Man.. getting prego to save the relationship.. ugh. I hope women aren't really doing this. I was accused of doing this with a guy that was just a ... well... fling i guess. I left him and a month later found out I was prego. I didn't want him at all!!! To me that is ego talking.
Rayvin
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????????? why am i feeling this way????????
by kittyeatzjdubs ini have wanted one thing for the past month or so...i don't know why i want this or what...but it's driving me crazy!!!!
ok...ready?.
i want to get pregnant....... i know that i have no business whatsoever having a child right now.
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I AM GETTING MORE BOLD! (BUT I LIKE IT)
by stillAwitness inso i was at a friend's house (for a gathering) blah!
and i noticed she had one of those porfessional pitcures done that looked like her at prom.
i asked her about it and she said quickly "no, that was a formal i went to last year) i said "oh, so exaclty what is a formal?
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Rayvin
My first thought was the Elder was behaving this way because it was YOUR son. He may have thought your son wasn't truly interested but posing as such just to poke and prod.
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????????? why am i feeling this way????????
by kittyeatzjdubs ini have wanted one thing for the past month or so...i don't know why i want this or what...but it's driving me crazy!!!!
ok...ready?.
i want to get pregnant....... i know that i have no business whatsoever having a child right now.
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Rayvin
I went through the same thing. I new logically I shouldn't but still WANTED it. I got pregnant at age 22. The second time I got prego I was 24 and I did it on purpose even though I was single mom and didn't NEED another child.
I psycho analyze myself alot and I think I may have wanted kids early because I was lonely. Not just for family but for unconditional love from someone. Also .. I may have been looking for a higher purpose for my life. It couldn't be going to a club to get drunk and seduce men. It couldn't be pioneering since I was having too many struggles w/ the JWs as it was. What greater acheivement then attempting to raise a wonderful person.
My only suggestion is to keep saying over and over again in your head that you can have kids but will choose to wait untill.. (list what you logically know you need to do). Get on the birth control shot that is good for 3 months at a time. Every time the Kid feeling creeps back in just keep saying it over and over again.
I hope this helps some.. I am here for you - to support you and whatever decision you make. But we all know emotions are hard to control and logic is the constant. ... Each decision has pros and cons.
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I AM GETTING MORE BOLD! (BUT I LIKE IT)
by stillAwitness inso i was at a friend's house (for a gathering) blah!
and i noticed she had one of those porfessional pitcures done that looked like her at prom.
i asked her about it and she said quickly "no, that was a formal i went to last year) i said "oh, so exaclty what is a formal?
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Rayvin
I know what you mean ! The other day 4 brothers showed up at my parents house to encourage my mom. I was there to take care of my dad who was coming home from surgery. One of them asked my mom when she was baptised and she answered " In '75 when all those other people were leaving it made room for me". !!! "mom.. what do you mean by that" (playing dumb). " oh... well in '75 alot of jws left when nothing happened". "oh" i say " like the talk 'Millions Now Living Will Never Die." A different elder spoke up saying.. " That must have only happened in the U.S. I was away when that talk came out and it didn't happen there.. only in the U.S. " Then the first brother asked mom what it was that made her leave her other religion and join JWs. She said it was the lies about heaven and hell and if her old religion could lie about that.. what else are they lying about. Bingo!. Later I told mom " that was the most intelligent statement I heard her say today! If your religion can LIE about one thing.. what else are they lying about..? mom?" She may get it but she wont do anything about it. "isn't it interesting mom.. that while you were studying to be JW they wanted you to use your Independant thinking to understand how wrong your old religion was and convert. ONce you convert you are to not use Independant thinking anymore."
Normally I wouldn't have said anything. Knowledge is Power!
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THE NEW ATTACKS ON EDUCATION ARTICLES
by kristyann inhey all... i'm new to this forum... i was wondering if anyone could help me out.... i have been reading all over the place that there are a bunch of new articles out attacking higher education/college.
which issues are these in?
i heard that they're in more than one issue.... is it watchtower or awake or both?
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Rayvin
Your welcome! I did type it all but I enjoy doing it since I like the practice.
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What silly rules did your congregation make up?
by weinermcgee inelders were famous for making up stupid rules with no bible base at all as an ego trip i guess, what were some of yours?
i am not talking about the stupid rules that we all had to follow, just the congregation specific silly ones.. 1. having to button your jacket while on stage (this was later changed due to all the elders having a beer gut).
2. suits only or no privledges.
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Rayvin
Two door cars meant you weren't thinking of others ... for field service.
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Ever wonder why...........
by knot4me injw's never get dfed for being fat?
please don't take this offensively if you are overweight, i'm a little chubby myself.
i'm not judging.
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Rayvin
Gluttony of food is just excessive eating. So an elder would first have to make an understanding of what is excessive. But I would think that since no one can say for each person how much is too much to drink before you are a drunkard..they couldn't do the same for food intake. They will also say that eating to much doesn't effect judgement and put you in situations that could lead to more evil so they can't be so involved in that matter.
But for me.. man.. give me two bars of chocolate and i am a HAPPY drunkwithchocolate WOMAN!!!..
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What silly rules did your congregation make up?
by weinermcgee inelders were famous for making up stupid rules with no bible base at all as an ego trip i guess, what were some of yours?
i am not talking about the stupid rules that we all had to follow, just the congregation specific silly ones.. 1. having to button your jacket while on stage (this was later changed due to all the elders having a beer gut).
2. suits only or no privledges.
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Rayvin
ya know.. I honestly don't remember any RULES that my congo had. I didn't have a very large chest at all and I could get away with wearing a backless dress (no bra) and no one said a word. Well..except an old aunt of mine. I even went to a meeting after childbirth and .. Ka Bam! the cleavage and I didn't buy any new dresses so I just wore an oldy but goody and it seemed to wear differently!!! I even couldn't keep looking down at myself!!! Still .. no word from anyone. I even made a point to make a comment.
I did wear clothes that showed my figure.. they weren't tight fitting or slutty.. it just was sewn to show a curve. The elders said I was dressing to provocativly. But then their wives wore leather mini skirts.
Daystar! Do you recall any specific rules??
Sounds like as strict as our congo was on behavior and disfellowshipping they were short on specific rules. I was more of a friend to the guys then the girls and was talking to 4 of my guy friends and was told it didn't look right for me to be doing that.
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~Your image, reputation here at JWD~
by FlyingHighNow inwhat impression do you think you make here at jwd?
what do people think of you?
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Rayvin
I don't think I have one here.
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~How did/do you personally feel about the headship arrangement?~
by FlyingHighNow ini feel that headship is one of the most damaging doctrines taught in the wtbts as well as other fundy religions.
it is promoted as a way to have happier, healthier marriages and families.
in theory, maybe so.
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Rayvin
I like the arrangment with my new husband.. we both respect each other but in major decisions.. like.. How expensive we should go on a fridge. I may know the budget and suggest not so expensive.. but he may want More POWER and want the bigger one. Your the man.. get it then. It just means he has to work harder to pay it off. (and then i get the fridge w/ none of the blame) Plus.. if something goes wrong from one of his.. final decisions.. na na na na na nah... lol
We both love and respect each other and when we don't agree I don't disagree about it in front of the kids.. I let him have his say then later on and alone we discuss it. He may have valid points and reasons for what he did and i just needed to understand him..etc Same goes the other way as well. But I don't feel anyone has the right to tell you that you can't do something that you want to do. However, the need for discussion and understanding and compromise is a must.