I don't need you to worry for me cause I'm alrightI think this is the perfect song to sing to the JW's. My mom was always a Billy Joel fan....maybe I could use this on her.....
I don't want you to tell me it's time to come home
I don't care what you say anymore, this is my life
Go ahead with your own life and leave me alone
I never said you had to offer me a second chance
I never said I was a victim of circumstance
I still belong, don't get me wrong
And you can speak you mind
But not on my time
They will tell you you can't sleep alone
In a strange place
Then they'll tell you you can't sleep
With somebody else
Ah, but sooner or later you sleep
In your own space
Either way it's okay
You wake up with yourself
I don't need you to worry for me cause I'm alright
I don't want you to tell me it's time to come home
I don't care what you say anymore, this is my life
Go ahead with your own life and leave me alone
I never said you had to offer me a second chance
I never said I was a victim of circumstance
I still belong, don't get me wrong
And you can speak you mind
But not on my time
I don't care what you say anymore, this is my life
Go ahead with your own life and leave me alone
feelinglost
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Just listening to the radio- the Billy Joel song "My Life" is perfect!
by feelinglost ini don't need you to worry for me cause i'm alright.
i don't want you to tell me it's time to come home.
i don't care what you say anymore, this is my life.
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CONGRATULATIONS ELLIE!
by diamondblue1974 in.
just to let you know that at last... ellie gave birth to baby girl over the weekend; georgia weighed 8lb 10oz and both baby and mother are fine....i thought you might like to send your congratulations to her and her partner.. .
db74
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feelinglost
Congratulations Ellie! She is adorable!
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Another one sucked in
by feelinglost inevery once in a while i can get my mom to give me the latest on what's happening with the people i used to know and/or be friends with.
she tells me they ask about me (yeah, right, why didn't they ask about me, or rather come talk to me, when i had stopped going to meetings before i got df'd?).
so anyways, she says guess who's getting baptized?
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feelinglost
Every once in a while I can get my mom to give me the latest on what's happening with the people I used to know and/or be friends with. She tells me they ask about me (yeah, right, why didn't they ask about me, or rather come talk to me, when I had stopped going to meetings before I got df'd?). So anyways, she says guess who's getting baptized? And I say who. My old roommate (and ex best friend's) husband. The one who swore up and down while I was around them that he would never join. Maybe occasionally go to meetings and what not, but he would never join. Not into organized religion. I'm sure he's probably doing it for her.
Oh, and then I said, oh, so he's doing it this weekend? And she said yes, and then goes, "how did you know when it was?" I said oh, i know a lot of things. It was kind of funny to make her wonder. Cause I knew when all the ones in my town were.
Another poor person got suckered in. My husband thought it was hilarious. I would love to show up this weekend, and as he is getting baptized yell "SUCKER!"
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3 hour tour - my sd interrogation.
by wordlywife inmy poor step-daughter went through what is called a jc meeting, 3 hours worth.
they have given her a week to decide before they df her.
she is only 18. gads.
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feelinglost
I attribute the high return rate to the tight loving family they were to each other. The family never stopped talking to the DFd one, had them over to dinner, dined with the dfd ones new worldly girlfriends and boyfriends showing they were loving people.
And they always sat with the dfd one at the hall. You could see the support.
But the proof is in the high rate of return.
...have treated me as if I am dead.
Newsflash!!!
That does not work to make people want to come back.I have tried to explain this very thing to my mother. But she doesn't get it. She too treats me as if I have the plague (she still talks to me once every couple of months, but I think that is mostly b/c she is married to my unbelieving father). When I first got df'd- i had thought about going back to get my relationship with my mother back- it was worth it to me. But after she listened to people telling her to not be around me and not go to my wedding (in the hopes it would bring me back), I gotta say I'm not really feeling like returning- and quite frankly, my new "worldly" husband doesn't really want me to either (he understood at first if i had wanted to).
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hello all - new here
by GoingGoingGone inhello everyone, this is my first post.... i'm in the process of fading after being a jw my entire life (almost).
i don't go to meetings anymore..... hubby's an elder, and boy, is he mad.
he still makes the kids go with him to meetings, service, etc... they hate it and i feel sorry for them, but there's not much i can do about it.. i've been feeling lonely today, i do miss my friends sometimes, and i have really good friends, but since i don't go to meetings i never see them much anymore.
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feelinglost
Welcome. I am pretty new here also (df'd for 3 years). I don't post a lot, but it is nice to know that everyone here seems helpful and understanding. And it's nice to know you have somewhere to turn to that has people who understand what you're going through or thinking. I came here because I needed some people who would understand what it was like to be a witness.
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Name Some Double Standards of Jehovah's Witnesses
by minimus inhere's one: a jw cannot lie ' liars are subject to the "second death".
but if you "lie" for the interests of the organization, suddenly it's not a "lie" after all!
because the opposers are not "entitled" to know.
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feelinglost
The elders basically told me that if I had been seeing a JW guy and doing the same things with him as I was with my worldly boyfriend, I wouldn't have to break it off with my JW boyfriend. But since he was worldly, I either had to break it off with him, or be df'd.
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Phone Witnessing...
by RichieRich inin my congregation, there is a well established group that does phone witnessing every thursday.
the society actually encourages us to try other avenues of ministry, however it seems like phone witnessing is hurting more than its helping.... even i, the covert apostate, don't mind phone witnessing.
i mean whats not to love?air conditioningfoodsitting around and talkinggirlsdid i mention food?.
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feelinglost
My mother does telephone witnessing, with some other gals from the KH who have a hard time getting out in service (elderly, disabled, or just have a hard time getting around). They all get together at one of the ladie's homes, and take turns. And yes, a good deal of the time is spent socializing. Their territory used to be a few high security apartment homes for the elderly where you could only get in if invited. So they'd call there instead. They got their info through some kind of directory.
I would do it sometimes with them on school vacations and during the summer for 2 reasons usually. 1) Too lazy to go out in service- was always nice to sit around, eat some food, talk with everyone, and as said, sit in the air. 2) One of the ladies who would do the telephoning with my mother had a hot son (who at one time had gone to meetings, but stopped, joined "the world," lived it up, and dumb boy, then returned). I always enjoyed flirting with him.
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Attracted to a Jehovah Witness
by AJNG99 ini am new to this board.
i am not sure where to post this, so i'll give this place a try.
don't ask how i stumbled across this board.
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feelinglost
I was a JW. But I was never very strong in the religion. I often dated outside of the religion, but always broke it off because I knew it would never work (they would never become a JW, and I thought I would never leave). But then I met my husband. And I tried to warn him to run away. But I guess it was just meant to be. I couldn't push him away as I had done with other "worldly" guys.
But a witness who is stronger in the religion than I was would not even think about dating a "worldly" person. But someone less strong in the religion might think about it. And then even do it. But like others said, if he was to start dating you, you would probably not meet his family for a long time (my husband didn't meet my parents for three months- was afraid to tell my JW mom- would have introduced him to dad, but didn't want dad to have to lie to mom). And once he did meet my mom, mom tried to pull him in. But I ended up doing wrong things, was disfellowshipped, and now my mother and I barely talk (not by my choice). It has been a long and heartbreaking road. And it's confusing and upsetting to my husband (although what guy wouldn't be happy about not really ever having to deal with their mother-in-law). My mom didn't even come to our wedding.
So as others said, it will save you a lot of confusion, possible heartbreak, and frustration to just never take another glance at this man. He may be a nice guy, but unfortunately, you don't know if that is just nice from being raised that way, or for some other reason. And once you get involved with the JW's or someone who is a JW, your life is never the same.
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Another marriage bites the dust because of JW beliefs
by unbeliever ini know very few people who have been successfully married where 1 spouse is a witness and the other is not.
i know there are a few examples on this board.. a couple that i know irl have split after nearly 25 years of marriage because of the stupid shunning shit.
one of their 3 children got df'd 6 months ago and that is when everything fell apart apparently.
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feelinglost
When my JW mother first told my non-jw father (who hates the witnesses for ruining my mother and their marriage, thinks it's a cult and that my mother is brainwashed) that was she was not coming to my wedding b/c I had been df'd, his first reaction was he told her to get out of the house. He wanted her out by the next morning and he wanted a divorce. But he said he thought about it afterwards and realized it really wouldn't help anything or solve anything by kicking her out (I think too Dad felt a little guilty- Mom is disabled- were she not, Dad might have stuck to his guns). The religion has certainly ruined my parents marriage. I have always wondered what it would be like if Mom wasn't a part of it.
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Truth is, I am just sick of being a witness.
by joelbear inwhy do people get disfellowshipped.
i mean, when i met with the elders and told them i had gone to key west and done the homo thing, they said, well if you don't do it again we won't df you.
well the truth was, i just didn't want to be a jehovah's witness any more, so i said, well i'll be doing it again i reckon.. isn't this true of most people who get df'ed.
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feelinglost
When I was df'd- I was given a choice- say I won't do it again, which I could have said, but along with that they wanted me to dump my non-jw boyfriend, which I wasn't willing to do. So I guess I took door #2- the df'ing.