I know exactly how it feels. My inlaws were very, very anti children and expressed those views quite frequently. When their daughter became pregnant the first time, the second time and the third time, there was no joy, just disappointment that they couldn't wait until the new system to have children. My sister-in-law was so unhappy she cried all of the time about being pregnant. (Of course, this was back in the 80's when those d.c. talks were coming out about not having children.) I saw her pregnant on the third one and the only thing the in-laws could say was poor poor girl. It was rather disgusting. She, my sister in law, was only concerned about how she was going to continue to regular pioneer, this was though tears as well. Ones in the congregation were always saying how the young couples should wait until the new system to have children.
When I finally became pregnant, there was no congratulations from the in-laws. But at least they knew that we were happy about the gift from God. They certainly arn't grandparents either. They have never shown any concern for my son. When he has been sick they don't even call to check on him.
The organization has made it a sin to even think about having children. This is just another instance where they have twisted the few scriptures in the Greek where it even mentions children.
My aunt, who is way past child bearing years, hates my mother because she has children. Her and her husband were going to wait until the new system to have children. Now they are older and bitter because of the choice that was forced upon them.