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  witnoid weddings

  by katiekitten in

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  when i was a kid weddings in the troof were a big deal.

  probably because they were the main if not only excuse for a knees up.

  if someone was getting married they were not in control of the decisions about the reception.

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  Oh yes. There was usually one worldly babe who would turn up in 'normal' clothes and the menfolk would be walking strangely and drooling, and all with a disapproving expression on their faces...urgh! how unsavoury!

  And was it a rule that every bridesmaid had a choice of two colours, and two colours only? What were those colours? Peach or pink, of course! There was a fair bit of one-upmanship in our hall, much like yours KatieK! When one 'bitch' had 'deliberately (according to the sis who was about to have her thunder stolen) chosen peach when she knew another sister wanted to have peach it had to be organised on a rota basis, so weddings would be like the 'buffet' line - peach - pink - peach - pink etc...
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  Can inactives be D/F'd?

  by tabbycat in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  can inactive ex-jw's be disfellowshipped?

  i've always been interested but can't ask my mother (still a jw) for fear of upsetting her.

  if i was d/f'd, would it really mean that even my immediate family would 'shun' me?

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  Oh yes, it was the living in the same house thing that was the rule-bender re. D/F relatives. Oh well. I'm not planning on getting D/F deliberately, and hate the thought of it being announced to all the old judgemental busy-bodies in my old cong. It would just confirm their (wrong) assumptions. When someone is DF's it seems like a large proportion of JW's thrive on the drama and guess the worst case scenario when someone is DF'd. Despite having known the person for years, suddenly they are deemed capable of engaging in all manner of deacadent activities. Sadly, I was never really that exciting...
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  Can inactives be D/F'd?

  by tabbycat in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  can inactive ex-jw's be disfellowshipped?

  i've always been interested but can't ask my mother (still a jw) for fear of upsetting her.

  if i was d/f'd, would it really mean that even my immediate family would 'shun' me?

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  Can inactive ex-JW's be disfellowshipped? If so, how and for what? I've always been interested but can't ask my mother (still a JW) for fear of upsetting her. If I was D/F'd, would it really mean that even my immediate family would 'shun' me? I always thought that your immediate, nuclear family could still keep in contact...
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  CAN MEN AND WOMEN JUST BE "FRIENDS"?

  by Mary in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  or will one of them invaribly end up being attracted to the other?

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  In my experience, men and women can absolutely be 'just friends'. I have several friends who I regard as a brother and I know they think of me as a sister (in fact, it's almost insulting that, to them, the thought of knowing me 'in the biblical sense' would be disgusting!!).
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  Movies to make a JW THINK

  by M.J. in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've heard various suggestions of movies to show a dub.. those of us with a spouse / family in the borg might find it pretty useful to rent such movies as just another way of chipping away at the indoctrination, or drawing attention to the wts control tactics.. one movie i saw which was somewhat helpful was one called "equilibrium", which was suggested on this board a while back.

  its about a society that has acheived peace and order by requiring everyone to repress their emotions through sedatory drugs.

  the good thing about this one was when it showed how everyone was so indoctrinated to follow the directives of the organization in charge, with every person keeping an eye on everyone else.

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  Metropolis

  1984

  The Village

  Farenheit 451
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  witnoid weddings

  by katiekitten in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  when i was a kid weddings in the troof were a big deal.

  probably because they were the main if not only excuse for a knees up.

  if someone was getting married they were not in control of the decisions about the reception.

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  tabbycat

  KatieK's message is a complete carbon copy of my childhood! Reading it was shockingly funny - I had forgotten all the nuances!!

  Do any of you remember the shiver of unease that ran through the assembled guests as the 'worldly relatives' came in? (I always found them really glamorous and exciting, I liked the frisson of danger that a bearded man or ponytailed male youth would evoke)). And if (risque!) there was a bar, there was the human equivalent of CCTV (elder) counting every bloody beverage. The other ripple that went through the crowd was when the speaker would announce that the next dance was the 'Gay Gordons' - oh how us kids sniggered and looked on in amazement that the dance hadn't been outlawed.

  I, however, was called to task after one wedding. Apparently I had set a 'bad example' to the worldlies by wearing black. It was, the elders said, satanic...(even though one of the elder's wives had given me the skirt). After this faux pas, I used to dream about wearing (gulp!) trousers to the KH, but I never had the balls...
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  Data Protection Act - a question

  by tabbycat in

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  very nervous about being here, even though i left years ago.

  i wonder if anyone can give me some advice.

  when i was a jw i was 'counselled' a few times (shortly prior to leaving), though i was never publicly 'reproved' (?

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  Thanks. I'll give it some thought. I'm a bit scared!!! Did your brother get a reply?
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  Data Protection Act - a question

  by tabbycat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  very nervous about being here, even though i left years ago.

  i wonder if anyone can give me some advice.

  when i was a jw i was 'counselled' a few times (shortly prior to leaving), though i was never publicly 'reproved' (?

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  Thanks Scully, Core and Rebel8 for your kind replies! I suppose you're right - i should just leave it. I too have relatives 'still in' and would hate for them to be involved in any 'unpleasantness'.

  I am anxious to stay anonymous at this point - I'm sure you can all empathise with why that's the case. However, my story is basically this: I was 'born into' the JWs and left when I was in my late teens. I found it very difficult to leave, but felt I had to. Despite moving on majorly still feel I have 'issues' that I'd like to resolve somehow. My mother and sister were JWs and still are but my father wasn't (and still isn't). It feels like a big breakthrough to even post on this site...
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  Data Protection Act - a question

  by tabbycat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  very nervous about being here, even though i left years ago.

  i wonder if anyone can give me some advice.

  when i was a jw i was 'counselled' a few times (shortly prior to leaving), though i was never publicly 'reproved' (?

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  Hi Rebel8, thanks for your reply. I think you're probably right about being disassociated if I ask for records to be deleted, but what I really want is to see what was written! I think I'm entitled to ask for that info, but it may well spiral into an Orwellian drama if by asking I am deemed to be acting suspiciously! (Even though I've been 'out' for over a decade...)
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  Data Protection Act - a question

  by tabbycat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  very nervous about being here, even though i left years ago.

  i wonder if anyone can give me some advice.

  when i was a jw i was 'counselled' a few times (shortly prior to leaving), though i was never publicly 'reproved' (?

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  tabbycat

  Hi there everyone. Very nervous about being here, even though I left years ago. I wonder if anyone can give me some advice. When I was a JW I was 'counselled' a few times (shortly prior to leaving), though I was never publicly 'reproved' (? can't remember the various jargon) etc. My status now, I assume, is 'inactive', as i have neither been disfellowshipped or disassociated myself. My question is whether or not I can request copies of any documentation regarding the 'counselling' I received under the UK data protection act? And if so, to whom should I make this request and will the fact i have requested it be made known publicly (or to anyone other than the specific people I request the info from)? If anyone can enligten me, I'd be most grateful.
  
  I have many more questions, but i think i'll put them forward one-by-one! Thanks x