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  JWD members why not write a book together?

  by Qcmbr in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  one of the things that attracted me here was the links to extra special threads listed on net soup and it got me thinking.

  there have been several excellent research worthy threads here and it might be excellent to gather together all the best individual posts (perhaps have a poll?

  ) and then publish them in a book or yearly 'best of' publication.

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  I think there's a way to weave the heavy-hitting research/doctrinal type posts in with actual experiences that would make this an interesting read.
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  New Year's Resolutions

  by serendipity in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as jws, we weren't supposed to make new year's resolutions.

  i secretly did so for years, anyway.

  last year, i resolved to give less unsolicited advice.

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  As JWs, we weren't supposed to make New Year's resolutions. I secretly did so for years, anyway.
  
  Last year, I resolved to give less unsolicited advice. I've done pretty well in my personal life, but it took me longer to apply to JWD. :-)
  
  This year holds major changes for me that will shape my resolutions:
  
  1. The kiddo turns 18 in a few weeks, she'll start college and we'll redefine our roles. I hope this occurs smoothly.
  
  2. I hope to find love this year and will put effort into meeting men rather than hiding at home.
  
  3. I also want to pursue a new creative hobby. I don't know exactly what that is yet, but I plan to have fun finding it.
  
  
  
  
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  What My Parents Gave Me...

  by compound complex in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  dear friends,.

  i guess you could call me an orphan.

  i have been on my own for some time now and have become the next generation.

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  Both my parents taught us practical things. Mom taught me how to clean, cook, do laundry, sew, balance a checkbook, budget, comparison shop, etc. My dad taught me how to use some tools and minor car maintenance. They taught me to look at consequences of my actions, and consider the future. They taught me a good work ethic: to work first, then play, advice I followed long enough to get me through high school and college with good grades, and firmly established in a career. They also instilled a sense of responsibility in us as well. My mom in particular stressed the importance of loyalty to the family.
  
  They weren't real strict JWs, so we got to do some fun things like going to High school football games and dances, and JW get togethers. They had a relaxed attitude toward alcohol, allowing us to drink as teens. We didn't go in service much and didn't slavishly follow GB 'advice', because my parents firmly believed that Christians should use their conscience. This basically gave me permission to set my own goals, and be somewhat comfortable with them, even if they weren't aligned with the WTS' ideals.
  
  My brother (active JW), sister and I (not JWs) are successful adults and productive members of society. We got there with very few missteps. As a result, though I disagreed with the methods my parents used, their objectives became my parenting objectives as well.
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  Did You Overly Discipline Your Kids Because Of Being A Witness?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i knew a lot of jws that "beat" their child with the "rod" as a preferred "scriptural" form of punishment.

  corporal punishment was the norm while growing up......were you given the "rod" often?

  did you overly discipline your children??

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  My parents were sadistic before they were Jw's, however we got more beatings afterwords, with belts, ropes, bamboo switches, wooden cooking spoons, hoses and whatever was handy.
  
  As a result of the abuse, I vowed never to spank my child. I changed my mind when she was 2.5 - 4, because she would quite fearlessly ignore safety rules. A few swats on the butt were all that was needed to set her straight.
  
  I think some kids are so hard-headed that spanking may be the only way to get their attention, so I support mild spankings, as a last resort. I do think parents owe it to their kids to try several other methods of discipline. There are many books on this topic. And never underestimate the power of praise.
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  Your dream, what would it be?

  by restrangled in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i would love to sing and play the piano that was worth listening to.....whats your dream?

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  I'd love to live in a cozy cottage by the sea and paint and write and tend to my flower garden.
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  What do you like to do for vacation

  by avidbiblereader in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i love cruising.

  cruised twice in the six months, have one planned for april and another one for 12 days in the greek islands with spain, italy and turkey.

  royal carib all the way.. what do you like to do, been anywhere special or exciting?

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  Anything Coastal.
  Right now, I'd like to be sitting on a warm beach, balmy breeze caressing my skin, listening to the surf , digging my toes into the sand, sipping a pina colada, and reading, alternating with ogling. ;-)
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  Percentage of men who don't wash hands after pooing

  by *jeremiah* in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i just left my work desk to go to the rest room.

  this guy came out of the stall and clearly just finished his business and didn't wash his hands.

  i see this a lot.

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  Simon,
  <br>I'd say probably 25% of the women I work with don't wash their hands. I also have one female relative who was a fastidious housekeeper, but didn't wash her hands. Yuck!
  <br><br>This makes me think twice about eating other people's cooking.
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  Nosferatu's School of Dating - Lesson 1.2 - Attraction

  by Nosferatu in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  lesson 1.1 is here:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/126517/1.ashx.

  for those of you who are wondering when i'm going to get to the subjects of how to ask her out, or how to approach a woman, they're coming, but we need to get your mind on the right track before any of that can happen.. another poster just recently started a thread, asking what women wanted.

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  There's a lot that I would agree with here. But some of this advice is lame, based on the assumption that a man and woman want a relationship and not just a one night stand.
  
  
  She also cannot appreciate a man who sits on the sidelines waiting for her to make a move.
  
  ==> Amen!
  
  If a man wants to give her a bit of a challenge, he should give her a tasted of what he's all about, and then pull back. Perhaps come back, give her another sweet taste, and then pull back again. It's like eating that one potato chip, and having a craving for more. Women love the craving more than the full bag of potato chips. A woman will crave you more in the time you spend apart than when she's satisfying that craving.
  
  ==> Pullbacks occur naturally in most relationships. Why add more? You risk losing the woman if she's uncertain of your interest. Not all women want to live on emotional rollercoasters.
  
  
  Being fun and interesting:
  
  Any women you meet don't really give a shit about your life story.
  ==> Not true. Your actions give us a lot of insight into your character. It's not necessary to give all the details, but at least hit the main points on the first date.
  
  
  You can have more fun tossing little balls of paper at each other than telling her about formatting your computer. Then, take one of the balls of paper, put it in her hand, and tell her that it's a gift that she is to keep, and it will remind her forever of the moment that the two of you shared.
  ==> Maybe that tactic works on some 18 year olds. I would have thought that was a lame act. In general, playfulness is good. But if there is no meaningful conversation, how would the woman get to know you, your character and trustworthiness?
  
  
  There are many way to initiate kino: Touch her in the middle of her back while she goes through a doorway ahead of you, take her hand to look at her rings, play with her earrings, pull a piece of (whatever) that's caught in her hair, brush away an eyelash on her cheek, tickling, and even poking.
  
  ==> If a woman is interested in a man, she'll usually initiate contact by touching a hand or arm or whatever. I think it's safer to wait until she does that before touching her. Tickling and poking as the initial move? Give me a break-I'd probably slap the guy.
  
  putting women on a pedestal, showering her with gifts, money, and compliments. ==> Yep, I'd love this. Flattery gets a man everywhere. ;-)
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  Who was the biggest cheapskate that you knew in the Truff?

  by JK666 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my sister, what a joke!!!

  she and her tight arse husband would drive out in service in the winter, but would not use the heater in the car because they thought it would take more gas!!!

  i could go on, but what is the point!

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  My dad.
  Once, on an austerity kick, he made us use old newspaper in place of toilet paper. He changed his mind about that money-saving idea after my brother clogged the toilet and he had to clean up the mess.
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  What do women REALLY want?

  by Abandoned in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  ok, i've heard it all: sincerity, honesty, security, money, love, romance, flowers, poems, promises, and more.

  but, in my arguably limited experience, i've been shot down while doing all of these (at differnt times obviously).

  so, what do women really want?

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  NOS: Women don't need a man to be the source of their happiness, they can be quite content on their own. All you're there to do is enhance her life, and your presence alone can accomplish that.
  
  
  Finally, NOS posts something I can agree with. ;-)