So another weird thing happened last night... we were watching a movie last night and when the credits came on, I pressed the stop button but didn't turn off the TV.... Well guess what was on the channel at that time??? Some Jehovah's witness speaking to a group of people.... I really wasn't paying attention to what it was since I was corrupting him at the time... but I knew what it was by the way they were talking, it was quite obvious... He couldn't deal with it and told me to turn it off! I didn't turn it off when I realized what it was because there was no reason to, and if I did, he would probably say that I was only doing it because I don't like what they believe... I guess he couldn't handle breaking the rules while it is staring him in the face or within ear shot... It was hysterical! And I guess he can't handle watching that stuff with me. And for those that are keeping tabs... I haven't watched those videos that he wanted to watch together, and I am not going to bring it up otherwise. It was just really weird... I didn't even know they had programing on the local cable stations!
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Interfaith Relationship
by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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Who Makes the Rules???
by Christina77 inas i have been exploring the other posts, i have notice that there are a lot of rules in reguard to sex, especially oral sex and limited knowlege of foreplay.
is this something that is just an oral (oops!
there is that word again) tradition, or is it stated somewhere?
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Christina77
So you are saying that he really should know about these rules? or he doesn't want to know about them!
Well thanks for the info, it was a lot of help.
Christina
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Who Makes the Rules???
by Christina77 inas i have been exploring the other posts, i have notice that there are a lot of rules in reguard to sex, especially oral sex and limited knowlege of foreplay.
is this something that is just an oral (oops!
there is that word again) tradition, or is it stated somewhere?
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Christina77
As I have been exploring the other posts, I have notice that there are a lot of rules in reguard to sex, especially oral sex and limited knowlege of foreplay. Is this something that is just an Oral (oops! there is that word again) tradition, or is it stated somewhere? And what are their reasons for limiting these acts? When I first started seeing people refer to it, I asked my boyfriend about it, especially since he is doing almost everything that they don't allow (sorry but I love corrupting him). He said that he didn't know any official rules about it (other than that sex before marriage is bad) and wanted to know my sources. I am just curious, but it isn't like it is going to change anything about our relations... I am quite happy that he doesn't know about all these other rules.
Thanks again,
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by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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Christina77
I really want to thank those that have answered my posts and gave me advice as to what to expect with what I am going through. I really hate to say this, but my post has gotten way off track and has become some thing that I wished that it had not. Lately, everyone seems to be getting mad at everyone else for things that they had posted. Please if you have nothing more to honestly help my situation, please find another place to post your views towards the other people. I came here for help and I am just seeing hate that isn't even relating to me. I am looking for honest answers and everything has turned into slander against someone who has answered me. Please stop this and continue to stay on the topic as much as possible.
Thank you very much,
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ARE WE FRIENDS OR ARE WE MORE?
by Serena ini am so confused about this guy that i have been secretly talking to on the phone and secretly going to his apartment(only at nighttime).
he is a jw, ofcourse--if he wasn't i'm sure i would not have this confusion.
he flirts with me,touches me an chance he gets(on the shoulder or the knee) and i know he likes me more than friendship(or maybe he doesn't, who knows?).
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As butalbee said, take it slow. Even though you want to move onto a more involved relationship, you have to leave it up to him to make the first move... even though he has made gestures such as touching your leg, you really have let him.
With my boyfriend I didn't know he was a witness until we had been dating and very intimate for almost a year and a half. And when we were first dating I couldn't wait to "jump" him, and I don't regret it one bit that I made the first move. I had waited 6 months to meet him and we talked every day, if I didn't see him online I missed him. As to the PDA's, he has no problem with that... he is a very affectionate man. When I found out that he was a witness, that was the first thing that popped into my head... "oh my god, what if someone saw us and what would they do to him!" Last summer we were at the mall and someone that I knew from school passed us... I haven't spoken to her in a long time and she was not someone that I wanted to be around anymore so I didn't think twice about it... Well it ends up her family are witnesses and she is a real rebel (she has 3 kids outside of wedlock)so I don't think she follows the rules too much! Well anyway, she passed us, I looked at her and did't say anything, my boyfriend turned around at the same time and the look on her face was quite puzzling. He didn't even recognize her, and I didn't know that they knew eachother. Now I know why she gave us that look. But of course she was in no position to say anything. And we weren't doing anything, we were just standing in the parking lot talking, but he was holding my daughters hand at the time. That would have been great if we were and if she had let someone know... He told me (and I wasn't happy with that) if someone finds out oh well, then that is when we will deal with it. So he is waiting for someone to find out about us, by accident. I have even went with him to get a haircut, and you know how barbers and hairstylists talk when they know you... his father goes to the same place... hmmmmm.
But seriously, stay platonic unless he wants more, and he must tell you and have it out in the open. Please, you really don't want to be in the dark like I am... If you want more info on my situation I started a post about Interfaith Relationship, butalbee has one too and if you open up your browser to all posts there are a few others that I encourage you to read.
Good Luck
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ARE WE FRIENDS OR ARE WE MORE?
by Serena ini am so confused about this guy that i have been secretly talking to on the phone and secretly going to his apartment(only at nighttime).
he is a jw, ofcourse--if he wasn't i'm sure i would not have this confusion.
he flirts with me,touches me an chance he gets(on the shoulder or the knee) and i know he likes me more than friendship(or maybe he doesn't, who knows?).
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Christina77
I think they enjoy confusing us, and welcome to the club of those involved with one in some way or another. Just believe me, the confusion will never end. Confront him NOW! don't let it build up inside you, you will only get hurt more.
Good luck
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Interfaith Relationship
by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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Well today, he left to go to his sisters for 4 days... this may be what we need. I have never been away from him for more than 2 days, so this is really going to give me some time to think. I am just so stressed out because of this, it is really starting to effect our sex life. I told him last night that I can't even remember when the last time I had an orgasm and him trying more to please me makes it worse. I just can't seem to relax by knowing what his beliefs are and what will happen to him when others find out about our relationship. Yet I still want to have sex with him. And now my parents are starting to really get on my case about him. It just seems that when things get bad, everything seems to get infected by it. He is really starting to notice that more is bothering me, so hopefully he will do the right thing.
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Interfaith Relationship
by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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Christina77
And what is even weirder... he asked me to come over last night to help him write a "talk" for Thursday night??? I agreed, but he never told me what the topic was or why I needed to help him with. We ended up not getting to it, since the Yankee game ended really late and we were both too tired. Can someone explain to me what these "talks"are? and why he would be giving one? At this point I am just going with the flow, I have to accept what he is and what he has to do. I respect it, but I don't think reality has really set into what it really involves. Thanks again.
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Interfaith Relationship
by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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Well today we went out to lunch... and he said that he went to talk to his father yesterday, by that and the look in his eyes, I knew exactly what he went there to talk about, even though he didn't say it directly. His father had other things to discuss so it got put off. But at least it is finally a step in the right direction. I am glad that he got the nerve up to actually decide to face them, and hopefully he will still have the nerve to bring it up again soon. Then we will see what happens next...
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by Christina77 ini am currently involved in a relationship for the last year and a half with a man that i found out about 2 months ago is a jehovahs witness (and i am catholic).
the only reason why i found this out, was that i was pushing the issue as to why his parents do not know that i exist.
this really irritated me since he has a very close relationship with his parents.
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Christina77
Thanks Yerusalyim, you are exactly who I have been looking for and I will e-mail you soon. So, I guess I should start wearing my cucifix then and see what his reaction is??? Now on my serious side, we have discussed the fact that I have to go to precana, and that I have to get married in my church. He hasn't said anything really against that, just that some of his family won't like it... well tough! I need to fulfill my sacrements by getting married in my church... and that is the way it goes, you get married in the womans place of worship. And for the holiday thing, I will just go to my parents house, if he wants to come, he is more than welcome. I am not going to let him deny me what I have grown up with and what my daughter has grown to see as "the norm". Yet he said that those are the little things that we have to deal with... If these are the little things, I would hate to see the BIG things...