I am so happy for you. Best wishes and keep looking forward.
atypical
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New year, new place, new life - ITIS and Freedomlover
by freedomlover inif you have followed our story you know we were moving out of state to start over and get away from tons of extended jw family.. we are officially moved.
hundreds of miles away from our old life.
as i write this, i feel numb, cold, and very raw.
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Help --Pre-JW Faithful and Discreet Slave??
by lynnmelo inhi, folks.
for those who may not remember my previous posts, i'm someone who has been studying with the jw's for about two years but didn't commit (i.e., get baptized) because, as i thought then, i was just too selfish and cowardly to join up with the jw's.
that's before i found this site and watched the dateline video on the child molestation problem.
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atypical
Lynn, this is a great thread and a great question I had never thought of. I will add to my arsenal of great questions for jws.
Slave1111, when will you be sacrificed? I have been praying to you, but you never answer - amen!
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atypical
Hi stillAwitness,
To answer your question, yes, it has put some strain into the marriage. My wife does not complain about going to meetings and service by herself, but she gets frustrated if I complain when I am treated badly by witnesses. She will often say that since I have made my decision (by stopping meeting attendance) then I shouldn't dwell on it or try to bring up things that I think are wrong at the hall or in the organization. I then say that it is very tough to move on when she is completely immersed in activity with the org, when I get many phone calls from the elders, when I have to work with other witnesses who are nosy, etc. I have been badmouthed very much in this area by witnesses, and don't feel I am out of line for being upset about it.
so that's pretty much the conversation we have over and over. That, and also, sometimes she comes home from the meeting upset because she gets hounded with questions about where I am, who I am associating with, etc.
On the other hand, in one way it did help our marriage for me to become inactive, because it took a huge stress out of my life. I was very unhappy feeling like I did not fit in and could not ever really speak my mind on anything. I always felt like the square peg and it really ate at me. I guess I wouldn't even mind her being so active, if I didn't constantly have to worry about the witnesses gossiping, or the elders harassing me.
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Anyone take up smoking after leaving the borg?
by AK - Jeff ini still consider it a bad habit with health concerns.
but i am honestly attracted to the idea of a pipe and cherry tobacco.. i have joked of it some with wifey, but not too serious.
maybe though just an occasional pipe or a cuban would be ok?.
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atypical
Jeff- thanks for the offer, that sounds good. Ditto for you if you ever come to Phoenix. A Cigar and a Beer, plus intelligent conversation - that would be a treat for me.
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atypical
Hi Stillawitness-
Yes, she does have a pretty good idea of how I feel, but whenever we start talking about it she shuts down. Her defense mechanism is that she thinks I am just mad so I see things in a certain way. If I start to criticize the FDS at all, I can see the change in her expression, and the conversation is over. She has no problem saying that people have different situations, and only Jehovah can judge, but she does not let herself criticize the organization itself. She is very, very involved in the congregation. I don't know why, but she has been even more active since I quit going. It kind of hurts, but I try to let it go because she has not criticized me for not going.
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Yeah, it's bookstudy night, but I am not going, which means I am bored at home while my wife is gone.
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Anyone take up smoking after leaving the borg?
by AK - Jeff ini still consider it a bad habit with health concerns.
but i am honestly attracted to the idea of a pipe and cherry tobacco.. i have joked of it some with wifey, but not too serious.
maybe though just an occasional pipe or a cuban would be ok?.
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atypical
I would love to try a good cigar. I have heard that many practicing witness brothers indulge in cigars on occasion, of course only in certain company. If I had anybody to smoke one with, I think I would jump at the chance.
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What Was I Agreeing to at my Baptism, Anyway?
by prophecor ini was so awash with emotion during the day of my being baptised, i think i would've answered yes to having a root canal.
what was it i was swearing my allegiance to on that ominous day?
are there a standard set of questions that they ask all baptismal candidates at these cermonial offerings?
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atypical
Is it because of the "apostate" uprising in the eighties that they may have changed the questions? Seems like maybe they felt they needed to crack down and have a legitimate reason for kicking people out if they decided to have their own views on anything.
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My conversation with an elder
by Dune inwell this happened to me a few weeks ago, but i chose to post it later because i'm paranoid.
anyway, i was riding in field service with an elder and our conversation turned to apostasy.
well, he turned it to apostasy because he usually dominates 99% of the conversations we have.but i digress, this is how our conversation went.
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atypical
Good job with the self-control, Dune! There is no way I could have kept from saying something. I mean, you can totally refute that crap with nothing but the new Watchtower CD-Rom!!
The last meeting I was at, during the watchtower study, the conductor mentioned that there was a time when some witnesses started thinking on their own that the end was about to happen. He said, "When was it, oh I don't know, 1975 or something" and then went on to say how some people took it upon themselves to sell their houses or do other extreme things like that. He turned it into an example of going beyond what we are told. I couldn't believe it.
After we left, I told my wife that if she ever wants to know the truth about what he said, just to look up 1975 on the Watchtower CD-Rom and see for herself.
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What were your best moments and souvenirs of 2005?
by JH infor me, 2005 was a great year.
i travelled a good distance to meet wonderful people last july at an apostofest (thank-you mumsy and gary) .
i met a wonderful person here on jwd, and she became a great friend (that's you buttlight) .
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atypical
Bought a nice, brand new house. Downside is, the witnesses in our territory are mostly poor, so that increased the gossip mill interest an hundred fold.
Other than that, not much good. I am happy for all of you who have seen positive changes in 2005.