I'm sorry things have gone this way, Ranchette. I'm sure you must have had hopes, perhaps against all hope, that this blatant hypocrisy and deceit on their part would open your mom's eyes and restore her to you. I often long to have my own son, whom I raised as a witness, restored to me as a seeing, understanding, reasoning adult. However, every time we get together, he makes comments that are so blind, so unquestioningly accepting of society drivel, that I know I cannot try to show him the truth and run the risk of having him react defensively and shun me. It is left to others to reach him; I won't try. This is the only hold that horrible religion has on me, but it remains a strong enough one to still yet reach out to control my behavior, at least regarding my son.
It isn't about who's right and who's wrong. It isn't about who can get the upper hand, who can win the most points in an argument. It isn't about emotional oneupmanship. It's about reclaiming your family members. I understand, and mourn with you.
COMF