Posts by zensim

That was hilarious - haven't laughed so hard in ages! And Steve was such a beautiful man, without prejudice and just so much love for everyone and everything.

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a sad story - can't read without tears

by sunshineToo in

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http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16759130/wid/11915773/.

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zensim

You're right ST - tears are flowing.

What an emotionally healthy household - even amidst all their trials and pain.

This bit will stick with me:

Still, she tries — and reminds Emily that her dad, brothers and other family will be there for her when she’s not. “And if you’re really, really still and quiet, I think you’ll be able to think of what I might say,” she says.

Beautiful. Thank you.

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What are your favorite top 5 science fiction movies of all time?

by new boy in

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1.star wars (first movie).

2.blade runner.

3. alien .

zensim

Oooh - I love Predator!

Like your new pic Ty.

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What are your favorite top 5 science fiction movies of all time?

by new boy in

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1.star wars (first movie).

2.blade runner.

3. alien .

zensim

lol Gregor. Are you one of the ones who sits in the cinema during a James Bond movie saying "that is not physically possible, by the laws of ...". Surely you must have one favourite?

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What are your favorite top 5 science fiction movies of all time?

by new boy in

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1.star wars (first movie).

2.blade runner.

3. alien .

zensim

1. ~~The Fifth Element~~ How the hell did I forget Matrix? (thanks Heathen)

2. ~~The Empire Strikes Back~~ The Fifth Element (high camp - love it)

3. ~~Alien~~ The Empire Strikes Back (fave movie as a kid)

4. ~~Star Wars~~ Alien (bcs Sigourney Weaver kicked arse - one of my first archetype role models)

5. ~~Contact~~ Star Wars (because it was the first one on so many counts)

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Just bought a Zune

by free2beme in

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if your not sure what a zune is, it is on this site .... www.zune.net.

... basically they are like an ipod, only with a larger screen.

i am not real in to music, but my spouse is.

zensim

No - but I want one now. Don't even have an ipod. Thanks for the info : )

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What do women REALLY want?

by Abandoned in

ok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.

but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).

so, what do women really want?

zensim

Abandoned - there are women who want that - really! But women just don't want that all the time. There is a difference between feeling adored and feeling smothered.

I have no doubt that you can love passionately and deeply - you are such a sensitive soul. A woman wants a man who knows what she wants AND what he wants. There is nothing sexier than a guy who knows how to take charge - at the right time. In my experience, men just don't get the timing right, that's all.

See your beautiful sensitivity as a gift. It allows you to be in tune with a woman on a level that unfortunately most men (sorry guys - 'a lot of men') are a bit thickheaded with. I don't know any woman who doesn't like to be surprised with a kiss on the back of the neck. BUT - if I am in a real shit - it will just annoy me further that he can't tell I really want to be left alone at that moment. Sometimes being on the right page means knowing that that is the last thing someone wants - and that is truly love and being in tune. And (just to confuse the eg) I just love it when my husband knows me even better than I know myself and gives me a big hug and won't let go, so I am forced to drop through my anger and dissolve into those tears I didn't want to cry.

There is no right or wrong answer - it is only ever what you sense is appropriate in the moment. Get out of your head and trust your heart.

Women are cyclical in nature - they ebb and flow more than men. Just tune into them - but don't lose yourself in the process. Her happiness is only 50% your happiness, the other 50% is your sense of self. Otherwise you make women feel responsible for your happiness - and that will send us running a mile.

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When we say "I'm proud of you" are we elevating ourselves above others?

by Paisley in

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i don't mean when we as parents tell our children we're proud of them for a certain accomplishment or approved behavior; but when one adult tells another adult "i'm proud of you for (doing this or that)", possibly implying that in our opinion the approved action should have been done sooner, are we elevating ourselves above them?

could it even be a left-handed compliment?

as in "im proud that you've stopped beating your wife.

zensim

Paisly - I was pondering this very q's the other day!

I think the problem is the context in which the term 'proud' has been used in the past. Generally we connect it with someone of higher position (adult, mentor, boss, leader, teacher etc) saying it to someone of less experience. And recognising someone's learning experience and respecting the way they have healthily integrated it, is not elevating ourselves. It is just generally that those who say "I'm proud of you" have already reached the 'elevated' position on similar experience themselves. But that doesn't necessarily mean the person saying "I'm proud of you" got there through any accomplishment - sometimes it can merely be an age thing.

However, I guess what you are talking about is the odd feeling when saying it to your peer. I would hazard a guess that you would probably only say it to someone you feel close to. And if that person is genuinely your friend or peer, then they will recognise that you have had the detachment to observe objectively what they have been doing and it's really an acknowledgment of how much you are happy for them, for their reward, for their determination, for their gift - and basically for them!

Maybe we should all start using it more so it loses it's elevated connotation.

It's like saying "I love myself". I remember when my daughter was around two, at that age when they say "I love Mum, I love Dad, I love Grandma etc etc through the family members". She would always finish off with "And I love myself!" with this huge smile on her face. I used to love the fact that she was so naturally emotionally intelligent. But at some unfortunate point in this culture, we have to stop thinking we love ourselves that overtly.

Anyway, I have learnt, like anything, it is not the words necessarily but the way the person says it and the intonation and intent. So use the term proudly if you really mean it