I have to say I too take umbridge with your saying that all people who leave JW's do so because they cant hack the pace and would rather smoke, drink etc...
That is so so annoying to hear when you leave because you realise that the contract you entred at 14 years old, with a huge amount of encouragment/pressure from family and friends, is a crock.
At 14 i had no idea about the history of false prophecies, doctrinal flip flops and out right miss representations perpetrated by the borg. When I found out about these and decided to leave, my mother like you said it was because i just wanted to be like the other kids. I was highly insulted.
I am not disfellowshiped , yet. And you can bet that I will be extreemly upset about it if it does happen.