is biblical) but it didnt make sense to me.

didnt seem applicable in many ways.

feelinglost

Its clear: quit the sinning= be welcomed back into the fold

I am one of the sinners who committed a moral sin. But them allowing me to stay one of Jehovah's Witnesses, or even come back didn't involve quitting the sinning. I wish it had. My ultimatum wasn't stop sinning or be df'd. It was get rid of the man you love or be df'd. They even told me if it had been a witness I was sinning with, I probably wouldn't have been getting df'd. We would be counseled. And allowed to stay together. Isn't that a bit of a double standard- their way of trying to control who I was with? I know we aren't supposed to marry a worldly person, but if someone does start dating a worldly person, and keeps their relationship clean, they aren't forced to get rid of that person.

And df me wasn't a last resort for them. They never tried a first resort. I moved out of my parents house, and had stopped attending meetings 2-3 months before then. The elders started calling me because they had heard things 7-8 months after I stopped attending meetings- I wasn't even trying to associate with witnesses! No one ever came to see how I was, offer encouragement or anything while I was living on my own away from meetings. They got some information from someone, and bam- they started calling and showing up, not to talk or try to help me, but to see if it was true and kick me out. Loving- if that's love, I'm scared to see what hate is.

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Stuck here in NOLA

by Bryan in

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well, i came here to pack up the apartment and the crazy storm has inched it's way a little more east every day.

so now i'm stuck.

the winds started last night.

feelinglost

Hoping the best for you down there. Our thoughts are with you. Stay safe ande keep us updated (the best you can).

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DID you miss any good TV programmes while attending meetings etc?

by badboy in

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any takers?

feelinglost

I never really got into friends because it was on thursday nights- now i have pretty much caught up on all the reruns. I still haven't seen all of the episodes from the first three seasons, but most of them. And it was great to start watching Friends before it was all re-runs.

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New to this site

by tnthell in

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wow,,, finaly a site that can let a disgraesed and disfellowshipped jw finally, have there say, i had the jw's hanging over my head for years and senior members of my family drop in and out of the sect as and when it suits them, dragging any remaiming members with.

im now free and relived so are you too, .

and im probably kinder and non racial than those left in, and i dont live under a shadow of fear, or wear a flowery dress, or high neck tops and granny shoes,.

feelinglost

Welcome! I have been on here for a few months now, and it has been so helpful to me so far! It's great to read about other people's experiences with the JW's and to get some "light" of our own.

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Did you ever have a "worldly" boyfiend or girlfriend at school?

by PaulJ in

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if you grew up as a dub, were you ever a bit rebellious and have a "worldly" boyfriend or girlfriend?

feelinglost

I constantly had worldly boyfriends. I was definitely boy crazy (even got my then best JW friend to be boy crazy). I would have crushes on JW boys, but would always go after the ones at school. Middle school not so much, but once I hit high school (and changed a lot) and got noticed by boys at school. I went to school with a couple of JW boys, but they never ratted on me. Actually the only person who did once, was the female cousin of one of my old JW friends, who was not a JW, didn't go to meetings, really didn't give a crap, but felt it would be fun to tell her mom on me. B*tch. I still don't like her today, but now for various reasons. But my worldly "boyfriends" in high school would never last long- I would start feeling guilty (not to mention like others said, not like I could so anywhere with them, although occasionally I would), so I would break up with them within 2-3 weeks. And one of the guys was so nice to me- I always regretted breaking up with him. And then my first JW boyfriend at 17. He actually would have turned out to be a good guy, but after we broke up (which was just a big misunderstanding), he got involved with a very bad influence (an alledged JW girl in Ohio), and he turned into an ass. Acted like even more of a worldly boy than some worldly boys I knew. So oh well.

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I think those of us who leave are special in many ways

by JustTickledPink in

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i had the opportunity to have lunch with an old jw friend of mine recently.

it was quite surreal.

i have forgotten the absolute depression and control they feel.. whereas i am happily yacking away about the improvements in my life, college, job, etc... happy marriage, going on vacation ... blah blah blah.. she says how she's still married but unhappily but she is waiting on the 'new system' and sorta chatters on about how 'bad' this system is getting, etc.

feelinglost

Actually Def'd, you missed the difference in the original comment. It had nothing to do with Matthew. You missed the key words:

Whereas I am happily yacking away about the improvements in my life, college, job, etc... happy marriage, going on vacation ... blah blah blah.
She says how she's still married but unhappily but she is waiting on the 'new system' and sorta chatters on about how 'bad' this system is getting, etc.

Not to mention the fact that since we have all come from being Witnesses, we have at some point obviously taken "note" because at one time we all believed what you unfortunately still believe.

But that scripture is interesting, because witnesses do all of those things also. But I didn't catch the part where it said there was something wrong with "happily" doing those things vs. "unhappily." Must have been slipped into one of the Watchtower's, something like how the generation change was.

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Isn't it amazing?

by free2beme in

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i was watching the news coverage of the disaster and seeing how bad it is turning.

i find it so amazing how as human beings, we can become like animals in our nature in seconds.

killing, lotting, stealing and showing no love of neighbor.

feelinglost

Oh, and one must know, in the Kingdom Hall right now there is a Witness asking, "how are the brother and sisters, and can I do anything to help THEM" ... as we know they do not care about anyone outside the fold,

That is too true. Not to mention the fact that I am sure all the Witnesses are discussing at meetings how this shows just how close to the end we are.

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Witnesses Gone Wild

by DevonMcBride in

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has anyone lurked on the jw sites on myspace.com?

i was surprised to see how much partying goes on.

jw's nj, pa, ny.

feelinglost

I clicked on the links you put in. I noticed how young most of them were when they got baptized. A lot at 12, 13, 14 years old. To me, that is young. I don't even think I was fully ready or knew what I was getting myself into and I was 16. If we could only lead those kids elsewhere.

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Thirteen

by Cygnus in

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i always liked holly hunter as an actress.

i'm old enough to have a 13 year old kid.

are modern-day families/divorced families as messed up as this late-night showtime film portrays?

feelinglost

It's scary to think about how true to life that movie can possibly be for some people. I had a friend when I was younger (and a JW- neither of us were baptized)- her parents were divorced, mom remarried, Dad a drug addict who could barely take care of himself let alone her- she got involved with a 22 year old guy, did some drugs, and got pregnant. All at 13 (actually just shy of 13). Sad.