i try not to take dating too seriously at this point in my life.
i'm only 22, still have so many things to figure out as far as my future goes and so i try to see every date i go on as simply an adventure.
a journey that will bring me closer to whoever "mr. right may be.
The artistic type who wanted to paint me. (not a canvas)..me.
lmao. I wouldn't complain if it was chocolate body paint..
Sparkplug, I just cant compete with that post! I met, got engaged and married to my hubby within 7 months. (the perils of no pre marital sex!)
Although I had had several 'Worldly' bfs, much to mymothers horror. One I remember very fondly was 6ft4 had long hair and rode a motorbike, I think I was just trying to be as rebellious as possible!!
Poppy
i'm so excited , i'm almost giddy .
wow ,ray has a lot to say, these books are thick !
which one should i start with or does it matter ?
I have Crisis of conscience and Gentile Times reconsidered, and am in the UK, if anyone wants to borrow them (and is obviously ok with sending me their address, consider that) then I'm happy to loan them to save you the expense of buying them. I have read CoC now twice, and I think it's amazing.
Poppy x
i want to turn this forum on its head for this thread.
i'm here on this forum to find as many truths as is possible relating to jwism.
i'm not really here to stick the boot in although once in a while my emotions might get the better of me.
What I have seen here is that people pretty much do the same. When they first get here their stories start small. As they get the support they need they share a bit more
I think this is so true, when i first looked here the only posts I took any notice of were ones that I could check and research for myself, I seriously doubted 'apostates' and believed much of what they said to be untrue.
Now I find comparing other peoples stories to my own experiences and realising that these things do go on, we justified and covered up and excused and presumed it was a one off
My own experience is light compared to some, but I have personally experienced abuse (physical and emotional) from my stepfather which was tape recorded by my mother, played back to the body of elders who wiped the tape saying she 'led' him into it. He swore repeatedly on the tape at me, the worst kind of words. . After 10 years of this when he finally almost killed my mother the elders took action. And he was disfellowshipped.. and subsequently reinstated. I put that down at the time to mans imperfection. And kept saying to myself.. this is not Jehovah, this is man
But this organisation claims to be gods organisation.
I have opened my mind and realised that probably a lot worse and a lot more hideous things went on. Some of the tales here are slightly unbelievable, as a witness for 22 years I realise that some of them just would not have gone on. But most people are genuine and hurt and find here other like minded ones.
If you followed another thread you would see many here do not hate the JWs, most of them are good, loving, people, and doing what they believe is right. But once you are out.. and the longer you are out you do get to see things for how ugly they actually are.
Thank you for starting this thread, I have much enjoyed reading the posts.
Poppy
one of the most unbelievable privileges that a brother could have was being a microphone handler.
elders would discuss brothers for hours and see whether or not we would allow them to mow the lawn or handle a mike.
i always felt that these brothers were doing us a favor but if they didn't get a minimum of 10 hours in per month, they were dog crap and couldn't have any privileges.
Things have gone major downhill in our area, a brother I know who no way qualifies, as his service report is less than 5 hours and he is very irregular often gets asked, because there is noone else! When I was at the meeting once the elder in charge came up to me and said angrily.. "Where is xxxxx, he is on the microphone rota"
I laughed and replied "There's a ROTA????"
Because none of the brothers ever did it when they were assigned and nobody knew whos turn it was!
But talking of privileges.. I was once told I could not pioneer because my nose is pierced..at the time I thought about it carefully, and although I could not see any SCRIPTURAL reason why this was being said, I removed my piercing. About a year later I had it redone!
Poppy
if you were to attend say a wedding or a funeral that was being held in the kingdom hall would you make an effort to be presentable according to jw standards or go as you are?
(we aren't talking about violating codes of human decency here).
would you say a woman going to a funeral should have to wear a dress or a skirt?
I would dress appropriately for the occasion, I do have a visible piercing, but then I had it when I used to attend meetings so that's not news to anyone! But I wouldn't wear a really short skirt or low cut top or anything because I feel it dissrespects their beliefs, just because I dont believe it anymore doesn't mean I dont respect those that still do.
As for funerals, it was generally accepted one didn't wear black.. how ridiculous, I always wear black to funerals, for one thing it's how I feel, and for another it shows respect to the relatives who are not Jws!
Poppy xx
we've had "what books are you reading", so let's think of another of the senses!.
right now i'm listening to a brand new released cd by opera star amelia farrugia, "joie de vivre!".
amelia was featured in the all-star lineup for last weekend's "carols in the domain" broadcast on channel seven.
Currently listening to a relatively new album by 'Rob Thomas' which I'm slowly getting into.
Interspersed with a bit of Otis Redding, which I have LONG been into..lol
Poppy xxx
maybe i'm tired but........at the risk of seeming overly critical,there have been a number of posts on this forum where the spelling and punctuation have been abysmal.i have no problem with the occasional error but the subjects here tend to be somewhat more complicated and it makes it too much of an effort if i have to keep re-reading things to figure out what the missing word was or where the sentence ends.one academic said it was no big deal as even his professors were poor spellers!well i've got news for you guys, if you don't sharpen up your grammer i'm not even going to try to give you the courtesy of figuring out what you're talking about.
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now,i'm going to have shower and go to bed and i want this thing sorted out by tomorrow.love pete.
Aww. guys, you're making me blush
Do people breathe between sentences?? Maybe that's why I keep passing out!
Ozzie.. not sure it's the air in leicestershire, think it's Retail Therapy this morning!
G'nite Wombat and thanks for a good laugh, just what I needed (just what everyone needs!)
Poppy xx
maybe i'm tired but........at the risk of seeming overly critical,there have been a number of posts on this forum where the spelling and punctuation have been abysmal.i have no problem with the occasional error but the subjects here tend to be somewhat more complicated and it makes it too much of an effort if i have to keep re-reading things to figure out what the missing word was or where the sentence ends.one academic said it was no big deal as even his professors were poor spellers!well i've got news for you guys, if you don't sharpen up your grammer i'm not even going to try to give you the courtesy of figuring out what you're talking about.
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now,i'm going to have shower and go to bed and i want this thing sorted out by tomorrow.love pete.
am not game to leave the screen because I can't find where I left off
lmao.. I'll try. I am very wordy I know.. just try me in person. But to be honest, I dont think your eyes SHOULD leave the screen in the middle of one of my posts!!
I'm offended you even thought about doing that,
In fact I may write another post topic about how offended I am people stop reading in the middle of a post!
Better?
Poppy xxx
before any of you jump all over me about how i could love any jw's let me explain and just vent here.
some of you may have ready my hubby's post about us leaving the area.
work, and wanting to fade has made this necessary.
I think it's the boots thing that does it for me.
You and me both! I always feel much sexier when my boots are on!
As for the legs identity parade, clearly my legs are world renowned and they'd spot them in an instant and think "aha, that's where Poppys boots took her"
Poppy xx
who here has become involved with another religion since leaving the borg, and what was it that drew you to it??
any 'born agains'?.
(ok mum, you may have suspected i would post this!
Not been out very long! But somehow doubt I'll be joining another religion, the 'Jesus loves you' thing still grates on me, and I dont know if that's years of conditioning or just the whole British thing! I do love the pentecostal services though with the music and dancing, I feel that's much closer to worship.
Guess I have a long road to travel before I decide if I'm settling down anywhere.
Poppy
