Posts by arwen

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Can you let go?

by whyamihere in

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as i was sitting in a restaurant with my friend briana(ex-jw), we started talking about how we see other ex-jw's inability to let go.

i know many have suffered and endured horrific events or trials as jw's, which i assume it would be hard to let go.

though, do we really have the ability to let go lead a normal life with not thinking twice or having fear in our actions?.

merrymagdelene is back home and agreed to me letting you know that her mother died on friday morning...understandably she doesnt feel much like posting at the moment..but will let us know her feelings as soon as she is able...the memorial service will be held on the 29th... (((((merry))))))

arwen

My deepest sympathy to you and your family at this sad time.

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coping after being df'd

by JapanBoy in

i am a total newbie to this forum i was df'd in feb 2005 and ever since then have had problems to varying degrees.

i sometimes just can't notivate myself at work and feel empty and almost hollow.

it's as if i've lost something that i will never somehow seem to regain.

arwen

Wlcome to the Board. You will find encouragement and support here and make new friends as well. You can read the real life horror stories of others and see how they managed to not only survive but thrive. It is very difficult to get rid of all that baggage that we carry and the guilt that the org had put on us. We need to take the time to get to know ourselves and gain more confidence to be who we really are. I hope you find some help here. Sometimes just posting your problems and getting them out can be a real help in dealing with them. Take care

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Have any of you been to e-watchman?

by Silvia Plath in

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http://www.e-watchman.com/.

this site is also made up of many ex and current jw's, the difference is they all remain deeply committed to christianity and bible study, but are extremely distrustful of the watch tower orginanization and consider it to be a "pharisee" or a "false prophet" what the bible warns of.

from what i am reading they seem to be the beginning movements of a break away sect, many of them praise russell who seems to have been more spiritual and laid back and trace the demise of the movement with rutherford, who began introducing all the messed up rules they have now.

arwen

The e-watchman site is where I started this journey. I figured since he was still a Witness that it was not an apostate site and I read there quite a bit. This was before he was disfellowshipped. Then one day someone left the link to this board and I did the deed.............. I came here and read and read and read. Finally, one day I decided to take the first baby step and post and from that day I have never looked back and I have never been happier. I rarely go to e-watchman's site now. I am here every day though. You guys are my backup for now.

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Little things that mean alot

by beautifulisfree in

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friends

okay i hate to sound mean but witnesses in my opinion are mean and rude (that once included me) without even realizing it, maybe.

because the little things that non-witnesses do in everyday life for others and their family mean alot to ones they love or complete strangers.. what are some little things you can do know that show someone you care..that you weren't allowed to do before?.

1. saying "bless you" after someone sneezes

arwen

Lifting my glass in a toast to the bride and groom at a wedding.

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Is this site ever used for on-line dating?

by frozen one in

i was reading another thread that asked, "do you see yourself remarrying?

" i noticed some of the replies mentioned that getting involved with another xjw would be interesting.

i have thought that also.

arwen

Brigid: I have a good history of matchmaking. I introduced my husband's two sisters to their husbands and they are all still married years later. I would love to introduce my 37 year old son to you. He and his wife split up four years ago and he thinks he will just remain single after being burnt. His birthday is May 17th as I know you are interested in stuff like that. Sometimes I can see two people here on the boards that I think would make a good pair. We are a unique bunch here and we understand each other like no other group. We have all been there, done that, got the tee shirt, lost it............looking for a new one!

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