Posts by Rayvin

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teachers in life

by BlackSwan of Memphis in

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one of my biggest pet peeves at the k.h.

was when i would see those not in the right clique get forgotten.

so easily they would slip between the cracks.

Rayvin

My own daughter. She is 4 and she is so smart. Some would say "pop her in the mouth for the things she says" but I in some way enjoy her cander.

Last night at dinner she was eating mac'n'cheese (her choice) and asked her cousin that was sitting next to her for a french fry from his plate. I told her " no you can't since you have your own food to eat and thats his food." She replies " mom, I was talking to him not you". What I got out of it was..not you smart mouth kid.. but wow.. even at a young age they know more then we give them credit for. She learned to say that from listening to ME. She just hasn't learned that its not respectful to use it to her parents. It reminded me at how young but still smart I was while going to JW meetings. I would second guess myself since I had doubts but was told if I had enough faith I shouldn't have doubts. I would want to say stuff back to the elders but felt I wasn't supposed to or I would get in trouble. I knew to respect my parents and not say smart-mouth comments to them but I felt compelled to say things like that to the elders but still didn't.

I will from now on allow my kids to voice their opinions -if said disrespectfully I will just teach them a better way to say it. Not teach them that thier ideas don't matter.

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At 5$ a gallon for gas, will you modify your driving habits?

by JH in

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http://www.suntimes.com/output/news/cst-nws-gas17.html

5 bucks a gallon for gas?

expert sees it in 2006 .

Rayvin

I just bought a Van and its $40 to fill up and that was before it became $2.50 a gallon.

I don't visit my folks as much. Used to see them once a week now its gonna be more like.. once a month.

Luckily my kids live across from the school and they can walk. And my husband drives all day but his job pays for his gas and so if I need stuff at the store I just get him to go for me.

If gas was $5 a gallon.. geez.. I would invest in a good bike or moped..something.

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What's Your View of Spanking (Children)?

by minimus in

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have you done it?

would you still?

is it ever acceptable?

Rayvin

lol. because dogs are unconditionaly people pleasers. Even dogs that are beat love their master. Kids are complex thinking beings. They can lie to get what they want and manipulate from a VERY young age. I am not saying spanking as a general rule is ok. I am saying try everything you can other then swatting to help raise your child to become a responsible , loving adult. But if the child is resistant to other ways and a gentle swat helps them remember how they are supposed to behave then so be it. Some parents don't spank but they argue w/ no resolution in front of kids.. they are mean to each other emotionally. They squash kids hopes and dreams. That is a good way to ruin a kid. There are far more things to be careful of then whether a person occasionally swats a kids butt. The overall picture is are they showing unconditional love, respect and laughs. "It takes a village to raise a child"

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what will you not do now that...

by BlackSwan of Memphis in

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now that you are no longer a witness, whether you are d/a d/f faded/inactive, .

what is the one thing you will not do?

pace.

Rayvin

Think I am better than people and have pity for people just because the believe differently.

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how long...

by Ellie in

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how long do you all spend on jwd each day?

Rayvin

just a couple of hours.. in and out while taking care of the kiddos and housework.. Fun Fun Fun..

I come here for the social aspect. Since I don't get out much..lol

J/k .. i just spent all day yesterday w/ my folks.

I could bust into a meeting for adult interaction. lol

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What are you listening to right now....

by desbah in

for me i got into nirvanva again...listening to "lithium" chills me out

Rayvin

kids watching 'Jimmy Neutron'

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Ouija boards Do you feel they are real or not?Any personal experiences?

by Ticker in

i've had several expereiences with ouija boards, some interesting, some disturbing, and as skeptical as i try to be i have to admit i have seen it personally say things and do things that i can not logically explain.

some say its your sub-conscience, some say its spirits, others say its demons.

i am just wondering if any of you have had experiences with the ouija board, what they were, and what you believe about them, supernatural or just another simple amusement?

Rayvin

If its all in the mind then we should all have the power to conjure at will. No ouija board needed.

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Demonic exorcism by a JW elder

by out of the box in

we moved into an apartment on the 2nd floor.

we were jws at the time, and the family on the first floor under us was studying.. the girl downstairs started hearing noises during the night and finally hearing steps up to the side of her bed.

she was so scared she hadn't slept in a while and was so tired.

Rayvin

It was the lawyer that was keeping His demons there.

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What's Your View of Spanking (Children)?

by minimus in

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have you done it?

would you still?

is it ever acceptable?

Rayvin

I was spanked real hard as a child. A swat for each word "Dont you ever do that again ......"etc. Mom even told me that she would stop when I cried so she would know that it got through to me. All that I got was upset at being hurt so bad by my mother that is supposed to love me. Oh.. and she used a belt and was swinging at my butt. Sometimes the buckle would get me cause I would be running around the room to get away from her.

I would never do as she does. Spank that much w/ that much force and doing so out of anger. I rarely swat my kids on the hand or hiney. But I do and my dad laughs at me for it cause he says its not a spanking.

My girls are very smart and sharp tongued at times. If I take away toys etc.. they just ask " So .. when am i getting it back".. Time - outs don't work.. but I still use them. My youngest actually has asked for swats versus time-out since its over quicker..lol

My oldest has been lying and trying to get her sis in trouble and writing down 100 times -I will not Lie- didn't work so I gave her a dirty job for when she lied again - she had to clean up dog poopy from the back yard w/ a pooper scooper and gloves and a trash bag. - I am trying everything other then spanking.

Some claim the job of pooper scooper is wrong to do as well. Something has to work. If I say "no TV for a week" they are fine reading books and playing toys and making a mess in their room. If I say no toys the just read or go outside and play. If I say no going outside they just take a nap. UGH!!!

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JWs are not a cult................

by vitty in

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...............or so i thought.

when you were an active jw, how did you feel when ppl accused you of being a cult !!!!!!!!!

and do you think its a cult now your out ?

Rayvin

My dad (JW) told me that a while ago he was talking Trinity w/ someone and that person told him that he is just brain-washed. I said " well dad, in a way we are. We are told to just trust what they say on the stage and not do our own research out of other books." Dad says " well, that is more for the kind of people that read stuff from other places and believe them blindly and turn away from JW teachings because of it. Its more of a safety precaution."

If someone or some group tells you over and over again all your life that the world is flat and there is no way you personally can prove or disprove and other things they say have been true then ALL THINGS they say must be true as well so why research. That is how the JW group works. You are beat to death with their beliefs and since they were right when they said you were going to be persecuted for being JW they must be right in all other things.

Hey you know.. they were right. Bad association does spoil useful habits.. I was hanging out w/ a wordly friend and he got me to smoke weed for the first time!!! And not long after that I started (gasp) thinking for myself. Relying upon my own interpretation. JWs were RIGHT!!!!!..