Wing Commander,
I am sorry for the pain that you are experiencing and the loss of a beloved family member. I wish that someone would have shown you and your family the concern that true christians should.
The only advice that I can share with you (in regards to your baby, the same that I am trying to use myself) is that there is nothing wrong with the bible. It has a good moral code to live by. JW's have made the bible a tool for judgement and unkindness. And they have put hedges about the law. They have made it absolutley impossible to please God because of all the hoops they make you jump through.
Micah 6:8 sums it up beautifully - "He has told you, O earthling man, what is good. And what is Jehovah asking back from you but to exercise justice and to love kindness and to be modest in walking with your God?"
If we could live by this scripture and try to raise our children by it then we have done everything that we need to to please God.
Hope this might help a bit.
Loruhamah