I think it all depends on who you are and who you're related to. I've seen children of elders get df'd, and come back several years later with "worldly" hubby and kids in tow, get reinstated, and have the congregation welcome them back as if they were celebrities. To the other extreme I've seen people who have never been df'd, been "faithful" for decades and still be treated like shit every day. I've seen some women marry "worldly" men and get df'd and others who never even got reproved. One was even used on a circuit assembly demonstration a month after she married a "worldly" man.
JW rules do not apply equally to all members.
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