Please do all the reading and researching you can and get his truthful answers before you even consider marriage. I am sure he is a wonderful man but he is controlled by an organization that tells him what and what no he is able to do. He has to obey these "men" to the ultimate or he will be ousted. He will be forever trying to please these "men" and your needs, wants, and emotions will be last on his list. My ex became a JW after five years of our marriage and for the next five years I was so damaged that I will never be the same person again. When I tried to end the marriage he kidnapped our two sons and I didn't see them or know where they were for six month. They were four and nine. They were assisted by different Witness congregations in different provinces. So tread very carefully my dear girl....Life is too short to be so uphappy.
Posts by arwen
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52Should I marry a JW ?
by curiousabouthim ini am new to the jw world, not one, but do love one.
met a man who down to the tee is amazing.
he is a great man, the only thing i am not so sure about is his "religious" beliefs.
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When the Sunday speaker did not show up.....
by target ini remember that happening a few times.
one sunday morning my son went up to a young elder and said "hey, i thought you were giving the talk today in xxx xxxxx.
the look of horror on the elder's face!
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arwen
we would just have the WT study and then go home. It was such a relief...It seemed to happen quite a lot as well.
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Canadian JWs voting YES on city tax-exemption poll
by Had Enough ini just got an email today telling me of an email circulation among the jws about an newspaper article in coquitlam, british columbia in canada.
currently, the jws are not exempt from paying city taxes.
it reports that the council is reviewing its policy on tax breaks to be given to certain groups.
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arwen
I just voted......unfortunately the yes side is winning. Everyone try to go to this link and on the right side just click no.....
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I can be honest here.
by RichieRich in(sorry hit enter a little early).
so, i looked at my cell phone today, and i had a voicemail from my mother.. i called my voicemail and listened to it:.
"hi richie, this is your mother, just wanted to say i hope you're doing ok, and i love you.
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arwen
Hi Richie; I am sure it must have been difficult for your mom to break down and call you but be very careful. You don't want to be hurt again. Take it slow. Write a "sweet" letter or call and leave a voicemail when you know she will be at the meeting. Be sure to tell her you love her. As someone said; She is a victim herself although she doesn't realize it. Be kind to her. It will come back to you. I'll keep you in my prayers...Take care....Love Arwen
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Strange Habits You Realised You Have
by Stephanus ini recently realised i have a strange habit that's been noticed by others: i look in people's fridges when i'm over at their house.
it's just a reflex action, and i only recently became aware of it.. what strange habits have you discovered that you didn't realise you had?.
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arwen
I stand with one foot resting on top of the other. People have pointed that out to me.
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Crosses (on necklaces and hanging in your home)
by earthtone inafter reading mary's post on crosses.
i got to thinking.......... how do people feel about wearing crosses as a memorial or remembrance of what jesus went through for us?.
does anyone remember witnesses using this explanation as to why they don't wear crosses or hang them in their home?
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arwen
I would love to buy a cross necklace or have someone give me one for a gift but I don't know if I am mentally ready for that yet. The place where I am now in my head is kind of blah.....I am thinking seriously about seeing a therapist. When I start "thinking" I get angry. I need to cross a few more bridges before I get the cross....
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Did you block out your Witness life?
by achickwwit ini stopped going to meetings at age 19 or 20. my brother had been df'd.
my sister and her new bethalite husband had left the organization labeled as apostates, and my single mom followed suit.
i was pretty much raised by the congregation, though i lived with my isolated mother.
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arwen
Welcome to the board. I hope you can find the healing you need here. I know I am... I am glad you have found a good person to be with. My husband is a wonderful man..never a JW and has always supported me and my decisions. I try to forget things about my "other life" but a lot of the time it is there just looking over my shoulder...I am hoping to lose that someday....Take care..
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Let's All Say "Thank You" To The People Who Run This Site
by Arthur ini realize that threads like this have been done before, but i don't think that it hurts to do one again.. i personally appreciate this website so much.
it has been an absolute treasure-trove of information, research material, emotional support, and simple enjoyment.
and, it's free of charge!
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arwen
Many, many thanks to Simon and his partners for giving us a place to heal....
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August In Photos (OFG Is Still Alive)
by OpenFireGlass inbonus pictures.... bear scratching post.... .
some of the mess i have to clean up..... .
my dog waiting for me in cab of the truck.... .
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arwen
Thanks for sharing those beautiful photos. They are magnificient. True real beauty. What type of camera did you use? Take care in those big bad woods up there! Love Arwen
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We came here to Heal our Wounds
by OUTLAW in.....now we tend to the wounded..whats at the end of tomorrow?...outlaw
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arwen
My wounds are still very fresh and I am thankful that you guys are here. You are all doing a great job.