Posts by MrsBee

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I have alot of questions

by MrsBee in

my husband is a d'fed jw and i think he is gonna try and make his way back there .

they dont believe in fate?

(long story short, we were high school sweethearts, didnt see each other since xmas 1993 even though we lived in the same city then he ran into my mother xmas 2003, while i lived in charlotte and he was here in maryland, i moved back to maryland 3 weeks later and we were married 7 months after that- i believe in fate, i dont think its far fetched to believe that god has a plan for everyone).

MrsBee

*sigh*

So the hope of having a happy marraige and keeping those fools out of my house is just wishful thinking huh?

He will NOT read anything religious if it doesnt come from them. He said to me one time, you know me, u think I would join something I didnt research thouroughly ? If he would have researched like I did, he would have NEVER stepped into another KH.. I didnt find out about how bad they were until I had another friend (he was my boyfriend about 8 years ago) he was in college and he got sucked into the International Church of Christ..Which OMG was a little worse because they made him move out of the dorms and move in with them... But JW's Iguess when you are missing something in your life..It can seem like its the right thing. He had a very rough childhood and early adulthood and his ex girlfriend kept telling him they couldnt get married until she was reinsitated and he got baptised and then not until he became a Ministers Servent or whatever its called..I dont know.. But he is a stubborn individual, and I want to allow him to do it if it makes him feel good, but if its going to destroy my marraige then i will fight like the old Mike Tyson to at least try and save my life, He keeps saying, im not going to change, just wait and see.. yeah OK, I have seen people I wasnt married to change at the drop of a pen... I will just wait, but my son WILL NOT step foot in that place..They dont even have Sunday School to teach children about God and Jesus on their level..that Disgusts me

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A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

by MrsBee in

i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

MrsBee

Thx Old Soul - I was going to at least go with him once..I just get VERY uneasy with the idea of going, those people are manipulators, he is gonna go back and get love bombed.. and me the pessimistic person that I am will be like how can ANYONE fall for this, but that Im sure has ALOT to do with my hard headedness.. I wouldnt fit in with them.. But I was gonna go for moral support for him.. I have already told him that I will support him as much as my conscience and my heart will allow, but JEEEEEEZ!!!! It just drives me Loco! I cant go right now though, because Im about to have this baby and I will tell somebody off so fast , and then they will be calling me Satan LOLOLOL.

My mother is no help, she is an extremist on the other side of "religion" she is on the give me your money GOD will bless you side of thing , LOLOL.

Another question : is it the JW way to make everyone feel non-important, or that you are not allowed to be an individual...??

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I have alot of questions

by MrsBee in

my husband is a d'fed jw and i think he is gonna try and make his way back there .

they dont believe in fate?

(long story short, we were high school sweethearts, didnt see each other since xmas 1993 even though we lived in the same city then he ran into my mother xmas 2003, while i lived in charlotte and he was here in maryland, i moved back to maryland 3 weeks later and we were married 7 months after that- i believe in fate, i dont think its far fetched to believe that god has a plan for everyone).

MrsBee

My husband is a d'fed JW and I think he is gonna try and make his way back there he has an enormous amount of guilt , which as I have read here is normal..

They Dont Believe in Fate? (long story short, we were high school sweethearts, didnt see each other since Xmas 1993 even though we lived in the same city then he ran into my mother Xmas 2003, while I lived in Charlotte and he was here in Maryland, I moved back to maryland 3 weeks later and we were married 7 months after that- I believe in fate, I dont think its far fetched to believe that GOD has a plan for everyone)

Why do they not participate in their communities?

Why is it that they portray GOD as this evil vindictive presence where if you dont do what he wants you are doomed to death, but doesnt believe that he teaches you lessons because he is a loving GOD who would never want you to hurt?

Havent they been using that the world is getting bad/worse since their inception??

I read that they think that Cigarettes have something to do with SPIRITSM..Is that True?

Is Crisis of Conscience a good book for me even though I have never been a JW?

How can he be married to me and love me as much as he does and not think about that if youre not a JW youre not going to survive Armageddon. Is he not worried about that?

He always says to me that your conscience is your bible based knowledge, do all of them think that??

Sorry about all the questions, Im worried about losing my husband..and I dont want to push or pull to hard as to push him back towards them, I love him and I just need him to know and understand that and that even though I dont accept his "religion" as long as he doesnt let them come in our marraige that we are ok..Is that possible ??

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A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

by MrsBee in

i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

MrsBee

Thanks Carol for the advice - I never want to post too much because with all the questions I have I could come off as a precocious little kid . I also read alot here trying to find answers to things before I ask questions..so typical me.. My emotions are also on edge, I have 17 days until my due date, and we get into a discussion today and he starts talking about him not going to church and showing GOD he doesnt love him.. so *sigh* he is going to go into his mode of tryin to preach to me for the next couple of days and then Ill probably end up hurting his feelings cuz Im gonna be like this. I figure he will understand one day that there aint no way Im about to be apart of that Organization...

He always says things like he isnt being a good husband because he isnt bettering his relationship with GOD as head of household.. *sigh* it literally makes me cry sometimes!!!!!! I hope to find a church that I can go to, I hope to get some hobbies outside of the house so that when the fateful time comes that he is in KH 3 days a week I can have something to do without feeling abandoned..

Does any of this make sense... *chuckle*

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To All The New People Here..........

by Legolas in

jw
friends

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((((welcome)))).

pull up a seat and sit on the floor and tell us about yourselves!!!!!

MrsBee

Hello All - Never a JW - Had plenty a friendship with people brought up in the "religion" and I am married to a man who was d'fed a few years ago..Used to go to KH when I was a teenager but stuff just wasnt cool with me, so I never went back :).. - They operate on fear and guilt and that was fishy to me

I dont know what to call myself , a christian in the making .. Im working on that, I just recently started reading the bible while I was searching for ways to discourage my husband from going back to the KH..and personally just found a love in that book, that is the best feeling in the world.. - I posted in another thread how this website has pretty much helped me keep my sanity for the past 2 months and figured I should joing and make some associates..

SO Thanks for the welcome :)

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A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

by MrsBee in

i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

MrsBee

You know what blondie I NEVER thought about that - maybe it is because during that case in Florida where that lady was taken off of life support , and I told my husband that I DO NOT want to be kept alive like that.. Just ME personally, Im a pretty proud person and I would hate to be seen like that, he said , whatever, I want you to do EVERYTHING in your power to save me if thats me and Im not gonna let them kill you honey.. So I guess I assumed he was thinking logically if that happened.. But I do need get that straight out in the open, because I will NOT let my son die or get sicker because of some Miscontrued Bible Verse :|

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A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

by MrsBee in

i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

MrsBee

Thanks all for the well wishes for the baby..I hope he comes sooner than later..Im really bored of being pregnant

Rebel8 - My husband is still in that mindstate that he wont read anything that the JW's didnt publish, its really weird thing about him, I mean I love this man with everything inside of me, and I TRY not to let my thoughts of him change because of the way I think of JW's, but sometimes Im like - I CANT BELIEVE YOU BELIEVE THIS CRAP - Makes me sad at times... Im more worried that #1 he is still angry at the way he was D'fed.. But he still believes in the teachings because of the way they made him feel at a very sad and lonely time in his life, what if he tries to go back and he doesnt get the feeling he is looking for. I told him look, u knew I was "wordly" when we got back together so you cant get mad cuz I aint ever about to be a Witness..LOLOL.. He is a VERY strong willed man PERIOD, so when he talks about the "religion" he feels as though he has researched and found to be true what JW's say, that he believes that the NWT is the only right translation of the bible (I read the NIV and we often read the bible together :) ) I mean he tells me not to get my panties in a bunch, you know, we celebrate birthdays and holidays but if he gets back in we wont and that will cause a rift in my family..like he doesnt see it as genuine concern he see's it as satan gettin in my head *snicker* that one tickles me.. Heehee..We may watch football or some other sport and a player will say, I would like to thank GOD and then he will always say, God doesnt bless you in competition, that would mean he chose you over someone else..Im like

I dont bother to argue with him about some of these dumb ass ideologies because Im not well versed enough with the bible to refute the teachings because he will show you a bible verse to back up all of his beliefs , lol. I never had anyone to talk to about this, I mean my mother is an extremist on the other side of the coin (you know the pay your preacher 100 dollars so you can be blessed by GOD 100 times type of religions) so she wouldnt have been unbiased. *sigh* it still almost makes me cry (it could be the hormones from the baby too )

La La La La - Ranting again lololololol...

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Hi im a new member!

by skinnyboy in

after several attempts to log on, im finally in!

woohoo!.

well my story goes as follows, grew up a dub, in northern england, mum, dad, and the rest of us brood, dad becomes an elder sisters pioneers, and me and me brother were regular "publishers".

MrsBee

Hey SkinnyBoy!
Im new as well...

and Congrats on using that big ol brain you were given to think for yourself

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A Story and A Little Bit of Grattitude

by MrsBee in

i never was a jw, went to kh a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be jw's.. my husband is a d'fed jw, i knew he had been a jw, but it didnt even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

well, a couple of months after we were married ( around september of last year) this guy started calling our home asking him i guess to come to the kh.

i flipped out, i started not talking to him, i was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then i went from being sad to damn mad, and i would just ignore him, because in my mind i saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that havent changed) while searching the internet trying to find things to change his mind about this religion something great happened, i started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person myself and how it was ok for me to feel how i felt, because i felt like i was bamboozled because as much as i love my husband, i would have thought differently about marriage if i knew he was going to become a witness again.

MrsBee

I never was a JW, went to KH a few times as a teenager, didnt feel comfortable with the things said, alot of my associates as an adult were brought up Witnesses, but ya know, were pretty much disowned by their families as adults because they chose not to be JW's.. My husband is a d'fed JW, I knew he had been a JW, but it didn’t even cross my mind that he would go back to them..

Well, a couple of months after we were married ( around September of Last year) This guy started calling our home asking him I guess to come to the KH. I flipped out, I started not talking to him, I was very emotionally distraught over this matter, and then I went from being sad to damn mad, and I would just ignore him, because in my mind I saw this as as something that will break up my marriage (my feelings on that haven’t changed) – While searching the internet trying to find things to “change” his mind about this “religion” something great happened, I started reading the bible and just in general started to feel better as a person “myself” and how it was OK for me to feel how I felt, because I felt like I was bamboozled because as much as I love my husband, I would have thought differently about marriage if I knew he was going to become a witness again.

BUT….. Every once in a while he talks about going to KH, he asked me if I would ever go with him, I always ask why would he want that because, I will never become a witness, he definitely still believes half of their crap (we definitely celebrate holidays round here though J ), I always believed if anything or anyone claimed to be the one and only way of anything it was dangerous. But anyway, lurking on this site for the past few months has helped me understand things, feel more secure in my stance. He and I were high school sweethearts, I joined the military and we were separated for about 10 years found each other again and got married. But he became a witness when he was with a lady in the interim and you know someone who has never had a father or a positive role model or any good friends will fall victim to love bombs and he fell victim, trying to better himself for this female and it just didn’t work out that way.

Enough of my rambling..This site has really done a lot to help me understand some things; SO THANKS!!!! :) one thing I do know is that our son (I am now 9 months and 2 weeks pregnant) will NOT be going to a kingdom hall.

Sorry SO Long!!!!

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is this Newbie initiation day?

by kid-A in

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i have spotted at least 10 newbies this week-end !!!

seems the rebel forces are growing stronger by the minute....... welcome y'all !

MrsBee

I guess so, Im newly registered

Nice to meet you all :)